I think it's something girls should take seriously because there are many that will use that as a primary screening tool.   We've all had clients that were good once or twice then went screwy on us!
Whitelist to me means more than "he's safe", it means he is respectful of time, discretion, boundaries, doesn't ask for unprotected sex or pull any other shenanigans!

BB

I would hope that providers only Whitelist clients that they have seen AT LEAST twice.  The Whitelist should be more than, "Yeah I saw him, this guy is okay."  If it was that, then I think all of us gals would have a lot of members Whitelisted who might not deserve it.

The Whitelist should be reserved for clients who have presented themselves in a positive manner on several occasions, as Brennan mentioned before.   It should be a list of members that we as providers know rather well and would have no problem vouching for or recommending to another provider.  

For me, I Whitelist members that I have seen several times before and I can not only vouch for their physical behavior during an appointment but for their personality as well (which in my case means that I like you).

Its funny, but I just realized that those clients that I feel that way about apparently have no interest in being Whitelisted.  (and if you are lurking around reading this comment - as I know a couple of you are- and you are one of those clients, you don't want to be Whitelisted, right?)

I also feel like guys should not ask to be Whitelisted after just one visit.   Instead of outrightly asking to be Whitelisted I think it would be in better taste for him to say, "I would appreciate you considering me for your Whitelist in the future."  Asking the provider to Whitelist you at the end of your first appointment puts her in a tricky spot where she might have to reject you.  I'm sure you guys don't want to be rejected and that could potentially sour what might have otherwise been a great first meeting.  

I remember a provider once mentioning, on this very board, that anyone can be on their best behavior one time.  She was not talking about this same subject but I think it holds true in this discussion as well.  

The bottom line is, I want to make sure that if my provider friend saw that I Whitelisted you and she decided to see you based on that recommendation alone, that I am doing right by her and sending her a gentleman and not someone who will do anything at all negative or disrespectful.  Ultimately, if that encounter goes bad, its my fault.  

Just remember boys and girls, your signature is on EVERYTHING you do...words to live by.

If a provider wants a review, she should reciprocate with a WL.

If Your A True Gent I Will Whitelist You After 1 Visit!

Sharing is caring ladies this community is to help promote safety, so if the guy is cool why not let other's know?

Strange to me that provider's would have to see a gentlemen several times to whitelist him.....

While I do not Whitelist clients after just one date, I do happily provide a reference after our first date.    For me, the Whitelist is a reward for those with consistent good behavior.  

I'm glad we are at least all sharing out opinions with each other.   Its good to do that.