How close have you come to getting caught by your SO?
Also - do you have an active sex life with your SO?

LOL,I can't speak for a guy whose GF won't have sex with him but, as far as the married guys, divorce is a pretty big deal and very expensive.  Trust me, most of your married clients would not be able to afford to see you if they were divorced, paying child support, alimony and living in their cars while their ex is in the house that they are paying for every month...

Bad marriages are a major factor to the success of the P4P sex industry!

Do not say a word.

Hang up, put that number on ignore and cut off contact with that client.  (He is bad news if he is so careless as to allow this to happen.)

The legal entanglements you can get into are innumerable.

divorced me on account of the hobby.

I did not want to get divorced as I knew it would be embarrassing and messy as well as expensive.  

On the other hand, now that I am single and free, I think that freedom is worth more than all the expense and mental agony that I experienced during the process.  (Which took about 3 years to settle.)

I did not have an active sex life with my SO, which was my main reason to hobby.

If you've never been married you will never understand why people do it.  

You can screw as many women as you want before you get married.  It doesn't guarantee that, if you finally get hitched, it won't go south some day. While I agree that it's very important that you know yourself it's just about impossible to predict the twists and turns that two people living together as husband and wife will encounter and how they will handle them AS A COUPLE.

I've been single for three years now and I can't see ever being stupid enough to get married again.  I'm having way too much fun. Still, people do it every day.  It sounds like you have a plan that works for you.  

A few weeks ago a client's wife called me saying she found my number on the phone bill and what is my website.  I played dumb, but said she found my ad through my phone number I assume!  I told her I did not remember.  She persisted and asked if I would be willing to go before the priest so she could get an annullment! She said he has done this before and has admitted it and promises not to see escorts again, but continues to break his promises.  You think he could get a throw away phone???  I made up an excuse without admitting anything, that someone was on the other line and hung up. Another called because her husband had printed out my ad and she found it in his pocket!  WTF? (that was in VT and that state was the worst for women calling, in MA you guys seem more savvy)  I see mostly married men and they continually tell me that either their wives don't have sex with them or that they only have sex infrequently.  My question is why do you stay with your wives/girfriends if they refuse to have sex with you?????????????

I am single. But I have often thought about why people that end up divorced and hostile to each other even got married to begin. One sage piece of advice that a successful, wealthy elderly mentor gave me when I was in High School was that I should get a good education and sow all my wild seed before getting married. I followed his advice on those subjects and many others. What I found is that I love fresh pussy so much that getting married simply would be an enormous obstruction to my pursuit of fresh women. So, I stayed single. My sense is that if men and women resist the urge to propose and accept until they fully understand their sexual beings and other important aspects of what they are and may become as people, there would be fewer divorces. Women, in particular, must be willing to admit to wanting some things that a marriage brings and not others, and must find alternative methods for getting the things they want from a marriage without getting married to start.

My wife and I actually have a great relationship but I just need something extra. We have sex on average about once every week and it's just not enough for me. I never did anything with another woman until a few months ago when i went to an AMP for the first time (married 5 years).
After the Amp I started getting more and more excited about how secretive this world is and that's very attractive to me. Not to mention I now have the opportunity to go and have some no strings fun that no one knows about except me.

In a strange way I actually think that my hobby will help my marriage.

Anyone else feel this way?

You are amazing hob_man!!!!!!!!!!!!  Are you a professional writer?  WOW!!!

I don't know.  I think it'd be cool if you had an open marriage or if you both were swingers.  I think it's the double life that hurts the marriage.  Don't mind me, I was watching the movie about Sylvia Plath.  That god darn womanizing Ted Hughes, Damn.  But then I wouldn't be making the money I make, unless ofcourse couples came to me!  Instead of a social worker that I am, I could be a marriage counselor!!!  Wow.

Quite true. Many people don't realize that adultery is actually a criminal offense in Massachusetts, and it's a felony too! I haven't heard of Uncle Leo actually making arrests for it, but they could. It's much easier for them to arrest for felonies than it is for misdemeanors. Just another thing they could use to screw us (no pun intended).

That's a very European outlook on it.

I haven't been caught and no my sex life has been dormant for over a year.  I, like probably every man on here, have no on/off switch when it comes to sex and so I have resorted to the erotic massage.  Am I cheating, yes probably but if I didn't do it I probably would end up having an affair and ruining my life.

My wife knows I do this and she's OK with it !  .. My wife isn't a prude ..  She just isn't sexual .. not at all ..  My marriage has become beyond Platonic ..  I haven't had sex with my wife in over 4 years and most likely never will again !!!  Oddly, we get along really well ????
Just no sex, no intimacy, no touching .. no life !!!!!

I wouldn't wish my situation on anyone .. I do the Provider/ Client thing, by default !!!    


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hahaha

I am european