There are some ladies who claim to be equal opportunity, and some who are choosy. But is either better than the other? Understandably, majority of people wouldn't want to support the idea of discrimination, yet this is more personal. Beyond social - intimate companionship. Should we as professional companions strive to "achieve" physical attraction with All? Is that the noble ideal? How natural is it for humans to be/not be naturally attracted to a certain body type, ethnicity, etc. Or would you argue the consideration of physical attraction isn't even in the picture, that because you are a professional such things don't count. So what does that mean...faking attraction ...and how healthy and ethical is that?

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I don't have any type of restrictions on race or looks. The only restrictions I do have have to o with personality. I am not gonna see someone who is rude or disrespects me.

when I was younger I would deff go for looks.. now deff personality, humor is great and if you can make me laugh its a BIG plus

I like to make people think. It's good for you. And besides I make it more fun than those moronic brain puzzles

but it does have the extraordinary ability to somehow increase or decrease physical attraction. (Now I'm pondering what's the biological explanation behind it lol. How can an ugly personality make a normally physically attractive person to be seen and felt as unattractive and vice versa)

Good poin

Most of us guys are older and not very attractive, otherwise we wouldn't be paying for it, lol. If you're asking about choosing clients based on our physical attractiveness, you're pretty much out of luck so you probably should go for personality and call it a day

Everyone has different traits and physical characteristics they find pleasing in the opposite sex. It's difficult to characterize what is attractive and what is repulsive in clients beyond hygiene and possibly weight issues. Some providers couldn't care less how attractive their clients are while others seem to be very picky. I think the short answer is if YOU find the client repulsive, the session won't be good so you shouldn't go forward with it. Providers who are repulsed by their clients and who are simply going through the motions are very easy to spot with experience. I certainly won't see a provider who finds me repulsive. She doesn't have to find me attractive but if she can at least tolerate my looks for an hour, great, we have a deal, lol.

The best providers are those who choose clients they're comfortable with. Personality is a big part of that for most providers since our looks are barely tolerable. We get it, LOL..

I'm no Brad Pitt or George Clooney. I'm more of an older looking Jackie Chan. LOL!!!! I've never been turned down by a Provider based on my looks. I'm not the greatest looking guy around. I like to think that Providers like me for being Nice and Polite. (well besides the Money. LOL!!!!) . My current Provider likes seeing me. I'm always Nice and Polite when I see her. So far after only 4 months of seeing her, she has never turned me away for a Session. So I'm very Happy.

but I'm glad that you brought that up as it does seem to be one of the old-school common myths. That men and women who use companionship services obviously must be unattractive. I mean that explanation alone makes no logical sense whatsoever. Look at what we have here, uncomplicated nsa opportunity to be with who you are attracted to, who Wouldn't want to be part of it? regardless of your looks, civvie dating prowess, etc. Yes you pay, but you pay either way, neither civvie dating/breakups or messy divorces come cheap.  

When you're not in the mood or have time to play the dating game, you contact a professional. More often than not, we don't want the baggage that comes with it, we just want the best part. There were a few recent articles in the national papers on the commitment-free culture of today, and look at the divorce rates. I suppose this is also where I should insert my 'humans are naturally polyamorous' thesis lol although some would disagree.  

Now being the bluntly honest, open person I am, I always let someone know if I find them attractive and also when for example I think they need to start working out and eating better - because I like seeing people at their best in the holistic sense. I find most are happy to be complimented because I assume they don't receive it often, and I can feel their confidence rising a bit, and a few who have a hard time believing that the opposite sex finds them attractive. Now from my own long-term personal experience, 98% of the people I have met this way meet or exceed average physical attractiveness. Could it be just plain luck, coincidence ....but there is no such thing as coincidence. Like attracts like and that is a science.
Also we have a plethora of factors that make up physical attraction, as mentioned above, personality - positive people have the upper hand. Physical attraction isn't as superficial as it appears. There are underlying factors at play..  

So let me correct what you said. Yes most of you guys are older and some of you just have low self-esteem; not to be confused with being 'not very attractive.' It's funny how the media portrays women with low self-esteem issues but men are not brought up. Why not?

there is something in your culture, upbringing, traditional values ...that really shows in your relationships with the opposite sex. There is that deep-rooted quality of patience... And being polite just for being polite not for a specific purpose.  

Not to mention, asian men are such a rarity here, that whenever I happen to attract such a gentlemen, it is a special treat! Speaking of which I have such a meeting planned soon, I am so honored

I was born here in the U.S. So any Traditional Asian upbringing I got through my Parents DNA. I'm pretty sure I'm the only Asian Client my Provider is seeing. I guess being an Asian Client it would be difficult for a Provider to forget about. It's kind of nice because Providers I've had in the past and my current Provider always remember who I am. I guess Providers like to see someone that's not a Traditional Client.

ROGM, if I may be so bold, since you say you are Asian, do you tend to see other Asian providers, or do you prefer American (white) providers, or other ethnic ladies?  Just curious. I am a white American guy and I have seen providers from over a dozen ethnic backgrounds and I like that variety, but I also see white and black American ladies as well.

Don't forget that Providers like you for the money too.

Without money, they wouldn't care if you are polite or a super nice guy.

Now if you can get a provider to go out drinking with you, hang out party with you and let you sleep at her house at NO cost..  That's a different story...  I am lucky and I found one..

 
   

 

 
Um I did mention Money in my posting. Duh.

Well la-di-frickin-dah

I don't have many Asian clients either lol so I'm curious who majority see also.  

"I guess Providers like to see someone that's not a Traditional Client." ......  possibly ..... i'd sure like more Asian lovers (lol) .

that I don't have low self-esteem. However, I am a realist about my looks, hence the need to pay for companionship. Many of us haven't had much luck in the civvie world which is why we're in the P4P world. We get to hook up with women we have no chance with in the civvie world.

Your comment about blunt honesty is interesting. Being pretty easy going, if a provider suggested that I needed to improve myself, I'd take her comment as meaning that if I did such and such, she'd find me more attractive so I'd take her suggestions. Something similar happened once - I'd lost about 20 lbs and hadn't seen this particular girl in many months and she blurted out of nowhere how great I looked. Now that was a feel good if there ever was one. What was notable about her approach was she never suggested I improve but when I did, she was delighted to see the improvement. That was a tactful way of not risking losing me as a client but giving me kudos once I got to a point she liked.  

Some guys would probably not be happy hearing from someone they're paying to be with that they need to improve so there's a risk of losing a client if you're too blunt. While I advise caution in this area, it's all in the delivery and you seem like someone who would be very tactful

for the money too, not just professional companions.  

You're looking at deeply-embedded genetic history. Men are supporters and inclined to procreate. Women are nurturers and seek the security that the male provides. So yes a man who can provide a woman support will be more attractive in her eyes, comparing to a man who cannot provide

I find it interesting that providers sometimes have a yen for asians, but more often have asians for yen.

thank you Zabrina!