Related to the recent postings, how many of you hobbyists actually have off-the-clock friendships with your providers -not just a freebie lunch or dinner before/after teh date, but the type of consistent, continuing and unsolicited communication and contact that you receive from friends?  For those of you who do, how many of those friendships continued after you ceased to be a client?


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O.K. I'm going to try my best to answer your question. As a married man it is very difficult to have that.It is also very difficult to get away to see some of the beautiful woman that I have seen recently.Basically the only time that I can get away from the house is during the day on Sunday or on a Monday night.And so far the only provider that I have seen as you call it off-the-clock was Sky Silverman (which we met about 3 weeks ago and that was concerning a mutual acquiantence and a matter that I will not discuss here). And to this day I am still amazed very grateful to Sky because I feel that she took the time and went out of her way to meet me for a cup of coffee.And yes I would very much like to meet with most of the providers that I have seen for just a cup of coffee or just to have lunch and  just to talk.I found that most of the ones that I have met are very nice sweet and sincere ladies.I wish that I could set up a day and time to meet and sit and chat with all of them there at the same time and that to me would be such an awesome and incredible experience. And one last thing I am the type of person that if I consider you a friend I would do anything that I could to help a friend out.

to answer your question.


Yes and it lasted for nearly 5 years.  Even though I moved, we kept in close touch and we managed to get together 2 or 3 times.

See my thread Re: Love and you can read what happened.

. . . I have talked to her on the phone a few times, once at length, but never actually met her.  (Her incall is a LONG way from me.)

This is my first posting, but this is a topic that I actually have some substance to respond to.  There is one provider who I never posted a review of because she is so sweet, and wanted to keep her to myself.  Looks and personality!  I know she isn't real active, and is actually getting out of the hobby.  I first saw her 6 months ago or so, and after I saw her a few times, I got the real name and number and we have been friends ever since.  We talk on the phone a couple times a week and update each other on our lives, and we go out to lunch every few weeks.  She is actually a good friend of mine now.  She'll come over and we'll rent a movie.  Sometimes we have sex, sometimes we don't.  That's just my input to the question.

It's hard for me to admit but I think I fall into this category.  Like others here I am struggling with 'feelings' that I developed for a particular lady that I met through this hobby.  I know that I enjoy her company immensely and I've convinced myself that she enjoys herself with me though at first I'm sure it was more business than anything else.

However, most of that changed after we spent several overnights together.  We were able to relax and spend time 'off the clock' that way and really get to know each other.  We've now shared more details about our 'real' lives than would be normal for a provider/client relationship.  We talk to each other just about every week staying up to date with things that are currently going on.  Why is this so special?  Well, for one we don't even live near each other.  We don't live in the same state.  Heck, we don't even live in the same country anymore (I met her while I was living abroad).  So, I know that she isn't expecting me to remain a client (at least in that sense) but we still remain close friends.  The biggest drawback is that it is rather difficult coming up with a good excuse to be able to go and see her

i had some 'friendly' experiences with the ladies, like letting one hour flow into two without any discussion or clock watching. thats just one example.  in that way, it seems like there is some degree of genuine affection between a provider and me.  i would imagine that dg27 and others have seen this as well, but do not always acknowledge it on the reviews because you don't want some joe off the street who has read the review to expect it.  its like an unstated agreement.  do any ladies agree with me???

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I have friendships with a number of the providers, and although I have only once (to date, with one luncheon date pending) spent time off the clock (lunch) with one provider, I do like to engage in email banter with most of the ladies.  I really enjoy this electronic repartee and it most definitely would be considered "off-the-clock" since the providers I email have to spend their time reading and responding to my rather frequent (and manic) emails.  Thanks ladies!! I really appreciate....

Wait a minute!  What's this?  A bill from Chrissy for "electronic counseling services rendered"?  And wait a minute! Here's another bill from Debbie!! And another from Michelle!! Oh my God!  I'm going to have to mortgage the house!!

...how much of all this is 'marketing' and how much is 'friendship'?  we may never know because debbie and chrissy are way to nice.  there may be hobbyists who chill with them 'off the clock', but if i was one of their friends, i would have the respect not to mention it on a discussion board...at least not without an alias...lol!

More often than not, us girls lead isolated lives. It's kind of hard to make friends with "the rest of the world" because of our jobs. Sometimes I'll meet a client that I'll have some chemistry with, and won't mind hanging out with him for a while after a session, just talking. Him being able to get my jokes is a big part of me deciding if he's someone I'll spend some extra time with! I always make sure to tell him that he's just got an "extra" and I won't always have the time to spend with him after a session because of another appointment.

I agree with the "unstated agreement" theory, I'd hate to have someone say in a review "she spent an extra hour with me afterwards, just talking and hanging out." Then I'd have new clients complain that they didn't "get their hour of hanging out!"

So if you're lucky enough to be someone that's worth hanging out with, don't blow it by bragging!

Sundad,

I have noticed that you are truly a great person. You really care about people and always have nothing but nice things to say. Thats awesome. I wish there were more people like you darling.

Sky

Thank you very much Sky but when I meet nice people like yourself it is not very hard to say nice things about them.You are also a great person for meeting me like you did because at the time you did not know me as the expression goes " from a hole in the wall"and to me that was incredibly very unselfish of you to take the time out of your busy day to sit and talk over a cup coffee.