Hello TER!

If I meet a provider for the first time, would it be alright to ask her if I can use her as a reference?  Or should I meet her a few more times then ask?  Should I not ask at all?  Im confused about this.  Thanks in advance!

Different providers have differing policies on this... Some will give a reference after only seeing a person once... others will want to see him several times before adding him to a white list etc.  The reasoning behind the latter is- any guy can be on his *best* behavior ONCE, while several experiences is often more telling... The best policy is to just ask the girl herself! Good luck.

them after 1 appointment? That doesn't seem right to me.

They could at least say the guy isn't LE, but I only saw him once.

I wish those that didn't want to act as a reference would state that on their sites, but I am sure nobody would do that.

I recommend ladies to my regulars and/or give/recieve references from people that have only visited once, all the time... Many people do exactly as you decribed- and say "the guy isn't LE, but I only saw him once." As I said, you see the multiple visit thing more often with white-lists!  This is because A LARGE NUMBER of ladies will be put in harm's way if you accidentially WHITE-LIST a jerk, as opposed to giving him a reference to see just ONE lady...

My .2 cents.

Good advice Cindy!! And i always try to be prompt when returning an email or voicemail. Helps im sure. Thanks to all the gals who have helped me the same way

Thank you for taking the time to help me out, and pointing me in the right direction.