mature and intelligent women first and foremost.   A nice physical appearance is always a plus, but I like women whom I can talk with, connect with, and feel I have something in common with.  That's what's happening as I get older.  It's more about sensuality and the atmosphere of the entire experience.  Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and that is what I find beautiful.

Years ago, "wham, bam, thank you ma'am" might have been me (had I been in the hobby), but these days I want to feel like the woman is there to spend that time with me and that I am not just a number and a dollar sign (even though I am).   So I like to read honest and objective reviews that tell me how women relate to clients.  

Though maturity often comes with age, age does not equal maturity.  I've been with women in their 20's who are mature for their age, and I have been with older women who lack maturity.

Hope this makes sense and helps.  Although it is only one man's perspective.

Physical appearance gets my attention, but personality, intellect, review reputation and my hunch make me wanna see you. In the film Wall Street, at their first meeting, Gordon Gekko said to Bud Fox something like "Pal, you had what it takes to get in here. Do you have what it takes to stay?"

In the "old days" many times we didn't even have a picture, just a text ad in a paper.  We took our chances.  Then with the internet came ways for the women to post pictures and of course we men, being the visual creatures we are, enjoy looking at the pictures.  Then came stolen and fake pictures, but that's another thread.  

I enjoy looking at pictures to see the physical, but the intellect and personality are primary drivers in my search.  I've known DDG women who were almost devoid of charm.  I have had dates with some women on this board that I wanted to see primarily because of our board interaction, although sadly those days seem to be gone on the MN board.

Looks are important, I'm a man after all, but a keen intellect and a great personality are also very important factors in my search.

Sometimes we're lucky to find a woman who is both gorgeous, smart and sexy as could be.  Yeah, I've met a few exceptional women like that right here on TER.

The picture on a BP add is important because it will draw initial attention.  After that as relationship experts tell us: good looks will get you five minutes.  In this world it could be less that that.  I do start with photos but from there I read the add.  Like other marketing people many providers kill their chances within the add.  everyone is different but for me there are a few deal killers.  One is "don't waist my time" another is a photo of a beautiful young lade brandishing the F you finger in the photo.  Raw language "come taste my tight wet..bla bla."  it shows a lack of class for most men.  15 min. appointments or "car dates" or available 24/7 is enough reason for me to move on.  

The most obvious mistakes providers make is they offer no information on location.  I do not need your address but before I would call I need to know if I could get there within a reasonable time.  If I have no idea where you are I am not likely to call, I will find a add where I know the answer.

Statements like 'do not call me until you are ready to show up'.  If you are looking for an unemployed guy with no responsibilities that may work, for a executive or business owner we would need to schedule time to come see you.  If I call and get no answer I will move on.  

Comments like my pic's are 10,000% me or this is not an offer for illegal services just shows that you don't understand the LE world and math was not your strongest subject.

Many of the ladies I have met are concerned that a mention of "references required" or screening is required will scare customers away.  That may be true but for me the opposite is true; if you screen and require references that tells me you understand the real world and your intent is protect both of us.

If we get through all of that then I go to TER for reviews.  One final thought: Ladies if you have 5 or 6 good reviews and one dickhead that you just want to throw out gives you a bad review, most of us know to look past that so don't worry about it.  

we read these pretty quickly so put the information I will need in the add.  a photo of your face is not needed because of risk to you but please do not use 6 full body photos of someone who does not even resemble you.  Let us know where you are, i.e. SW sub or north MPLS.  LMK if you are outcall or incall.  $ for time is helpful and if possible mention the type of incall.  i.e. private home or apt, hotel near airport etc...

All of that just for a first meeting  after we meet is all about the personal connection.  People go where they are welcome and they come back where they are well treated.

Looks are necessary to get me in the door.  But if I go and her personality doesn't mesh with mine, I won't be back.  On the other hand, if they mesh well then I may well come back often.

The physique is most important, then face, then ethnicity, then personality, then reviews. There are many well reviewed providers I would not see because their appearance does not do it for me. Wonderful conversation can be had over coffee for longer periods of time at a small fraction of the cost.

I prefer women of color (with a few exceptions), so the picture is definitely the big one.  Then, I will pay some attention to the ad.  Cheyen covered this pretty thoroughly, but he left out "2 girl special."  There are just some ways of wording the ads that make me suspicious about the possibility of pimps.  If the ad passes the test, I google the phone number to see what pops up.  The best outcome, of course, is if the lady is reviewed on TER.  If the reviews sound good, and it sounds like she's the type who may possibly click with me, I initiate contact.  How long it takes her to respond, how she responds, and what she wants to know about me are all taken into consideration.  Finally, the first date is where I really get to test the waters.  If there's chemistry, and she's intelligent, then I'll be back.  No chemistry, or any kind of flakiness, and she'll never see me again.

... if she demonstrates during our session that we seem to have chemistry, is cool, funny, maybe playful and/or sassy, and is just plain fun to be with, according to my modified TER scoring system. A woman with a neat personality is far more attractive than an absolute DDG woman who seems to not really be into the session. I do read the reviews of a Provider before asking her for a date and I'm looking for cues on her personality and enthusiasm; just a normal part of my decision process. I also tend to be attracted to women who participate on local boards, either discussion or ad boards, as these are ladies who I feel have demonstrated a peek into their personality and have piqued my interest.  

they have both which can make you very popular. Some want to try the ones with up and down reviews ymmv to see how they do with her. Who knows with us guys. Dont forget age. Some just want the young, some want ones with a little more time

Honestly, I am attracted to a certain body type, but repeat visits from me would have to be based on chemistry. I am curious: Which is more important to you, Chloe---a man's personality or physical attraction?

Personality vs Physical Attraction

It really comes down to advertising.

Where does a guy FIND his date?

If a guy uses TER exclusively then does Physical Attraction really play a part?  How can it?   TER does not have photos available UNTIL the lady gets the guy to OPEN her ad and WHAT then gets the guy to open that ad?  PERSONALITY in advertising!

If websites that offer photo thumbnails are the hunting grounds, then a GOOD quality photo probably catches the eye!  Or it may still be the personality of the ad title that catches the eye.

Crude humor:

You have to get the guy to "Click it" before you get him to "Stick it"!

As one of your former clients you are all good. You are beautiful and a really fun girl to be around.  I plan on seeing you again soon.