are you free after to hang out or have dinner, you know, as friends?"

Just tell them politely, " Thanks for the offer. But I have to decline due to other matters I must attend to."  

If he can afford your rate, he can afford to get a room at the motel 6....or at the very least priceline a decent 2 1/2 star hotel.

I mean, the guy knows he's out of line already. Nobody needs to explain that to him.

"Of course! I'd love to either have dinner first or do an overnight appointment!

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. . . before or after our time together, and all 4 said yes without wanting an additional fee.  Each time was a very relaxed and delightful.

I assure you, these same people don't expect a bill for asking their lawyer a "quick question" or telling the housekeeper, "Oh, can you also...?"  The maid will probably do it but be a little resentful or passive aggressive, the professional will bill them without a second thought.

The Providers requiring a 2 hr minimum.  Same principle, but what if I DON'T WANT to spend an extra hour with you? Why am I being "required" to stay for an extra hour when I'm done? If I'm paying for it I'm gonna feel like I have to stay. I know you want to "create a relationship" "You want to get to know each other"...  That's the excuses for the multi-hour minimums. How about this...  I don't want to get to know you, I read your reviews and all I want to do is get in and out. I know you're not going to be my girlfriend. I know I'm not gonna date you exclusively. I just want to get in, Boink and meet my buddies at the bar..

They said sure since they had nothing else going on and didn't want to eat alone at upscale locales.

i've seen ads for 3 hr min. a few years ago i saw one for 4 hr min! the funny thing is i saw that girl before she started the 4 hr min, but when she adopted that policy i stopped calling her. she was cool and all but at the time i just didn't want to spend that much time with anyone... i was usually good with 1 or 2. she eventually stopped that policy and then it was all good. btw i never complained about her policy, i just moved on.  

Im really a quick shooter so id love to keep up with the same 1 hour donation but lets shoot the sh*t on your time for another 2-3 hoirs and if you say no our decline. You cant be anything but the anti christ

But that explanation is definitely making me consider a two hour minimum...

And is WAY different from "maybe I can sleep on your sofa?"

You're right..

The 2 hour... You're promising the weak that there's something special when the strong knows your game.  

one of us is leaving, get out my face. Haha.

Thank you for all the contributions. I appreciate the varying perspectives; always something to learn or at least take note of as we navigate through the hobby life. We also managed to remain rather non-hostile. Kudos Ladies & Gentlemen 😘😘 Happy Tuesday to all.

Well you obviously arent thier target market anyway. You both probably wouldnt click which saves both of you from wasting time and money.

"While there are some ladies who try to convince men that they have romantic feelings for them, there are others like myself who do truly value long-term relationships with the friends I have and do genuinely care for them.  And there are men who desire more than just the physical part of spending time with ladies. They're looking for intimacy, which includes conversation, getting to know about each other, and a special kind a relationship that has an understanding that while it will never go beyond a professional relationship, the professional relationship can involve genuine feelings of caring for each other. Something in between a friendship and a relationship."

Biting my tongue. I'm sure I'm not the only guy doing so.

So true. Everyone wants to negotiate for a better deal...

I'll say WRONG (my DT voice) I had a client I saw for 4-5 years straight 2 times a week, every week. One week he just disappeard. I figured he just moved on. Fast forward 2 years, he contacts me siad he had fell in love and says he's in a long term care facility. His fiance' deserted him because he had a stroke (early 60's young man) asks if I'd come see him. I live in Atlanta he was in New York at the time (client from when I lived in New England). I drove down (turned it to a working trip, yes) the very next week to see him, for free. Now he is back in New England at another long term care place and I go visit him 4-5 times a year when I am there for work or family, I talk to him damn near daily (ugh, that is irritating, I admit but he has no one else)  and I send him cards and things for holidays and special days. I've even gone to a play (on a day trip he had) his granddaughter was in. That was def uncomfortable with his children but still, he was very good to me, hence, fair exchange is no robbery.

Ditto! It's a companion's prerogative to run her business as she sees fit. Being transparent about policies and requirements is a perfect way to filter out whoever may be incompatible.