been married for 19 years...been hobbying for 16 years...without my hobby, i would not have a happy marriage...we were not put on this mortal coil for monogamy so the hobby has given me the ability to pursue strange without the guilt and without the concern of having someone disrupt my happy private life

the reason for the preamble is that i recently nearly fucked myself up royally...a fellow hobbyist was telling me about the ease of getting laid on one of those free dating sites...of course i doubted he expertise but was soon to discover that the site is loaded with horny divorced mothers just looking for some warmth and companionship...when i realized that they do nothing to verify who you are(providers should offer courses to these women)... i played on the site for a bit...got a prepaid cell phone and i was off to the races...i live in the city so i focused on the long island moms...after getting my sea legs, i found that i was able to bed them on the first meeting(this is with enough prep from phone calls and texts)...the sex was fantastic and i did not ever plan on returning to the scene of the crime...of course, i eventually met a fantastic woman....i began to see her weekly and developed some feelings for her...i almost told her the truth...she soon came to the conclusion that i was married because our time together was exclusively at her home or at hotels...when confronted, of course i lied and never saw her again...i eventually wrote her an apologetic email and received a scathing reply...i have since put these pursuits on the back burner

ok ok ok...i probably am morally bankrupt and you probably will analyze my story and conclude that i am unhappy in my marriage...well, i love my wife, my children and i look forward to growing old with this woman...the problem is the same problem i have had since the moment i tasted vagina...i have never been satisfied with just one....in maintaining my secret hobby, i have been able to find my satisfaction and still come home to fuck the shit out of my wife...

the moral of this story is that if you are looking for something outside of your marriage, the hobby is the place to play

Interesting story. When we are with escorts, there may or may not be a 'personal connection' but you are paying for a fantasy--even if the escort develops feelings for you, she is a professional and will not cross that line, at least almost never. You are not morally bankrupt, but you crossed the 'line' and luckily crossed back in time. On the other hand, interesting tidbit about the horny housewives...

curious...what dating site did you have the most success with?

It's one of the things that baffles me about men.  They are messing with the emotions of women who are looking for something genuine.  

I have much more respect for hobbyists.

lick the calloused soles of an old man's feet, scrape his scrotum with their teeth, then thrust their tongues DEEP into his rectum?  

Or is that just something restricted to hobbying?

i am not sure if i am allowed to post it...it would definitely sound like shilling a website...i will tell you again that it is a free site...i posted a photo that is not me but has many of my features...once the texting started, you would be surprised how quickly the sex talk gets ramped up...and they start sending very revealing photos...these divorced moms run the gamut from damaged beauty queens to overfed house frau's...but the themes are always consistent...find a beautiful single woman and you will also find a guy tired of fucking her

i have calmed down on this covert operation because my conscience caught up to me a bit

god bless prostitution!!!!

be dumped on the wife at home. Nothing wrong with giving a divorced house wife some fun. If she doesn't know of your wife and feeling develop then you need to get back to the other side of the line.

They jump into bed because they are afraid that by taking time to get to know their partner they will loose him to "competition".

Seriously, these days escorts know more about guys they have sex with then civvies.

I have friends who are on various dating sites and when I ask them if they know last name of a guy they  met, where he works, where he lives, etc - they got no freaking clue!

Lina

google free dating sites....i use one of the first 10 listed

try "lots of sea animals"

that's the one

I am married, and like you I too really love my wife. However she isn't really into my foot fetish. I have been in contact with a well reviewed provider in my area who is willing to help me out. I really want to make the appointment but I am worried if I am going to feel guilt afterwards. Do you have any advice on what to do? I would really like to do this.