I was lucky enuff to become real friends with a provider, and I must say she is the coolest and realest chick that I know, we just vibe and leave all drama behind, its like a true escape when we are chilling, have never had a misunderstanding because she is so dam real and this has rubbed offf on me, because I'm not afraid to be open with her, now that took some getting used too, lol, shit with a non working chick, I would lie about going to the bathroom, because of the drama if I were to be honest... we hang out, do things for each other and have a genuine friendship, we can talk about anything, why cant most non working chicks be as cool....

Enjoy it while you have it. Make sure she gets paid every time you see her And Please Please Please keep seeing other providers.

808 is right, enjoy it when you can!  I'm feelin the burn today because my atf has retired.  I have seen her 20 times in the last year and every time was superior!  I hope she is in every way successful and happy going forward but right now I'm in mourning.  Felt it coming for a few months but nonetheless really effing bumbed.  I'm glad there is strong beer and very good tunes to focus on.

lol. sounds like my wife..... Before she was my wife.

Enjoy it while it lasts

Because if you are, you arent "real" friends. Youre still just a client and a source of cash.

until you see the bill.

it's not impossible. i have a few provider friends. but the limits are quite clear.

please, try to use a proper grammar. Who is the provider that wants to hang-out with you?

Friendship can take place in any scenario. If you are happy and enjoy this type of relationship, then by all means, continue to pursuit your friendship with her.

I've been in your situation before. Mine did not worked out as I'd expected. Just like you, we talking and such, and all that jazz. Next thing, I find myself investing time, money, and effort into the relationship, and it had nothing to do with sex. I had to cut that off because I was being used. I didn't want to have to deal with the drama no more. I didn't want to have to deal with her stuff. I have enough shit to deal with, and I don't want to continuing hearing her stuff.

I play it clean, and don't get into personal relationships with providers. I can be friends with them, like I am friends with several providers. However, I don't cross that boundary. I hope this makes sense to you. Anyhow, I hope you enjoy your relationship, and I hope it benefits you as much as it benefits her.

Just wondering what do you mean by friends?  Do you hang out together?  Do you have lunch, dinner, or maybe go to the gym with her?  The thing is I've done such with a couple of gals and it always turned into a sob story about needing something for their child or whatever?  Once would be ok but it continued.  Which makes me wonder if this profession is so lucrative why?  If its not why the hell do it?  I guess 99.999% of providers are always playing you.  I wonder if there are any guys on this board who became friends and fell on bad times where the gal actually helped you out with money Etc?  No, Ive never written a review but have seen a dozen or so local girls on this site.  Have pretty much stopped over the past few months becuase I find it brings more sadness to me then anything.  I read some of the reviews on this board and I'm shake my head at how someone can be so disrespectful ( can't even think of the right word now) to a female.  Sorry for all this bull.

You already know the characteristics of a friend, and what it takes to make it a healthy relationship. The OP called the provider a friend, and someone who he hangs out with. Which is fine, as long as it doesn't turn into something that he has to invest on, such as money, time, and effort. Friends don't take advantage of another friend, and friends don't use and abuse their friends. If this happens, then they are not to be considered friends.

Like I mentioned, this is not always the case, and I wanted to make this distinction. I too have a few provider friends. But, they don't ask me for money, help them pay their rent, or something like that.

We go out she pays for me, and sometimes I pay for her, we are friends, I guess with benefits!!!! She even cooks for me, and invites me over to eat and hang out, leaves me her keys when she is gone away on tour. WE ARE FRIENDS, might be hard to believe but its true and she is fucking so hot.....

And I still see other girls professional and non professional, because again we are friends.

Dam is this that out of the ordinary, I might just be special, LOL

I took your original post as legit.  Now I see your just being facetious.  I don't believe she pays for dinner, lunch and she shouldn't because she is your friend and your the man.  So you could do that. Does she let you screw her w/o a condom too.  Enough of this anyway, who gives a fock.  

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now my BS detector is going off!

You sound like a guy who used to post on the other board, JayG, who wanted everyone to believe he could get any woman he wanted (cheerleaders, models, actresses, porn stars) without paying a penny and that he had women chasing him night and day to have sex with him. I asked him why he paid for sex if this was the case, and he answered he had no idea!  

You guys are just like I thought before but providers are just like everyone else they can seperate work and personal, they just have to be more selective on who they let in their personal lives, because alot of people can't handle the truth, providers go to the grocery store, they have familes, and they have friends. I know its hard to imagine but its true, they are human!!! And yes she does pay its not about her paying or me paying it is about a friendship and thats what friends do at least thats what me and my friends do... I''m actuallly at her place now, she just got back in town and guess who was the first person she called, lol....

We are going to order wiseys, uhm uhm good!!!

People are People know matter what they do.....

You do have to understand:
--Many on here aren't interested in that kind of friendship
--Many have no idea how to make it work (they only want the free sex without the other parts)
--Many of these friendships will run their course and move on, just like any others
--Many guys are jealous

All told you will get a lot of guys saying "it can't work", when what they actually mean is they have been burned.

Wow, yeah it seems all these guys must have went into their situation expecting something, first of all she chose me, I never initiated contacting her, she asked me for my numbr, she called me first, and she invited me to come over and hang out, and from their we just vibed and have been kicking it strong.....



People are people no matter what they do......

JayG.......is this you?

I swear you write just like him. Too bad everything he posted was pure fantasy!

I think you mean, "Who is the provider WHO wants to hang-out with you."

If I were a provider after reading most of these responses, I would be offended at the overall perspective of a providers characteristics, if I didn't know better after reading all these negative responsess, my take away would be that all providers, are shady, can't be friends, only uses people, always have their hands out looking for a hook up, in general BAD PEOPLE, STAY CLEAR only use them for sex, but please don't consider them as human!!!!

U Guys Should Be Ashamed

People are People no matter what they do!!!!

....but there are always exceptions. I always remember the envelope....it makes things easier.

I am very VERY friendly with many of my clients sure but I don't confuse it with us being friends like  "friends friends".  I don't like to blur the hobby with my personal life.

You're an ACTUAL friend (to me) if I care to invite you to family functions and vice-versa .....that is all.

TrulyMsMocha,
I'm glad you took the time to chime in to get the perspective of an actual provider, and yes I think most providers would agree with you, and so do I. And yes I have met her parents, really nice people.

Thank you again for taking the time to chime in, U ROCK!!!

A client who was a regular of mine is one of my closest friends. It's been 5 years of friendship where we hang out, talk and do what friends do. Granted we don't sleep together. He fell on hard times and there was no fooling or games on either end. We grew into a different friendship and now I could never sleep with him. We are just fine with t. I value, love and adore him as a friend.

Well said!