IF your woman is NOT really into the swinging scene...then perhaps you two should join a swingers site online...and browse the sites and pick a couple to meet for drinks and dancing.
Your woman IS BI, correct? She does want to enjoy being with another woman & guy, correct?
Swingers clubs are erotic.....yes, you have to start out slow.....be a voyeur, then slowly partake by NOT being shy...talk to those your attracted to.....go watch them/or have them watch you...having sex......
then slowly join in with the other couple/s.....
There will always be the *clicks* of swinger friends at every venue.....it's about not joining them..but making intimate friends of your own and enjoying some of the sweetest unadulterated pleasures.
So find out what your woman truly wants.......A happy wife...is as they say..a happy life!
Posted By: slickbenz
I figured the members might be active in that scene

as we are new to it.
I have to say she is a good looking girl with a tight swinger body but no she is not in to swinging, at least no yet. We are working on that part

The farthest we got was same room. She expressed interest in the possibility so figured it is as good time as ever.
I have no idea how big the scene is in Chicago and we are for sure not going to go to some private clubs. I guess we will try a few night clubs in the area and maybe let the wife flirt in the hotel bar.
Still any ideas for good spots are appreciated!