well, first, cannot review you if never met you...you did state about phone policy...i assume you explained your side of things?...you can just give back deposit and call it a day, unless it is a non-refundable...also, if he decides to review even though he cannot, you at least have some kind of email proof that you tried and there was no response...wish i could be more helpful

I would tell him you are very sorry for the communication cluster but Next Dates Deposit is Paid in Full.
And you would love to see him if and only if we can put this communication cluster behind us and enjoy each other company.

I love steak text me where ur fav place lets go
See u soon?

Posted By: Kat Kovell

Ok so this has not happened to me before so (even after 7yrs first time for everything)little help or advice..  
   
 I was booked for overnight last night 12 hrs..by a newbie...verification and down payment made over week ago..  
   
 Last night communication was prompt through email..no phone number  
 Hotel changed address last 24 hrs..  
 Emails maybe 12 all day looking forward to the night..  
 5pm I emailed on my way responded to ...  
 Sent how to park in email I responded at that hotel I usually valet..  
 Not a casino Upscale Hotel with security and no way up to rooms with out escort..  
   
 Emailed will be early said 10 mins out ...not answered  
 Emailed parking at valet...not answered  
 15 mins early waiting in Lobby...not answered  
 Asked several times by security and concierge if I needed help...emailed again..(very anxious hate standing around and being noticed)  
   
 All and I emailed 10 times with no responses  
 I seen several people pass me in lobby  
 I finally as phone was dying went to valet and they helped trying to charge my phone...(valet and I talked about being stood up How embarrassing)  
 20 to 30 mins passed ...Date supposed to start at 6pm now 615 and arrived at 545pm ...  
   
 Valet had already parked my car and asked if he could grab it cause guess I was being stood up  
 I didnt even have money to tip valet cause I thought I was spending the night I felt a jerk cause I never not tip valet's and when he unplugged my phone I tired to use it for one last email saying I was leaving..  
   
 called my girlfriend tell her what happened then phone died..  
   
 So i wake up to angry email...Saying I stood this person up?!  
 They said their ringer was off..and didn't respond to any of my emails till 6:20 then said coming down in email at 6:30..date was supposed to start at 6pm even with a phone off..wouldn't they be downstairs at 6?  
   
 So what do I do?..Return the deposit..Risk a bad review (it was threatened)  
   
 I been doing this 7yrs never has this situation happened  
 I also list on my site to carry your phone at all times cause if I cant reach you Ill assume the date is off..its right in my rules and regulations..  
   
 Funny thing I was so looking forward to this date..was going to go to my fav steakhouse  
   
 Help, advice..  
 Kisses Kat

yeah...that sounds better

101-Always make sure your ringer is on when meeting lol  

Your time and energy were put forth in good faith.  I assume you have time and costs involved in that.  The deposit, no matter how unfortunate the situation is, should be yours to do with as you please.  I understand that the client feels he was stood up, and the initial anger/frustration is not out of line.  But.... with calmer heads, an email train as evidence of your goodwill, and some common sense, he should see that this was not your fault but a comedy of errors.  I say if he finds a way to calm down and be kind in any way that you return HALF of the deposit as a show of good will and hope that this, like any "drama" gets washed away with time.    Bummer for ya!!!

it sounds like it is on him his ring tone was off!! his phone had the time you tried to get touch more then once so I would say it is his oops sh-t happens  if you want to deposit paid in full next date and he understands it was his oops and you didn't stand him up sounds good to me that like a in store credit ya know

It sounds like the guy was entirely at fault and doesn't want to take responsibility for that. To me, that's a huge red flag.

The whole "ringer off" explanation is puzzling to me - we all know that when the time comes for the expected meetup we keep our phones handy, that is one of the basic rules of engagement, if you will. Date was scheduled at 6 and you said you were on your way at 5pm which he responded to - who turns their phone off after that? When I get the message that she is on her way, my phone doesn't leave me until she arrives. Even if that story is real - it is very inconsiderate on his part to have turned his ringer off or not had his phone on him when he knew you were on your way.  

You're a lovely woman and have an outstanding reputation in the TER community, and I'm sorry this happened to you!  

well said

i know when its getting close to date time with a lovely girl i am checking my phone every 90 seconds - to say his ringer was off is complete nonsense ... if its 10 minutes past the time i am supposed to meet someone i am blowing up her phone   - politely of course -  

I agree with Nevertoolarge. If I know that the lady is on the way or close to my location I watch the screen on my phone like a hawk so I won't miss a call. Some I can't hear my phone ring so I watch my phone for calls, texts or emails. The waiting time before the lady arrives is an exciting time. Maybe he had cold feet.

...in the same sentence. Possible red flag there.

Sounds like he got nervous.
You showed up as promised and he did not.
His loss.  If he was busy, then he should have let you know.

Keep the deposit!

...warn other women of a dangerous client or one who cheats by either not paying her or shorting her. One shouldn't throw option around lightly.

I know your ALWAYS on time and you did everything possible to contact him.  He should have done his part trying to contact you as well.  Trust me he missed a great time!!