I am forward to a fault. Too often say exactly what's on my mind and have had to learn tact, or something like it, since making this my profession. I do the best I can but the truth is, there may not be a specific reason - perhaps just having seen you so much makes you too much like dating someone or they don't feel they are thrilling you in the same way. They are convinced their reason is going to cause a reaction from you they don't want. They don't want the confrontation as another poster mentioned, a lot of guys CAN'T handle being told no or being told "I don't want to see you anymore" and it makes the issue a situation to be dealt with rather than just leaving it alone. Men being told no thanks more often want to argue the point, deny that she should feel the way she should, they take it out on her on the boards, in back channel, in review, become harassing or a complete asshole towards them in general - none of which is helpful or necessary or even fair.
Like you said, it's their choice who they want to see and while I'm more likely to say, "I appreciate the time we've spent together but I think I would like to take a pass now and move on from this point." The typical response is to that is "why?" and, frankly, it doesn't matter and I don't owe explanations "I'm going to take a pass" or "I don't want to" is sufficient but more often that not brings about a far worse response TOWARDS us than leaving you scratching your head. Men often feel entitled, "I've spent x amount of dollars on you or have seen you x amount of times so you owe me a reason (that I can understand and agree with)" and that's just not likely to be the case. Try politely telling someone that you've spent intimate time with that you no longer wish too and see how they feel and/or how they react. In real life it's almost always a huge potential for drama. In this business it SHOULD be as easy as turning around a walking away and if it's not, you're too invested and it would seem time to end it anyway. It's NOT low class it's a choice on how to deal with it. You should not NEED to have a reason in order to be able to move on. Just move on.
This is a business and we have to have our business practices to follow and judgement of those practices are subjective. But remember it's a one person and a pay for play type of business. It's not the utility company or the only doctor in a small town or the fire department. Pay for play, not life or death, not dating, no strings attached and (as you said) it's their prerogative whether or not to see you regardless of what the reason. The reason just doesn't matter and shouldn't HAVE to discussed, same result - no more appointments.
As providers we deal with the same thing. All of a sudden one of our regulars isn't calling anymore for any number of reasons. The guy may have found an ATF they want to spend more time with. Or they may have less funds or they don't like something the provider did on their last date or they are trying to be devoted to their wife or they now have a GF or whatever. We aren't usually privy to those reasons. If they felt we needed to know why they would tell us. But 99% of the time they don't it's OK because it's their life and their decision and they don't owe us an explanation.
I absolutely LOVE my career and I have a ball 99% of the time. But quite candidly, dealing with some one's entitlement issues are the single most irksome and wearing activities we have to deal with on a regular basis.
Thank you for being a loyal hobbyist. I wish you the best.
username]NoClassNoAss
I've been hobbying off and on for 5-6 years and have a question I'd like to ask, and realize I'll get the usual bonehead comments from the usual anti-alias boneheads.
In these 5-6 years I've seen well over 100 Atlanta providers and have reviewed perhaps 1/2 that many, so I'm not a "newbie", by any stretch. I usually see 2-3 providers a week and tend to rotate a small number of favorites while seeing maybe 1-2 new ladies each month. I have never in those five years NCNS'ed a provider and I am a very generous tipper to a fault.
So, with the little context above, my question is this: When a Provider decides to stop seeing a client, for reasons other than the obvious reasons (habitual NCNS; abusive; cheap;roots for GA Dawgs, etc), why not be honest with the client and let him know why? I've had 2-3 Providers that I've seen in excess of 20+ times each over a 5 year period just completely discontinue returning calls, emails, texts, etc. I do realize that in all cases it is the Providers' prerogative to see whomever they want; however, why not just let the guy know why? In the 2-3 incidences, the business relationship just ended without any explanation or reasons why and in each, the lady just won't answer the Why? question. I really could care less if they don't wish to see me anymore, but it would be nice to know if there was anything specific that I did, or did not do, so I could avoid making similar mistakes in the future.
From a business perspective, it is very poor etiquette. From a human standpoint, it shows very low class.
Why not let the guy know so he can move on?
