I recently had my first pornstar experience. I bought a 1 month membership here and did my research before making a booking. I saw a PS with several glowing reviews. My experience didn’t mirror the ones in the reviews. She was very friendly. But had a lot of restrictions (ie: no dfk, just little pecks or no daty, she said she was very sensitive and a few other rules). According to the reviews, she provide those to others. I didn’t say anything after she told me her rules, bec.  I didn’t  want to ruin the whole meeting.

I was wondering if some pornstars make their rules base on how experience the client is. I know that it is always YMMV. But, I thought we got along great. She even asked me to come back and see her again. I’m actually considering it, since she is one of my favourite PS. Can I expect it to change? Should I just move on?

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1.  The reviews are fictional.  Just because someone writes in a review that they did something with the provider, doesn't mean they actually did.

2.  Chemistry means a lot.  Maybe she didn't like your looks (for whatever reason).  Maybe there was something about the way you smelled.  Maybe there was something about you that made her decide not to do certain things with you.

3.  People change.  I knew a provider who loved to kiss (as I do).  I saw her every time I went to Boston which was about 2-3 times a year, over several years.  Then suddenly on my next visit, she decided she had a new rule: no kissing on the mouth.  There could be multiple reasons for a change.  For example, maybe she has a new boyfriend and wants to do certain things only with him.  

4.  You may have seen her through agency X who pays her less than she gets when she works with agency Y and so may have decided to cut back on the services because she's being paid less.  

5.  Maybe you were the last date near the end of the night, and she was tired and sore and decided not to do certain things because she was too tired for them.

6.  Maybe she does certain things only when she gets to know the person better, like maybe on the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc. visit.

These are just some of the reasons.  I'm sure others can give more.  But, maybe you should look back on the visit and see if there are any subtle signals that may give you a clue.  Or maybe just try again and ask her directly when you see her.

Why don't you submit a review based on your experience with her.

every escort gets vibes whether they be good or bad from any client..when you see a pornstar..it just gets magnified..

More of the same here... the comments are spot on.

I've done things with providers, only to read their reviews afterward that say those same acts are off limits... whether it be DFK or something bigger.

And to echo what Mr.French says -- I've sadly experienced the same thing. On my third date with one of my favorite pornstars, who had previously been one of the best kissers, I went in for a kiss only to have her shove her cheek in my face. I tried again because I couldn't understand what she was doing... same response. I later deduced she had an overnight session which began right after mine. She wanted to mess herself as little as possible before that session.

I've had girls who had great oral skills the first date convert to CBJ only on the second date....  

If you have a relationship with her agent, perhaps you can inquire about these things before the next date... explain what's important to you. Some agents won't answer, some might.

Adding my two cents to what my distinguished colleagues have said above, all of which I would second, is that the lovely ladies have good days and bad days, likes and dislikes and react differently to the same situations at different times, just like all the rest of us. Unfortunately, the differences are magnified due to one's expectations and the rates many charge. Obviously, the acronym 'YMMV" applies not just between guys but between sessions for the same guy.  

And it can be total drag. I had one of my ATF's do a total change up on what she offered, finding out at a very bad time that she no longer did what I most wanted to have happen. Personally, I think that if you're the provider and you make those sort of changes, you should let the client know ahead of time, not after the donation has changed hands. But what do I know.

Well, that would certainly be nice.  But, that means she has to keep track of what each guy she sees wants and likes.  For some women, that may be possible but I've found, for most, it's simply not.  And please, no one read this as my slamming women... it's the same for guys.  Some will remember everything about every woman they've been with but most won't.  

That's why when I see someone, especially when it's a repeat, I try to find out in advance if everything I like and want is ok.  Never assume anything...

This was someone who I had crossed over that very hazy, weird, are we friends?, are we actually kinda dating? line so she knew exactly what we had done everyone one of the several times we had gotten together. I was pissed, she knew it and didn't question it. It was a punk move.

mrfrench
You're right. I should have asked about restrictions before hand. I read the reviews and just assumed. About not liking my look or smell. She asked to me to come see her again next time in in town. Do you think she wasn't sincere about it? I actually thinking of seeing her again. Like I said, she is one of my favourites to watch.

stphomer
I don't want to burn that bridge, incase I decide to see her again.

jp500
I don't have a relationship with the booker. She was my first PS, so first time I used that agency.

mrfrench  
You're right. I should have asked about restrictions before hand. I read the reviews and just assumed. About not liking my look or smell. She asked to me to come see her again next time in in town. Do you think she wasn't sincere about it? I actually thinking of seeing her again. Like I said, she is one of my favourites to watch.