Honestly I do not think there is anything wrong with that and I don't think the client is being "selfish"
It is his fantasy and I am here to accomodate him.

But don't get me wrong - I truely enjoy doing activites that I enjoy and being pleased as well.


xoxoxo,
Your Rockstar Barbie Doll
Krista Starr

I've been thinking about this same thing recently. It came to me that some enjoy being pleased and some enjoy giving pleasure.  I think it might be why some people just don't click. It's difficult to please a woman who enjoys giving pleasure more than receiving it. Once you determine who you are with enjoy it either way. This could be a cop out also when you can't get your lady going. LOL

There are providers who do not engage in mutual. You can read some reviews where that is clear,

I'm the type of person that does not enjoy the "selfish" approach. I mean I actually cannot have enjoyment in that scenario. This can be the case in either men or women. What really floats their both is seeing the other person experience pleasure.

There is such a variety as far as what a person enjoys. Would it be considered "selfish" if a man visited a domina to be humiliated? Yet that is what floats his boat.

I think your question is good, because in civie relationships it is generally considered bad form to not give your partner the type of 'attention' that pleases them. Focusing on what pleasing yourself often has a negative connotation.

My experience is that those ideas aren't carried over in that way to a provider/client encounter.


HH

my greatest pleasure is mutual pleasure.. if that works, it's a great time.. best bang for the buck in my mind

on the other hand, i've just sat back and accepted.. mostly in a ligal brothel situation where it is more the norm and walked away feeling sated if not ecstatic..

my personal preferences not withstanding, Krista has it right, as the "paying customer" it should be whatever floats your boat within boundaries..  HH is also right.. you have to read the situation and the people and if it's right, and it pleases you to do so, please the hell out of her and if it isn't get comfortable and accept her attentions...

for me are a two way street  I think giving pleasure  is just as important as recieving half the fun comes from both parties enjoying their time together as a team  and yes there are those that just need a quick fix and do not want to get too involved in the details  I call them the hit and run guys......mothing wrong with a quick fix  that is what we are here for  we aim  to please ......your  the boss and we  want you to get whatever you need at  that time in your life

If they want to be it's perfectly fine .....

.... I care FAR MORE about being the one doing the pleasing anyways.... if he cares about doing the same well that's nice  and all since I AM a woman but not particularly required for us to have a great time together.

Due to my condition now I find that my enjoyment comes from pleasing my lady friends, I try to make our time together all about her. It give me great pleasure to see her enjoying herself, if this is selfish then I am guilty.

Sexually of course its nice to meet in the middle during sex at least for me but sometimes selfish has a different meaning. Last year, I had an experience where I went on a pleasure trip from Phoenix to Las Vegas (sunday afternoon to tuesday morning) taking one of our most famous and beloved ladies. Since this was our second time traveling to Vegas, I thought it could only get better. Wow, was i wrong, first nite before dinner, she not only was taking new appointments for  two hours after our return to Phoenix, but she actually told me and took a phone call at the dinner table. I understand that if you put new photos on your website or ads that sometimes it creates a buzz but cmon. Nothing makes you feel better than spending a weekend donation, paying roundtrip airfare, Bellagio suite, concert tickets and show tickets and someone sitting across from you saying they have appintments for immediately after you return and continue the whole trip booking appointments. That was selfish!

I think it’s more enjoyably for both of us if she’s having a good time with me.

It’s not all about me but I appreciate her spending time with me and when I choose a date I want it to be as real as possible.