Means nothing without naming her.

...even an intimate item, does not seem to equal discussing sex for money.

So I set up an outcall session with a provider who is relatively new to the hobby.  She has maybe one or two reviews on TER.  She has an ad on CV, and she seems legitimate.  Anyway, we agreed upon the price, and we were supposed to meet tonight.  She texted to confirm for tonight, and I requested that she wear thong panties.  Why?  Well heck, I like 'em, and they are hot.  The next text I got from her was that I was being weird and too forward and that I made her uncomfortable, and that I should find someone else.  She is in her twenties.  Why would such a benign request spook her?  WTF??!  
I welcome your opinions, suggestions, advice (providers and hobbyists).

You were better of this happened before she was at your place. It is these kinds of hassles and more that made an absolute that the KAAMP is where my hobbying needs shall be fulfilled.

Newbie girls are always very skittish.  I had two different girls that were really hyper paranoid.  I had this girl come over once and she had been busted a couple times by LE so she insisted that she allowed entire access to the house, check out the garage, etc.  I said sure.  I think she came her and scoped it out for half and hour before she texted me to let me know she was here.  Another time, this gal got to my location but was freaking out and said she couldn't come in because there were these "guys" sitting in a car.  Well I walked out there and down the block, there were four mexican gardners having lunch in the car because there is a fast food joint nearby.  Sheesh.  If newbie girls feel anything weird, they jump out of their seat.

only see 'well reviewed' providers. Granted, 'well' can mean lots of things, and every guy has his own standards. I venture to say, not many of us would say the '1or2 reviews and CV ad' formula is a good one.

In my newbie days, a provider is on the way to my hotel, she's a pro, I'm nervous as hell, making sure the room is perfect, music, wine, wine glasses, my breath is ok, every hair in place, my knob buffed, polished-n-ready to go, pacing the floor... oh shit, I forgot the condoms - I call her, we have a nice chat as she is driving and I mention that she needs to pick them up... HANG UP NO CALL NO SHOW  Lesson learned.

Yours is a bit different as it is just a clothing request - but a newbie can be spooked more easily and/or she thinks any 'question' is time to call it off.

Another approach - ASK - 'Can I make a clothing request?'

As  'bummer' experiences go, this is not so bad, could have been much worse.

In retrospect, I should have asked her about clothing request.  Ah the lessons we learn in this hobby!  Thank you for the input.
I also know the rule of thumb.  I will say that someone had okayed her on a post, and that's why I proceeded.  Otherwise I would have stayed away.

Well agreed upon! Dependable service and no break in the session with a "I forgot the condoms!!!"...

My ultimate goal is to fulfill your fantasy and put a big ol' smile on your face.

And this is exactly what I told her!  Go figure.

Here's a rule of thumb that I follow:  If I've never seen the girl before, I don't say anything or request anything other than date, time and location. You just never know what is going to creep her out. Once we are together, and the finances have been handled, then I tell her what I like. I save wardrobe requests for the next time we get together.

Well, then its her loss and others to gain.

Another possibility.  It could be when you first set up the date, you were actually communicating with a booker.  When the actual date and confirmation were happening, you were now texting with the Provider and not the booker.  The Provider as written, got scared with your request.  Just another thought.

Seriously, that seems like a harmless request.  Now, if you had asked for a suit of armor or a latex body suit...that's different.  "Not that there's anything wrong with that...."  RT Confused & Out

Just stick with VL and you'll be a happy camper.

YES RTowers, I DID ask her to wear my panties, garter belt, and stockings (sarcasm).  Anyway, I told her she could shoot me a text in the next week or so if she felt comfortable enough.

Hey Ash!  Yeah, I told her the same thing.  In fact I told her she lost a regular because that's what she was looking for, and that's what I was interested in as well because I found her price reasonable.

Did you read the latest review I wrote about her?  Whew!  She's amazing!  

By the way I enjoyed reading your review about her.  It is very well written.  That woman knows how to inspire.  She's trouble with a capital 'T'.  

I pride myself on being respectful and I never thought I said anything that was the least bit offensive or would in any way jeopardize either of our fun or safety, but you just can't predict some people's reactions.

Like another poster said, my approach for first visits is to do nothing except show up and let her follow her script.  I actually dislike doing this, but if she's good enough, I'll go back and we'll have more fun the second time.

I can't figure out a lot of women in civilian life either, so I'm not too surprised when it happens with an escort.

Someone else will have the pleasure of being with you.

Good luck on finding the one you deserve. Wink!

Thank you sweetie!  

Thank you for the input Maria.  I didn't bother her with random thoughts during the day, and we had minimal text messaging leading up to the cancellation.  Yes, perhaps she felt that I was being too forward with my request.  Anyway, I contacted her, and she seems open to meeting me, and we will be meeting this Thursday.  Yay!

Thanks G2!