If a provider wants a review, she should reciprocate with a WL.

Like your white lists mean anything, lol.

How many times must a client see a provider before she decides to whitelist him/her?

I think it's something girls should take seriously because there are many that will use that as a primary screening tool.   We've all had clients that were good once or twice then went screwy on us!
Whitelist to me means more than "he's safe", it means he is respectful of time, discretion, boundaries, doesn't ask for unprotected sex or pull any other shenanigans!

BB

I would hope that providers only Whitelist clients that they have seen AT LEAST twice.  The Whitelist should be more than, "Yeah I saw him, this guy is okay."  If it was that, then I think all of us gals would have a lot of members Whitelisted who might not deserve it.

The Whitelist should be reserved for clients who have presented themselves in a positive manner on several occasions, as Brennan mentioned before.   It should be a list of members that we as providers know rather well and would have no problem vouching for or recommending to another provider.  

For me, I Whitelist members that I have seen several times before and I can not only vouch for their physical behavior during an appointment but for their personality as well (which in my case means that I like you).

Its funny, but I just realized that those clients that I feel that way about apparently have no interest in being Whitelisted.  (and if you are lurking around reading this comment - as I know a couple of you are- and you are one of those clients, you don't want to be Whitelisted, right?)

I also feel like guys should not ask to be Whitelisted after just one visit.   Instead of outrightly asking to be Whitelisted I think it would be in better taste for him to say, "I would appreciate you considering me for your Whitelist in the future."  Asking the provider to Whitelist you at the end of your first appointment puts her in a tricky spot where she might have to reject you.  I'm sure you guys don't want to be rejected and that could potentially sour what might have otherwise been a great first meeting.  

I remember a provider once mentioning, on this very board, that anyone can be on their best behavior one time.  She was not talking about this same subject but I think it holds true in this discussion as well.  

The bottom line is, I want to make sure that if my provider friend saw that I Whitelisted you and she decided to see you based on that recommendation alone, that I am doing right by her and sending her a gentleman and not someone who will do anything at all negative or disrespectful.  Ultimately, if that encounter goes bad, its my fault.  

Just remember boys and girls, your signature is on EVERYTHING you do...words to live by.

No shenanigans!!!! What fun is that!  HA!

Dear Brennan, I'm a relatively new hobbyist.  My reason for posting this question was that on several occasions when I asked to see a provider she asked me for references or if some other provider had whitelisted me.  How does one get into the club if one has no references, and is not whitelisted?  It is a catch 22.  To see a provider you must have references/whitelisted, and to be whitelisted/references, you must have seen providers.  What a conundrum!

Sharing is caring ladies this community is to help promote safety, so if the guy is cool why not let other's know?

Strange to me that provider's would have to see a gentlemen several times to whitelist him.....

HEAR! HEAR!!

Five reasons I can't get whitelisted!

I agree with u    if I had a nice time with the person and they were respectful and everything went smoothly  and we of course had fun then I'd rather have him as a regular    building regulars is important to me....   but most of the time if i see that the person has reviewed me, then i will add them to the whitelist afterwards.  

While I do not Whitelist clients after just one date, I do happily provide a reference after our first date.    For me, the Whitelist is a reward for those with consistent good behavior.  

I'm glad we are at least all sharing out opinions with each other.   Its good to do that.

Whitelists are overrated , there are many  alternative and more effective means of screenings. I mostly see K-girls whose bookers require references from other K-girls featured  CV to approve somebody for the "can see" list.

I would much rather have the ladies give me an ok on P411 or Datecheck before getting a whitelisting. For the most part that is where the real screening is done. Thats from what I have seen.

Thank you for the input Jezebel!  I find all of this discussion quite intriguing and interesting.    I like your attitude toward whitelisting and providing references.

I just don't feel comfortable being on ten different websites for screening purposes.  The fewer databases you are in, the better off you are.  I guess, I will just have to build up my references slowly, but surely.  

I have never used either of those and have not had a problem getting screened using referals and white-listing.