for me, i try to tell her what i do like instead of what i don't. for example, i usually go for a slow and intense cowgirl. if she starts bouncing around fast and furious, i'll ask her, "do me slow, baby." i've found they usually appreciate knowing what i prefer. i know it's just a matter of approach, but i do believe saying, "i don't like it that fast." or something like it would kill the mood and i don't know if they'd be as happy to oblige...so when it happens, i try to suggest something else they could do that i do really enjoy instead of pointing out what i don't like. that's just me though...

I would suggest just telling her straight out that you're not comfortable with that activity. Being uncomfortable is already killing your mood so fixing that can only make it better. No lady wants you to have complaints so we'd feel better knowing your preference. Otherwise they'll be no repeat visits, which is bad for us. Personally I would never take offence and I hope no other lady would either. We want you to feel good about your visit.

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This is not posted as a joke!  I had an episode with an Atl provider who I now belive may have been partying in the snow(so to speak). She was giving me head and all of a sudden she started using her teeth very hard. I spoke up loud and clear that that hurt. It wasn't till the next day that I realized how bad it was. While she had not broken the skin she had caused severe bruising of the erectile tissue.This was sore for a couple of weeks with discoloration as the internal bleeding was reabsorbed.Now I am looking at the possibility of Cock surgery.Where the blood vessel had been torn there is now a distinct notch on one side causing my erection to point Hard Right. I came very close to slapping her to get her off when it happened as a reflex. That night I found out that there is such a thing as a Bad BJ

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~I personally try to establish some type of comfort level before I ever even agree to meet with a new friend.....  I really try to gain the confidence of new acquaintances so that they feel comfortable enough to tell me what they like and dislike... as I say often: Unless you tell me I won't know. I personally feel complimented when a new friend feels comfortable enough to share his ideas, likes/dislikes and thoughts with me. But that is just the type girl I am... kisses ~Tori

Slow and Easy

That is my method.To make my clients at ease I like to have a little conversation before we begin to find out what my client is expecting. They usually tell me what they want before we begin. That way we are both comfortable. It gives me a starting point to focus on.

I agree with other posters, tell her how certain things drive you wild, like the slow grind, or how she only uses her lips and tongue.  Feedback when the right things are done is a good thing for all at play.

However, with the teeth incident, rolling up into a ball, holding your tool and crying is fairly effective as well.

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