but I'm glad that you brought that up as it does seem to be one of the old-school common myths. That men and women who use companionship services obviously must be unattractive. I mean that explanation alone makes no logical sense whatsoever. Look at what we have here, uncomplicated nsa opportunity to be with who you are attracted to, who Wouldn't want to be part of it? regardless of your looks, civvie dating prowess, etc. Yes you pay, but you pay either way, neither civvie dating/breakups or messy divorces come cheap.
When you're not in the mood or have time to play the dating game, you contact a professional. More often than not, we don't want the baggage that comes with it, we just want the best part. There were a few recent articles in the national papers on the commitment-free culture of today, and look at the divorce rates. I suppose this is also where I should insert my 'humans are naturally polyamorous' thesis lol although some would disagree.
Now being the bluntly honest, open person I am, I always let someone know if I find them attractive and also when for example I think they need to start working out and eating better - because I like seeing people at their best in the holistic sense. I find most are happy to be complimented because I assume they don't receive it often, and I can feel their confidence rising a bit, and a few who have a hard time believing that the opposite sex finds them attractive. Now from my own long-term personal experience, 98% of the people I have met this way meet or exceed average physical attractiveness. Could it be just plain luck, coincidence ....but there is no such thing as coincidence. Like attracts like and that is a science.
Also we have a plethora of factors that make up physical attraction, as mentioned above, personality - positive people have the upper hand. Physical attraction isn't as superficial as it appears. There are underlying factors at play..
So let me correct what you said. Yes most of you guys are older and some of you just have low self-esteem; not to be confused with being 'not very attractive.' It's funny how the media portrays women with low self-esteem issues but men are not brought up. Why not?
that I don't have low self-esteem. However, I am a realist about my looks, hence the need to pay for companionship. Many of us haven't had much luck in the civvie world which is why we're in the P4P world. We get to hook up with women we have no chance with in the civvie world.
Your comment about blunt honesty is interesting. Being pretty easy going, if a provider suggested that I needed to improve myself, I'd take her comment as meaning that if I did such and such, she'd find me more attractive so I'd take her suggestions. Something similar happened once - I'd lost about 20 lbs and hadn't seen this particular girl in many months and she blurted out of nowhere how great I looked. Now that was a feel good if there ever was one. What was notable about her approach was she never suggested I improve but when I did, she was delighted to see the improvement. That was a tactful way of not risking losing me as a client but giving me kudos once I got to a point she liked.
Some guys would probably not be happy hearing from someone they're paying to be with that they need to improve so there's a risk of losing a client if you're too blunt. While I advise caution in this area, it's all in the delivery and you seem like someone who would be very tactful
