So I asked a provider about availability, she gives my some loose times and about an hour before I say, "okay let's do this." but she needs to get an in all etc so it doesn't work out that day. We discuss the following day in loose terms and that next morning say I cannot make it. A few days pass and I ask if she is available on the following days, radio silence.

Does difficulty scheduling, after you've been screened, get you ignored from there on out? Can you get out from under that status? I really do want to see her, my schedule has been a bit hectic as of late.

I think I'm in need of reading the etiquette guide once again.

If you are a newbie and don't have references or haven't reviewed girls and she thinks you are a just a time-waster, she's probably not too interested.  

These ladies have people that are interested in seeing them and that are not interested in wasting their time.

Here's one suggestion - see a few girls, get some references, get a couple reviews under your belt, and then when she checks you out to verify she will see that and will probably be more likely to respond.

Try not to sched time with a girl until you are fairly certain you can make the "date" particularly true if you are new to this without references or reviews.

Good luck & have fun!!

My schedule and location are not flexible so it is difficult to set up an appointment (it depends how flexible the provider is). When a provider goes "radio silence" (not get back to me on my last email), I stop trying right away. I assume she knows what's she doing and if she feels it's not going to happen and decide not to waste her time then there's no sense for me to keep on trying. On the other hand, I don't give up until she does. The longest effort in setting up an appoint for me is over 2 1/2 months. Good thing about this hobby is you can find another attractive lady right away and keep trying until you get your technique right.

If she is giving you "radio silence" then find another provider.

Don't give deposits. You would be asking to get ripped off.

I don't mind the deposit and am ready to send it. When I ask how, that's when things come to a stop. How do you usually receive your deposit? I'll PM you, but I think others (hobbyists and providers alike) might want to learn as well.

I would totally agree with you if she's not reviewed. Do you think a well reviewed provider will take the one time deposit instead of a potential good client and a ruined rep?

You are partially right, as there are a lot of snakes in this world looking to take advantage. However, I have a few times asked after some serious time wasting from the same individual ie; over 50 e-mails, 10 last minute cancellations, and a dreaded NCNS leaving me eating the cost of the room.

You can buy the MoneyPaks lots of places - WalMart, CVS, 7-11, etc.  When you buy the MoneyPak, you pay the store the amount that you want put on the MoneyPak, plus $4.95 (the cost of the MoneyPak).  Then you give the girl the MoneyPak code that is under the scratch-off silver on the back of the card.  She can then take that code and add money to a debit card with it.

I hope that makes sense...

Good faith.  Whether that means paying her more or giving her a deposit upfront...those are all things you can do in order to demonstrate that you are not wasting her time.

Girls get so many tirekickers every day that it's frustrating to some/many when they keep getting cancellations.

How about planning ahead? Asking a provider to meet an hour before you want to meet is not good taste unless she's a low end provider. A good provider would like some notice, I require a 24hour minimum notice. Also, don't make a date that you have any chance of cancelling, ESPECIALLY if you are a newbie with no reviews or references. The radio silence you are hearing is because you have made her put you in the "time waster" category.

There are well reviewed providers who have taken deposits and ran with them.

50 emails and TEN cancellations??? If I were a provider, I'd give a guy 2 chances and then he's done.

she's got your money & done nothing.  You can't make a contract for an illegal act...  

What you can do is secure the room once she confirms so there is no risk for her.  Early on, I met the lady at the coffee shop next door & she then got the room, phoned me back with the number.  Another time, I followed her to the hotel.  Yet another, we met as above & she drove with me to her appt.  

The deposit exception, should be after a few successful short meetings...  where one wants her to clear her calandar for an overnight, weekend or travel where she must buy a ticket.  
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Now I am wiser, and would not tolerate such behaviors. Collecting a deposit from a "time waster" doesn't do much, anyway. Some of them will think that the deposit lasts forever, and the cycle of " I might want to see you on Friday at 4, but if something else comes along take it." will continue.