A top should always respect the bottom even when playing rough and demanding. How can tops calling their bottoms fucking useless cunts, making them lick their boots while beating them and spitting on them? First by taking the time to establish safe words, limits, boundaries, and learn what the bottom likes and dislikes. Second as a top the safeties and well being of the bottom is your responsibility. That means you keep track of where she is in her head space and tolerances. The top stay after until the bottom is fully recovered tending any marks the bottom may have. The top is to make sure the bottom is get what they want out of it. At all time the top should respect the bottom and the bottoms wishes even if you are pissing on them. Respect is taking time before, after and during play to make sure everything is safe, sane and consentual. Being a good top is much more work them being a bottom, a lot more.
Posted By: Ridgetucky
Ok so here is the story.
I see on my local ad board a true porn star is visiting my city.
Now this is a porn star that has done some real rough scenes (i.e., being whipped, gagged until she cries, punched in the stomach, choked, etc.).
I am not judging by any means - to each his/her own. Hey, I mean I like the kinky Sh-- after all I am Ridgetucky.
Anyway, I send my usual "Do you" email. (i.e., do you take dates with a certain type of man).
I am leaving this out of this post because I do not want to confuse the issue.
So her screener emails back "As long as you're respectful".
Ok, really I mean this chick let a guy fucking choke her, spit on her and stick her head in a toilet.
And you are asking me if I am respectful.
WTF does that mean?
RT
