: Minnesota Discussion : None of us ever do anything selflessly.

DrTabulaRasa 3 Reviews 812 reads

posted 13 years ago

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There are millions or reasons to join the hobby. I have been watching the boards for a couple years and have noticed two that stick out rather indirectly. Catharsis, which is a release or a renewal of self. This is rather selfish reason but really useful since many encounters are short and getting the most bang for your buck. Therapeutic, which is a treatment or healing of something. I see this as being less selfish and likely involves spilling something to the hobbyist or provider. To get something and/or to give something.

Each of these seem to be at the core of most of the million reasons to join the hobby. Whether it is for the money, attention, to get your rocks off, or to fulfill fantasies, each of these has an underlying the reason to join. Not every person out there can handle becoming a provider or a hobbyist. The hobby is built on secrets and disclosure, which helps build the community at large. But almost all of us are here under our own power, so there has to be a reason.

These are just things that I have noticed. Take it or leave it.

anmename 336 reads

posted 13 years ago

2 / 12

Very well said Doc

The greatest conflicts, both internally with one's self, and within the community, occur when the two collide

bradley2you 370 reads

posted 13 years ago

3 / 12

Overcast days do that to people...

....they tend to bring out thoughts of the obvious. Well thought out and nicely said, but, obvious.

There are multiple reasons someone single does this. More reasons than most think of why married men do this (which is the category I fall into). I don't believe I can narrow them down to only a few or care to judge why. Let alone, why a provider may do what they do. I'm just very thankful they do.

Thank you Victoria. Thank you Trinity. Thank you Cora. Thank you Elan. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. For no other reason than....You'll just have to find your own reason to thank them, now, won't you.

Nago8 4 Reviews 377 reads

posted 13 years ago

4 / 12

you certainly are are a wordy hobbiest

You pay $300 bucks for a catharsis? I know where you can get an epiphany for free. BTW read the definitive explanation of tragedy in Aristotle's "poetics" and it doesn't mention release, self renewal or payin for it. And yes I did take philosophy 101 in college and I hated it.

looking64 24 Reviews 356 reads

posted 13 years ago

5 / 12

If anyone can have a therapeutic reason for...

doing what we are doing it's me. (My reasons are not for the rest of the world), and if I can validate seeing a provider because of a certain situation, then so be it. But, when it comes down to it, I enjoy being with these beautiful women. Therapeutic? Call it what you will. Narcissistic? Catharsis?....most certainly. More selfish, less selfish... still selfish.

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MsChayse 340 reads

posted 13 years ago

6 / 12

None of us ever do anything selflessly.

There has to be a payoff or we as humans simply won't do it. The payoff may be as simple as laying to rest at night feeling good that we accomplished something but it still qualifies as a reward that nurtures a need or desire. There is nothing wrong with that BTW.

Awesome post Doc. Thank you!

DrTabulaRasa 3 Reviews 436 reads

posted 13 years ago

7 / 12

The response I was looking for.... Thank You

I have never taken a philosophy course. I am more of a Freud man. I used more of his definition in this case. Your answer gave me what I was looking for. I wanted a different stance and well you were loud and somewhat clear.
Thank You

anmename 290 reads

posted 13 years ago

8 / 12

And well said Leann! (e)

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jv38 12 Reviews 324 reads

posted 13 years ago

9 / 12

For me it's pure entertainment

I've met a few gals now and love it!

For me it's like buying a front row seat for some 1-on-1 time with a Rock Star! All I want to do it escape reality for a while and go home happy as a clam and smelling like a fish

Especially on my moustache.

narcisserotoid 24 Reviews 298 reads

posted 13 years ago

10 / 12

i lean towards the therapeutic

nurturing end of the spectrum.

vorlon 119 Reviews 309 reads

posted 13 years ago

11 / 12

I would say true but not the whole truth

Most of the time it is not that I feel the need for either one but I would simply want to revel in the charms and company of a woman whose charms and company I like.

Sailana 373 reads

posted 13 years ago

12 / 12

Why? Just read a guy's reviews.

They'll tell you everything you need to know about why someone's in the hobby.