There's no way you'll be able to set something up with any reputable agency or indy without providing your real name.
Is it possible to hobby using an alias?
If yes, is it cool with providers? Will they try to verify your name by looking at your drivers license?
If not, it doesn't seem fair that providers use aliases and even blatantly switch their names several times during their career and insist that we have to expose our identities.
I think even date-check uses a government ID as part of their system.
Alternatively, can you openly use an alias with contact and appointment setup and then supply your real name just for screening? I mean say to her, "Brad isn't my real name, I just use it in the hobby."
There has to be a way around using my real name.
There's no way you'll be able to set something up with any reputable agency or indy without providing your real name.
do they check id? If so how often?
thanks
They almost always check id. I have had a couple of experiences where they didn't but only a couple.
All depends on who, what, when , Where and how.
You are a newbie.. So dont think you can get away with it.
I dont question 1 percent of my clients. Someone who has over and abundance enough of reviews...
99% get the full on screen, Which initials there real first name.
do you check id, my dear? How do you know it's real?
be safe
physically measure up to a 200+ lb. guy. They have a right to know who they are meeting for intimate time. You get to see their pics, read their reviews, etc., without screening,they have nothing more than an e-mail or phone call.
If you can't comply with their screening requirements, then move on.
At first I was a little unsure about giving out my real name, but I soon realized that this is 100% a game/business of trust. Odds are you're twice her size and its for her safety. You trust that she's not LE or some psycho ex-gf type who will make your personal life a living hell, and she trusts that you're not LE or some creep/weirdo/stalker type who may eventually lead to harm. If she's not the type who you can trust with your personal info, find a quality provider that is. In all honesty, its not like yours is the only private information she has.
Dude, she is the one letting a total stranger into her room or knocking on the door of a stranger's hotel room and wondering, EVERY TIME SHE DOES IT, for a split second if she is going to come out alive...
Don't think for one second that whatever paranoia you have about giving out your name or showing your ID compares to what providers go through every time they work.
Well, if I lose my job in this economy because of a mishap in handling personal info on the part of a provider, it's pretty much the end of my life too. My career is everything and the only thing I got.
I don't have a lawyer wife like Eliot Spitzer does to take care of me if I'm out on the sidelines.
Just see gals who don't care enough about their own safety to check out who you are.
Now, how do you feel about being with someone who is that lax about safety?
Not too good.
I understand, but how can they feel safe with just a name, unless its leverage (like, "if you don't pay and I'll send my pimp to break your car windows")
I'm all for safety, but how can they check out who I am with a name? Are all providers hooked into some sort of private investigator database where they can get my tax returns?
I appreciate your answers, but I don't think you guys are grasping the crux of my anxiety. I think once a get a few experiences under my belt I'll be okay, but the mystery of what she does with my info is what's scaring me.
If it was out in the open I'd feel better. "Hey, you work at an ad agency? That's cool. I am going to call the front desk and ask for your extension. If I get your voicemail, then you've passed the screening process."
Which is why they must know your name.
I realize that it is scary, but keep in mind that you have a half dozen or more fellow hobbyist vouching for the gal via her reviews. This is why review sites like TER are so important.
There are, in fact, sites that careful gals use to screen guys, but obviously not everyone is listed on there.
Your question about how can a gal feel safe begs the question of whether or not she is the type of provider who even cares about feeling safe.
Some do, and some don't. The latter are to be avoided at all cost.
...was the one who ripped me off.
Feel free to use an alias. I do. If they want your real name, then that's what screening clients is for.
Are you serious willywonka4u? Only once?
I thought I read somewhere that they always check id.
So can I tell them outright, "X isn't my real name. If you want my real name for screening, just ask and I'll let you know. But first let's confirm the appointment."
At least maybe I can delay giving my real name until the very last phase. That way, I can minimize the number of girls that get my info.
What I'm suggesting is like a pre-employment background check. Where you get an offer letter and start date, but all that is contingent on a successful background check.
How are they going to confirm the appointmaent before the screening? That doesn't really make sense.
...if I'm trying to book an appointment, and a provider asks for my real name, then sure, I'm going to give it. I guess I should have been more clear about that.
I don't see why this is an issue. If you're willing to undergo screening but you want her to call you Antonio instead of your real name, it shouldn't really be a problem as long as everything checks out.
If you're uncomfortable showing your ID in person why not tape off everything but your name and the photo and show it to her that way?
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