This is a serious question and would really like to know your reason/logic for your action

I wouldn't be able to if attached.  (Unless it's an open/swinger type relationship)

Although I haven't participated in over a year, I was quite active for several months prior.  I was, and still am married, and I would say happily.  My wife is beautiful and sex has never been an issue.  I took the plunge on a trip once, and became hooked.  I think the "excitement" and clandestine nature of it was an adrenaline rush.  
I'm contemplating getting back into it.

I am married. Its funny,  I've never cheated on anyone in my past but I have with my wife. I'm in a very unhappy marrage... I can't remember the last time we had sex and when we do have sex she is in so much pain, for what reason we are unsure, that I don't/can't finish. She doesn't believe in using her hand or bj's so I'm always left hangin. Im not big, average at best, but I just can't force her to let me finish....I know, i k m ow theres always the butt, but I know she wouldn't and I'm not sure if I am into the butt. I really don't feel guilty about it, some times I feel I should, but I don't.  
I started the hobby because I was looking to just get a message by a beautiful naked women. I was never expecting anything from her, I just wanted the attention, the touching and the affection.  
I wanted to feel wanted, needed and to be loved, even if its just for an hour or two.  
Hope that answers your question.  

Except for the "butt" part.  

My 2nd marriage and I'm not in love.... don't think I ever was.  Ironically, my first wife and I still truly love one another.... ironic.

I partake while traveling for work in massages that end with a handjob.   The reason is that it feels good and I love beautiful women.

I am married and I got into this because my wife suffers from dementia and our emotional, mental, and physical relationship has slowly diminished to a non-existent state. While she and I share the same spaces she is not the woman I married.
I have had the opportunity to meet two wonderful providers.
One I definitely felt the chemistry. Sadly because of my ever changing schedule I let that provider down way too many times, and for that I have no one to blame but myself.
The second one is a great woman and is fun to be with but I don't feel the same chemistry.
What am I looking for? Sex, yes. Emotional connection, sure. Drama, no! Regularity, yes

This question smacks ever so slightly of righteousness  ... never mind.

Yes, very similar. My wife is a saint. And I do love her. After begging for it for 39 years, I just decided to be happy w/a hand job. The intrigue, excitement of partaking in something only known by me, the satisfaction, companionship and yes the sex provides a facet to life that is too short not to enjoy the variety of the experience.  

My wife and I are a good team in most respects other than sex. She faked her interest in a lot of things when we were dating, but ceased the charade after we had kids. My dissatisfaction with our sex life eventually became a major source of conflict, and my wife would smile, nod, promise to think about it and nothing would change.  I finally reached a decision point. Do I divorce her and mess up my kids, do nothing and grow to hate her, or seek satisfaction elsewhere and not tell her.  Hobbying seemed the least bad option.  Since I started, she has commented many times on how much better our marriage has gotten. The guilt doesn't twist as deep as I had expected.  

And the purpose of this serious question is?  You find it easier to stalk single providers

Your story is common and one that I love.   I call my sessions "vitamin 'x'"  whether a single dose or multiple doses to simply nourish this aspect of oneself is healthy and a way to keep both physically and emotionally healthy when friendship, connection, knowing, sharing, companionship is arrived to for me it is no longer a matter of fidelity but a way of nourishing and being nourished.

Yes!! It's gotten better because YOU are a happier MAN, because whoever you are seeing is fabulous and allowing you to be your natural, sexual self.  

I did not realize stalkers had a preference of relationship status. How fascinating.

So part one of this thread was: Raise your hand if you're married ... blah, blah, blah.

I think I must have written this post. The only difference is 36 years instead of 39. I finally told her I wasn't going to beg ever again and on that facet I've kept my word. I would never divorce her simply due to the sex and she's still a terrific wife and mother, but I will get my satisfaction one way or another.

Ditto. I never knew my wife had a twin....I feel your pain and have all of that in common.

Ditto, again.

I will tell you another thing.   The things I have learned about massage and sensual touch I have used extensively at home to help reignite action with my wife.

Thanks everyone for your honest replies.

so impressed Hotchaa- there can always be a beginning no matter how much time has passed...kudo's to you! J.xxox

My wife is attractive, smart, funny, makes a lot of money, and loves me. We do almost everything together!  I love her as well but I am obsessed with fucking other women. I have no legitimate excuses for spending tons of money, time, and effort to partake in this hobby.