DateCheck, Preferred411, and Room Service 2000.  You just can't mention sites where reviews are posted as they are competitors of TER.

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I'm new to this and I did read through all the newbie faqs beforehand, but I did not see this addressed. I'm a young student (24) and currently unemployed. All the information I could find on the vetting process said that providers will ask for your employer info. Is there anything other than work info (since I have none) that I can give them to reassure them that I am legitimate? I have a school ID but somehow I suspect that will not be enough. On a related note, do many providers have minimum age reqs, and if so, what is typical?

background:

I'm interested in the hobby simply because I'm tired of my v-card and would like to lose it in any way possible. I'm a smart, fairly good-looking guy but I've always looked much younger than I am which led to lots of shyness/anxiety. The end result was lots of makeout sessions over the years (always from girls that approached me) that never amounted to anything more due to my lack of confidence and experience. Eventually I sort of just gave up. A friend had the thought of seeking a provider, but now I'm thinking I may be SOL due to my age and employment status. All opinions/advice are welcome.

Thanks for reading.

than with the employment information.  There are lots of retired and self-employed hobbiests...  some providers are willing to work with the client to confirm their identity and so that the lady is comfortable in meeting you.   You will find that many providers are in your age bracket & their reluctance to see someone their own age is one of boundaries.  It is very easy to "fall for" a woman you have great sex with...  and a young woman who has chosen to be a provider does NOT want the drama of a confused client who wants to be her BF.  

While it is not exactly whar you asked, please scroll down as there is a V post just a few down and just about everything there also applies to you as well.   I especially think that you should NOT meet with a provider your own age but instead find a somewhat older...  30ish MILF type...  still hot & attractive but mature enough to teach you.  As I stated in the post below, you need not only to "get off" yourself, that's a given...  but also should want the confidence building knowledge of how to please a woman.  It may take years of experience to learn to be a great lover...  but the first step is not that big a leap.   With 1 or 2 good teachers, you may quickly surpass your more "lucky" aquaintances.

Please take to heart my comments below...  this is a secret world.  You must NEVER tell your friends, & etc...  
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there are some verification sites that may be able to help you...do a search online there are two that i am thinking of but not sure if i can post links to their sites on this site. what state do you live in?

The first reply makes sense, however, you shouldn't have any problems with providers not wanting to see you at 24. You are technically a man at that age. Although, some providers want to know the age of their clients. But, you shouldn't have a problem seeing a provider at that age.

24, student, and unemployed. You don't mind me asking, but you shouldn't be paying for an escort at your current condition. "Once your in, your in"--meaning, once you had a taste of this hobby, you'll go back for more. You can quit, but its a temptation of convenience.

About the verification issue, there are ways around it, but you have to deal with the specific verification agencies to know the exact details. Again, these verification agencies are for grown men who are employed--it cost money to be verified (most sites will charge you for verification)

My advice: if you already thought about this hobby, and your past experiences was make-out sessions, then take it to the next level besides base 2, go for base 3, then eventually to base 4 with your girlfriends. Y pay for it at your age and condition?  Anyways, if you hobby, just do it for fun and nothing else, don't get personal about it I guess. See her, don't think too much of it, use it as an experience tool for your personal life, and don't go broke on this hobby.

I can attest that P411 will verify you without employment info and you can chat with them on their page about what else they will accept. This verification will cost you and not guarantee that the lady will still want more. That being said, you can know right away newbie friendly ladies and the chances of finding one that will accept it alone are good. I think you can work the same with the other two but I do not have first hand knowledge.
You can also contact ladies directly and see if they will verify you other ways some will. Also some ladies do not use any visible form of verification at all ( not that they don't check you out) but no questions are asked during first contact. So being unemployed does not mean you can't see a provider it just may make it harder and limit some of your choices.

Well, I do have a decent "rainy-day fund" stored away and 1 or 2 appointments (which is the max I want to do) will barely make a dent.

As far as continuing with civvies, I've tried, trust me. Make-out sessions was a little misleading, as I've gotten as far as 3rd base a few times. One time a girl was literally on top of me about to stick it in (at a party) and the parents of the girl that was holding the party walked in (it was their bedroom, apparently). In another occasion, I got an hj but was too drunk to come. In another, she "really wanted to" and was taking off my clothes after dry humping for awhile (she initiated aggressively by walking over and strattling me when I was sitting down) but then started crying because apparently she was faithful to someone else. So as you can see, there's been a lot of semi-traumatic attempts that have put me off of it, and these are all more than 2 years ago.

Since then I've become more shy and less confident due to the increasing stigma attached to being a virgin as I age, and obviously the history of poor experiences. It sounds like the main concerns are falling in love/becoming addicted and the financial aspect. I'm not too worried about falling in love (too pragmatic for that) and the money shouldn't be an issue as long as I can keep it to a 2-time thing. I appreciate all the comments and will take them into consideration as I decide whether or not to proceed.

Thanks for all the help

I started when I was 19 or 20 and had no problems. Here are some options:

1. Try using an agency but since this is your first time, it is not your best option.

2. See if a verification agency like P411 or RS2000 will work with you. Explain to them your situation and maybe they can verify thru your schools student directory by calling the number listed under your name or sending a discreet email to your student email address and you can respond to it.

3. Get a VIP membership and choose a handful of well reviewed providers and email them one at a time explaining your situation. I guarantee at least one will be willing to verify you with your school info like I stated in number 2.

4. I recommend that you setup a minimum two hour session and let her know that you are a virgin. The right provider will make your time a memorable one.

Make sure you are on your best behavior from initial contact right through your appointment. The key is to be mature and grown up.

If girls are hitting on you and initiating make out sessions with you, they obviously like you and there is nothing wrong with you. Once they make a move, you take over and lead them. Just remember NO means NO and have condoms ready. You don't want to make them pregnant.

Also go to a bar, pick a girl out and go introduce yourself to her and shake her hand. Like this:

Hi...

How are you.....

My name is John.....

Your name is.....

Nice to meet you XXX...

You look really beautiful, I like your hair......

Ask her what she is drinking and offer to buy the next one.

Invite her to come seat with you and talk about shit.

Get her phone number before she leaves and call her a couple days later to set a date.

On date night have a hotel room ready.

Living near Auburn, I get quite a few college students and faculty! Yuk Yuk!  
You can be verified with school and the usual info.  P411 and Date Check are good recommendations.
It can be done, you just have to find the right lady.

Good Luck

I don't know if it's the economy causing ladies to drop this aspect of their 'rules' (there is also a chance that my interest in women has changed) but I only see the age requirement in about 1/10th of the women whose profiles/websites I look at compared to about 3 years ago.

As for the mature woman issue... to each his own. The younger providers (20-somethings, not necessarily 30-somethings) are still able to teach. It's all about finding someone that will be a good match. For the ultimate learning experience on a v-card, IMHO, nothing beats Nevada brothels (if only because you can openly speak about sexual activities, losing the v-card, and really plan things out without being too pressured to commit to a specific girl until you're ready). However, they're VERY expensive compared to the TER side of the hobby.

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