No good news for you here dude.

I've been doing this for a yr. now. Aside from a tremendous overnite(with someone who refused to take no for a result)i have only finished five times. If you can't afford regularity,without any results,bail. Don't let people schmooze you into 'staying the course'. Or even better "the journey is most of the enticement". That's all BS. You can JOURNEY with a civie.

I had a similar experience. The first time I was just

so keyed up and over excited that after a lot of attention there was no happy ending.

After a couple of times I relaxed a bit and things have been much better since.

Condoms can also cause issues.

If you click on "The Erotic Highway" listed on the let you will find this topic has been discussed there. Or you could post this there.

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It can happen.  But there is really not enough here to tell.  Did you JO the night before?  Have you been doing bareback civie and the condom is an issue?  Lots of things can effect it, not just anxiety.

You can write the Love Goddess.

list several and I'm sure other hobbyists will add to my list.  In no particular order:

Your age, physical condition, any Rx meds you are taking, what you had to eat and drink recently, how much rest (sleep) have you been getting, amount of time since you last met rosie palm, etc.

It may be performance anxiety, too much V, can't tell w/o more info.  But it also helps if you and the girl click.  I have had problems with some girls and none at all with others.  Find someone you are comfortable with.