IF you  feel you have been wronged  by a provider or just got  upset because she no longer wanted to see you  for whatever reason {maybe she owed you money and you felt scammed or taken advantage of ect.....}or  she just did not get you......any hoo  if you then stalk ,  harasse,  send mean e-mails  slash  tires do drive byes  tell her family what she does or  her work place  it will backfire on you  we women talk  and know who is doing what to who  so somtime it's best just to let things go and move  on lesson learned..... hopefully..... and your next provider will  be more of what you are looking for if you have a past of doing these things even to ONE of us  the rest will shy  far away  no matter what your side was  no excuse for behaving like a scorned lover in this industry......

If you have used a client  by  leading  him on to believe he is special and you WORK  him into buying you  a new pair of boobs a car or a lease  on an incall  or a loan  that you end up stiffing them for  you are just as much at fault  if they turn on you ......no one likes to feel duped  and the fall-out can be  your reputation men also talk and we women hear the chatter and know who you are....a few yrs  back I met a client who I had seen only twice he had just lost his wife  and became attached to me  quickly  it was close to Christmas  and he had no where  ot go so I invited  him to my Christmas eve family and friends  party I told him to bring a $25 gift  to play a game of gift exchange .....well 2 day before he came by with a package  for me it was some very expensive jewlery  I was very uncomfortable and did not know what to do ...he said every yr  he bought his wife  this kind of gift and wanted me to have it ......after much soul seaching  I found the store he purchased the gift from and asked if it could be recredited to his acc.  she said yes so I told him I could not accept the gift  he was angry and chose not to come to the party  but did pick up the gift....months went by and he called again  and asked me to dinner  I went  and this time he brought a dozen white roses ...I said to him do you know what white roses  stand for? Friendship  it was the perfect gift  and we were able to move forward as good friends.....the point is  you know what is right and wrong  in this case He was trying to replace his wife  at Christmas  with me and it would of been wrong to play on his emotions .....I understand  times can be tough  and it might be tempting when in a moment of weakness  a  man wants to solve your problems but  please think it through and do the right thing  and if you accept help make dam sure you repay  his kindness no one wants to feel used.....

the lines are there for OUR protection, not yours, not mine, OURS.  Learned that the hard way.

Very often it is difficult to stay CLEAR, both for hobbiests and providers. I know I've made my share of mistakes in this biz and in my personal life. I try to correct the situation asap or as soon as I have the strength to do so.

The other idea I would like to throw out there is..."Don't believe everything you hear and only half of what you see"....I heard this when I was 20 yrs old and boy, it has served me well!

Hope everyone is having a great weekend!

xoxo
Gina

And my use of the newbie terms goes for both hobbyist and providers. Unfortunately the EH board has lost it's moderate, the LG, but I would recommend scrolling back pages to see how often this topic came up.  The LG used to have a saying"help I've fallen for a provider and can't get up".   She also used to use the word "compartmentalize" when discussing this topic. The simple fact is, what you described in both of your posts, are not exclusive to the escorting/hobbying world, it goes on in the civi world as well.

1 man's trash is another man's treasure!

Totally agree. You can't do something like that and not expect to ruffle someone feathers along the way.