How do guys handle appointment denials?

with a grain of salt...

Never been denied. I figure it will one day happen. I would of course like to know why but there are plenty of ladies to see so I would simply move on to someone else.

What if she tells you she feels as if she isn't the provider for you as she believes you two won't "click".

That's good that you've never been denied. Chances are you won't. You have a good rep

Was told I was too young (I'm 35). Thought that was interesting...I can understand young 20's, but 35? BTW she was early 30s.  No big deal really, but I told her she should put that requirement on her website to save the hassle of people trying to book appts.

I've had everything from "Thanks for the fast response and the referral," to "Fk you whore."  

I agree. Sounds like a waste of time for you. Thanks for sharing

Just say you are not available.If I was screening and came upon some info on a guy that was not good I would not go back and tell him what I found.I am not available and that is it.
If you mention a guy has been blacklisted or that he has a bad rep IMO opening yourself up to drama.
Because now the lady or ladies who have blacklisted him are in danger and you are in the middle of some bs that has nothing to do with you.

I always take time to research a lady first. When I make initial contact (email or PM) I always do it a few days or ~week before desired appointment so she has plenty of time to fit me in. Also, I'm very polite and concise and I include as a minimum, my date-check and TER IDs/handles in my initial email.

Thank you so much for your input. It was very helpful. I took notes and I greatly appreciate it

Thanks a great way to go about it. I wish I could highlight this for the "one liners" to learn from. Thank you

on the sites I use...just shows what he has done. In fact, when I have blacklisted guys in the past for things, I did not use my real email.  

Hi jaydalee;
    I believe you've made some good points and appreciate your explaining the thought processes behind them. I especially agree about not feeling the need to tell them things like a bad rep etc. due to the drama issues. In my opinion I'd prefer being told "we aren't a good fit" instead of simply "I'm not available". The not available answer would leave me feeling like, ok so not available when I've requested but how about another time? With that reply I believe many men would continue to contact you regarding availability while the not a good fit reply tells them that you don't intend meeting with them ever.
    In all my years, I've only been turned down once. And it was by a woman I'd seen several times and always got along well with! Situation was that she became a member at P411 where she could see my okays. I had a period where I was visiting a large metro area frequently and I was sort of like a kid in the candy shop in that I received okays from a large number of women in a very short time period. The lady I'm referring to looked at my profile and wrote me saying she had no idea I was so active seeing so many different women. She didn't like it and told me she didn't care to see me again. I was like WTF? I know from the number of her reviews, etc., that she is pretty damn active herself...lol She even went so far as to suggest I get rid of a lot of the okays so as not to dissuade others from seeing me. As it had never been an issue before, I didn't follow her advice but simply wrote her back thanking her and wishing her luck. She had always been a bit flaky and I just chalked it all up to that.
    Now that I think about it, I've always been curious as to whether ladies really turned down men because of having too many vs not enough okays/references?
    Thanks again for your thoughts Jaydalee.                               Regards......RR

They have the experience that would put them in the best position to help you.  

when you get a NCNS it put stinky feeling in your gut as to why she didn't show....

Now they will just change their info and potentially hurt someone.  Jesus H Christ! Just become unavailable

To Everyone for your input! I greatly appreciate it!!

Are you really this naive? All he has to do is google his name and poof...he knows. It is a bit hard to change your real name, wouldn't you say?  

Not every douche with a computer knows how to screen himself.  And not all blacklists are available to be found by a google check. Telling them absolutely will give some the idea the change his info.  I get a real name when screening - I've also had douches come to the appointment with obvious fake ID's.  It's risk management, not risk elimination.  If NOT telling him he's blacklisted keeps even ONE out of THREE from switching up - we're all a little safer for it.  And yes, if someone gives me a reference and the guy's a nightmare - I DO let the reference know just as you do.  It's not a perfect system but again - managing the risk is important even though we can't eliminate it.

to get an appointment after being denied. It has happened to me 3-4 times.

I mean private blacklists. AGain, Don't ever tell anyone they are blacklisted.  I guess you can't expect pimps to care about anyone else but themselves though.  

There's a reason why you don't have acess to the PO Board, now isn't there.

Were you not the same person who posted in our area that Junlika does not give refs and a guy might not want to see her just because of that? Hmmm...who is worried about "other providers?"

I like that and I absolutely understand that it's disappointing.  It doesn't always end on your terms but it's best to just keep it moving and you're figuring that out so quickly is awesome.

True that

What are some reasons providers would deny them?

That I disagree with London. I never tell guys that they're blacklisted, for two reasons. First, some people are fucking batshit crazy and I'd never forgive myself if a guy retaliated against a lady somehow for blacklisting him. Second, the ones who pull blacklist-worthy shit can be very creative when it comes to creating a new "identity." The one time I told someone that I was blacklisting him, he ended up changing his "name," email, TER handle, etc and ended up emailing me a few months later trying to see me. If it weren't for the fact that he was just plain stupid (told me that we had talked before but never met, and changed his email by one number), I may have ended up seeing him, which could have put me in serious danger.  

Now I DEFINITELY agree with that last part. If a guy gets a good reference from another provider and pulls some kind of bullshit on me, damn right I'm going to tell her. That's only happened twice so far, but both times the provider in question appreciated being made aware that her good client isn't so good.