No, there are exactly zero providers that are missing your point. You continue to be salty about screening, we as providers are not.  I would never encourage or discourage a client from sending screening information and neither should you. The only thing I have said that should never be done is try to negotiate screening. If a provider asks more than you are comfortable sending find a new provider.  Everyone should do all of the research they need and make the best decisions for THEM. You have already posted that you are able to find many providers that are willing to see you with the information you are comfortable providing, as to why you feel the need to continue to post about this is the actual unknown. You are a grown man in your fifties. You don't need anyone to back up your life decisions. Move on. You do you.

Scarlet - It's really unfortunately that you feel you need to rebut everything that is written.  I was not expressing any resistance to safety approaches providers take, nor was I suggesting they should be negotiated. Rather, I was encouraging   clients to resits the urge to take the unnecessary risk.

Your snarky responses don't make you more appealing.....  

Hi all,

 
I’ve been following this thread with interest because it’s a nuanced topic and I think some of the friction comes down to the fact that safety and screening mean different things to different people. Also, I was curious how it would play out.  

 
I’m trying to approach this conversation with more curiosity and less combustion, because ultimately, mutual respect is the only way any of this functions.

 
Obremt, I actually understand what you were trying to say. You weren’t necessarily telling men not to screen, but rather to be thoughtful about what they share. *That said*, your phrasing does come across as resistance to screening, because for most of us, screening is the foundation of safety. Our processes aren’t about collecting unnecessary personal details; they’re about protecting both parties from unnecessary risk.

 
The reality is that everyone’s comfort zone looks different. Clients should only share what feels right for them individually, and providers have every right to hold the boundaries that keep them safe. Where this goes sideways is when one person’s comfort level gets presented as universal truth (which is what happened here).  

 
At the end of the day, this community only works if we can hold two truths at once: safety is non-negotiable, and privacy matters to each man’s comfort level. But that individual comfort level isn’t a collective standard. And let’s be honest, many clients who say they’d “never share personal info” eventually do; they’re just selective about who earns that trust (peers over my glasses).  

 
Paige