I just went to my first provider, and I suffered from performance anxiety. She tried EVERYTHING and she was gorgeous too, but no matter what, I just wouldn't "release"(I'm pretty sure I numbed her a bit).

I would like to know who here has gone through that, and if they were able to do it right the next time?

I've been doing this for a yr. now. Aside from a tremendous overnite(with someone who refused to take no for a result)i have only finished five times. If you can't afford regularity,without any results,bail. Don't let people schmooze you into 'staying the course'. Or even better "the journey is most of the enticement". That's all BS. You can JOURNEY with a civie.

I just started this about 4 months ago and my first visit was very similar to yours.  I couldn’t release either despite the lady’s efforts.  I even had difficulty maintaining an erection.  Finally I had to manual release myself and even at that it was difficult.  The next lady I saw went a lot better and I was able to complete inside of her and maintain a good erection.  I don’t think what your going through is abnormal but I’m not a sex therapist.  You can always search the Erotic Highway as I’m sure this topic has come up before

so keyed up and over excited that after a lot of attention there was no happy ending.

After a couple of times I relaxed a bit and things have been much better since.

Condoms can also cause issues.

If you click on "The Erotic Highway" listed on the let you will find this topic has been discussed there. Or you could post this there.

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It can happen.  But there is really not enough here to tell.  Did you JO the night before?  Have you been doing bareback civie and the condom is an issue?  Lots of things can effect it, not just anxiety.

You can write the Love Goddess.

list several and I'm sure other hobbyists will add to my list.  In no particular order:

Your age, physical condition, any Rx meds you are taking, what you had to eat and drink recently, how much rest (sleep) have you been getting, amount of time since you last met rosie palm, etc.

It may be performance anxiety, too much V, can't tell w/o more info.  But it also helps if you and the girl click.  I have had problems with some girls and none at all with others.  Find someone you are comfortable with.

would it have been better to cum in your shorts as she opened the door,,,LOL