Had an appointment with a client in Pensacola who had been drinking. When I first opened the door he was laughing and talking very loud...saying "Good Morning" Im thinking Good Morning, its 6pm?? At first I just thought it was his personality but after getting a little closer could smell the alcohol on his breath. He is a P411 member with 30 ok's... I continued with the visit even though he was talking very loud I was trying to talk softly in hopes he would do the same so other hotel guest don't hear him.

He was laughing and cutting up most of the time so seem to enjoy the visit.... to my shock I get an email saying how he was unhappy with the visit and has written an average review on TER...saying I was a clock watcher and talked the whole time. I couldn't believe it.... did he even remember the visit??  I have a great reputation and stellar reviews. I've pride myself on being gracious and the clock is the furtherest thing from my mind.  In fact his visit went for 2 hrs and it was a 90min appointment.

So here's my question...
What should I have done in this situation ... if I ask him to leave he might only get louder and cause a scene or just let him stay and hope nothing happens during his intoxicated state??  I feel like it was a no win situation.

Your thoughts....

I am so sorry that happened! I agree with Elle- you should have closed the door on him. He could have been a violent drunk and you would have been way worse off.

Now at least you're alive and well to tell the story- thank god. I have no idea what, if anything, can be done about your review, except that if you have a blog you can post about it there, perhaps? And warn others about his drinking...

In my opinion, any respectful client should no better than to drink heavily prior to an appointment...  Just as they should to show up unshaven, smelly, etc...  You shouldn't have let yourself feel trapped in that situation.  If you're concerned about a "normal" client who just happened to be drunk, then what would you do with a completely sober client that really did have malicious intentions regardless?  If you're not comfortable with the situation, then get out of there.

first of all... I like the way you started this thread.
Clever IMO... on a board where we are UNABLE to address our reviews directly.



There is no way to know what you "should" have done...
Life is a learning experience.





I feel sorry for drunks. I have dear friends who struggle with alcoholism...
on & off the boards.

MOST of the time... drunks are miserable inside.
They are often unable to accept responsibility for their own actions
& of course their memories are not as clear as could be.

I no longer entertain drunks but...
I have been known to allow a drunk visitor
to take a nap in my play room rather than let them drive away drunk.





I suggest you tell future clients that you prefer they don't drink
before or during your time together.... BEFORE you get there.

Just because the guy was tipsy doesn't mean he is a drunk. I'm certainly not defending his behavior he should've canceled the date.  Maybe he was just in a good mood and started having a drink or two and let it get away from him.  Like I said though he was wrong and should've canceled the date.

I looked at your reviews and read several.  Anyone with any kind of intelligence would dismiss that one.

I would have not gone through with the date, expressed my feelings to the gentleman and politely excuse myself.

I was in an uncomfortable situation one time as well.  When I first started escorting, I did an outcall to a gentleman that was very well known on a local board.  I read his reviews before seeing him and didn't find any providers that made a negative remark regarding him.

I arrived at the outcall and much to my dismay, he was a hoarder, he had wet sweat stains under his armpits, and white stuff in the corners of his mouth.  I immediately expressed that I was very uncomfortable and that I would like to leave.  He asked me why, and I told him the truth.  He said lets pretend you didn't meet me and I didn't meet you and leave it like that.  Wow really!  IF PREVIOUS PROVIDERS WERE TRUTHFUL THEY WOULD HAVE POSTED THAT INFORMATION IN A FORUM TO WARN THE REST OF THE PROVIDERS.

Did you post this information in the providers section?

Again, I'm very sorry you had to endure that.  Keep your chin up and do what you do best.

And remind him that it was very obvious he'd been drinking but that you decided to honor the appointment to keep your good reputation? And you were shocked to see his unfavorable review after you did him a favor.  Ask him to modify or remove the review. If he won't, you only have one alternative. And it's not good for him. Put him on the bad boy list.

Sorry this happened to you!

Maybe calling a cab would be the safest way.

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I run into situations sometimes and I had let it go but you know what? It is not worth being on edge through out the whole session because you have no idea what he is going to do. That is why I have a no drug policy and I always insist on talking to them on the phone on a few times beforehand. As for your reputation well it is now on a public forum and I think you have nothing to worry about everyone runs into a bad situation and it should not be held against you.....just my two cents

Why did you even bring up a bad review? We all weed out the bad reviews that we read.  Bringing it up just makes me think there might some truth to it.  If he was drunk and you saw him maybe you where that put off that it came across.  I have done a drunk visit before and I Had a good enough time to go back and try again.  I do not get lubbed up for every visit but as My days are your nights It is not odd to be drinking at 8 am.  Just how paranoid are you ladies?  Most people are nice, most do not want anything more that you offer,  I might be wrong, but based of expeirence most people are not hurtful.

Your response really offers nothing other than showing the ladies that you have no problem showing up drunk.

Why question her reason for bringing it up?
She had an experience and wanted the opinions of others (mostly ladies probably).
No one mentioned being paranoid, and no one asked whether or not most people are "nice".

Maybe when he becums a provider he would understand.

When he has 30'oks it's like who will believe you, right? Im so sorry you went through that. Honestly I prob wouldve ended up suffering through it. With 30 ok's & then to show up like that is really an ambush. Total no win situation.

Something like this happened to me last Fall. A client came over for 90 minutes, proceeded to get wasted drunk and spent most of his time talking and telling me how beautiful I am. I was lenient because I had seen him once before so figured he'd make up for the additional time spent at my incall. FOUR hours after he arrived and a missed civilian appointment due to him staying so far over and I couldn't get the guy out!
I finally told him he had to go and to please get dressed. He left a 90 minute consideration for me to see instead of the 3 or 4  I expected for the intrusion on the rest of my day. Nope, nothing!! He was still hemming and hawing so I finally lost it and started yelling at him to get out of my house!!! Lucky for me he dropped his wallet out of his pants while in his drunken stupor. I'm sure most of you are thinking that I looked in and helped myself to what was there but absolutely not!!! I didn't even look. I had to see him one more time in the parking area of my incall to return it to him (found it just a minute or two after he left). I used that as my opportunity to ask/tell him not to publish a review. Like I said, I was lucky he dropped the wallet.

...and there's nothing fun about a drunk IMHO.  

If a gentleman wants to have a drink, or a glass or two of wine, I have no problem with that...but to show up for a date intoxicated - or to get that way during a date - is just plain disrespectful.  I had a client once who brought his own bottle of water to sip on.  After we chatted for a few minutes (while he downed the "water"), we stood up to move to another room and he fell flat on his face.  You guessed it...it was actually vodka in the Dasani bottle!

I asked him to leave.  I offered to call him a cab, and he declined.  I later learned he slept it off in the parking lot.  

Yes, this man was an adult...but you'd never know it by his behavior!

This happened to me recently except he told me a couldn't get hard or erect do to a surgery. He was drunk as hell, aggressive and shorted me.

Long story short my advice kick his ass out!

Xo
Kyla

Thanks everyone for your thoughts... I agree I should have kicked him out although I'm sure he would not have left without making a scene.

Thanks for posting Lala... providers need to speek out more when things like this happens. I think they don't because of fear of peoples negative comments ....