Have you ever said something like this to a lady during your playtime?

Have you ever had it said to YOU?

I've wondered ... How do you "complain" about a technique that may not only  NOT  be bringing you the most pleasure, but may indeed be uncomfortable?

For instance, feeling teeth against your penis ... too much pressure ... a cowgirl ride that might get too active ... nail-scratching ... ear licking ...

Whatever - We all don't have the same likes and dislikes, so it's inevitable that what one guy/gal likes, another may find distasteful or bothersome.

Do you complain? Will it kill the mood?

How do I let a lady know that what's she's doing isn't "right for me", but not offend her and not kill the mood?

for me, i try to tell her what i do like instead of what i don't. for example, i usually go for a slow and intense cowgirl. if she starts bouncing around fast and furious, i'll ask her, "do me slow, baby." i've found they usually appreciate knowing what i prefer. i know it's just a matter of approach, but i do believe saying, "i don't like it that fast." or something like it would kill the mood and i don't know if they'd be as happy to oblige...so when it happens, i try to suggest something else they could do that i do really enjoy instead of pointing out what i don't like. that's just me though...

If I were you, I would say something like "you know what would feel even better?" That way, you don't really have to tell her that she's doing it wrong, and kill the mood.

I would suggest just telling her straight out that you're not comfortable with that activity. Being uncomfortable is already killing your mood so fixing that can only make it better. No lady wants you to have complaints so we'd feel better knowing your preference. Otherwise they'll be no repeat visits, which is bad for us. Personally I would never take offence and I hope no other lady would either. We want you to feel good about your visit.

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I'm trying to think what a provider would do that I didn't like other than some kinky things that involved body wastes... etc. In other words 'yukky' things!!!

This is not posted as a joke!  I had an episode with an Atl provider who I now belive may have been partying in the snow(so to speak). She was giving me head and all of a sudden she started using her teeth very hard. I spoke up loud and clear that that hurt. It wasn't till the next day that I realized how bad it was. While she had not broken the skin she had caused severe bruising of the erectile tissue.This was sore for a couple of weeks with discoloration as the internal bleeding was reabsorbed.Now I am looking at the possibility of Cock surgery.Where the blood vessel had been torn there is now a distinct notch on one side causing my erection to point Hard Right. I came very close to slapping her to get her off when it happened as a reflex. That night I found out that there is such a thing as a Bad BJ

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...the monkey and the organ grinder...

Poor thing!!!  So sorry that happened to you!!!

I hope they are able to repair the damage...I always try to be careful when I give a BJ.  I would never want my coochie hurt, so always try to be just as courteous.

The only time I worry about teeth, is when I have been down there for awhile...when your jaw begins to hurt, it makes it very difficult to hold your mouth open enough.

I think most definitely that the provider in question needs to offer an apology, fund part of the cost of the surgery, or both!!

Poor Baby...get better soon!

Sofia Danila

Perhaps you would like to accept YOUR responsibility for  MY  condition ...

Since you were one of my first Atlanta GFE's ...

that got me hooked on the "finer things in life" ...

Wouldn't it be only right that you help support my  "counseling sessions"  ??  


-- Modified on 9/25/2005 1:28:38 PM

So funny, atlantamike...I hope your "condition" isn't a bad one, lol!

I need counseling also, you know!!

Sexual healing!!!

If I helped support one gents sessions, I would be flat broke supporting everyone else as well...lol!

Sadly, I am in the age of decadence...The more I provide, the more I feel the need to be in another line of "work"!!  My gents always seem to retreat from the hobby, or end up not wanting to see me more than once or twice, for fear of getting "in too deep"!

Sadly, I am hooked on the "finer things" as well...

Kisses,

Sofia

I guess that's a  "No",  huh??

Oh, well, I guess I'll just have to support myself with these "counseling sessions" ...

"Sexual Healing" ... Is that covered under BS/BS ??

~I personally try to establish some type of comfort level before I ever even agree to meet with a new friend.....  I really try to gain the confidence of new acquaintances so that they feel comfortable enough to tell me what they like and dislike... as I say often: Unless you tell me I won't know. I personally feel complimented when a new friend feels comfortable enough to share his ideas, likes/dislikes and thoughts with me. But that is just the type girl I am... kisses ~Tori

That is my method.To make my clients at ease I like to have a little conversation before we begin to find out what my client is expecting. They usually tell me what they want before we begin. That way we are both comfortable. It gives me a starting point to focus on.

I agree with other posters, tell her how certain things drive you wild, like the slow grind, or how she only uses her lips and tongue.  Feedback when the right things are done is a good thing for all at play.

However, with the teeth incident, rolling up into a ball, holding your tool and crying is fairly effective as well.

-- Modified on 9/26/2005 1:25:43 PM