Tried to keep my first post brief & pertinent, but now realize I should have provided more details regarding Rachaels unprovoked & deliberately malicious actions.

I am an IT sales exec, and have never been described as creepy.

I have never had a provider decline to see me, providers I contact for repeats are always happy to hear from me, and I have many postive refs. available from well reviewed established local providers.  I keep all phone converstions with providers professional, discrete & succinct.

I contacted Rachel on Mon. and set an appt for 11am Thurs.  She asked me to call an hr before.  Concerned abt the complete lack of screening & whether she had taken my request seriously on Mon, I called on Wed, leaving a msg confirming our appt, stating she didn't need to call me back, I'd consider our appt confirmed unless I heard differently from her. Thurs I got out of a mtg at 10am, listened to WTOP traffic on the eights, called Rachael & left a msg cancelling our 11am appt, explaining abt the truck accident on the beltway that had all 4 lanes of the outer loop closed at Old G'town Rd, & I wouldn't be physically able to get to her incall.  I also said I would try to find some time on Fri to reshedule.  Fri at 10am I called & we set an appt. for 12 noon, & the rest was documented in my previous post.

Rachael was treated with nothing but courtesy & respect, in the same prof. manner I treat all my business associates.

I don't normally post on the board (trying to keep my electronic footprint small) but after years of gleaning much useful info from the board felt obligated to post & warn.  

No shows happen -  but Rachael had plenty of opportunity to cancel, request references, or not take my final call.

Why turn malicious?  What if she snaps during a session & scratches someones back?  There are many local providers who deserve our business.  And ladies, would you want to be treated any differently?

Anyway, the warnings posted, take it or not.

That's the bottom line.  Impressions or gut instincts aside it's ultimately HER decision, and not yours.

. . . about the process than her decision.

What else is there left to say??

-- Modified on 3/7/2006 1:27:59 PM

Considering what she has said in this forum, it seems there is no animosity, just a big misunderstanding and some rookie mistakes.

Why not give her a second chance?  I am sure she feels bad enough about the incident that she would show you a really great time to make up for it.  You may end up reviewing her as highly as everyone else who's been lucky enough to see her.

-- Modified on 3/7/2006 2:11:57 PM

Looks she is into greek and bbbj. She is a winner in my court.

couldn't agree more.. you are in sales.... you know how it works.. it could have been worse.. it could be like one of those IT projects you sell and did not deliver.. (Sorry.. i am an IT buyer.. and i am always on the hunt for IT Sales guys ) .. no harm done.. no one lost any money.. sure some "heated" discussions.. but lets leave it at that.. just don't bother to go see her anymore.. play it safe

I will use me as a example.  I am a difficult person, and it is my claim to fame.

I have cancelled last minute due to getting a weird vibe from someone or their conduct being, at least to me, a little suspicious.  Some things that have set this off for me:

-Getting graphic about our session in an email or over the phone

-Calling to confirm more than once or twice, or emailing in the same fashion over and over

-Not following instructions (like call me 15 minutes prior to our meeting - and then he calls an hour before wanting exact information)

-Reading some weird behaviour from him on the board - capt - this would be one of those things (ie:posting the same thing twice about a provider, almost like you have an agenda)

There are of course many other things that happen.   Sometimes a guy does something a bit weird and I don't get that knot in my belly, but when I do, all bets are off.

I had one gent whom I had met before call me in my hotel room (apparently this was one place that would put through a call with just your first name and no room number - weird)... that flipped me out and I checked out of the hotel immediately... the guy couldn't understand why I was upset!!

However, I have also cancelled because I wasn't in the mood, and I am not a good faker... in fact, one time a client and I just laid around naked and talking for the full hour (no charge - since I wanted to go for coffee instead - HEY HOW DID I GET NAKED?!!)... it happens.

Anyhow, try to see your actions from the SPs side, it may not always be possible to do so, but if she offers you some instructions on what to do, don't push it, just do as she asks.  Most likely she has a routine, and that is why she asks you to do things her way.

I ask to be called 15 minutes prior... this is the time I do the final look around the room, and turn off my cellphone, rinse my mouth (I am a BIG coffee drinker) and prepare for the knock on the door.  That is my creating my secure space, through a kind of "ritual", calling me earlier, throws me off.

xoxox
Anik

-- Modified on 3/7/2006 9:15:09 PM

I was part of this same debate 2 months ago on these boards. Point is he was wronged not once but twice. First how he was treated which Rachael was gracious enough to offer an apology. Then By being called creepy on these boards which puts up a flag for providers that were considering seeing him. There was a misunderstanding and now the potential is there for him to be turned down by others who do not want to risk seeing him because of what rachael said. When I sat up here and defended myself because lacy practically called me a stalker I really didn't care. But then I wondered was someone I was interested in listening? It is much easier now to avoid seeing me rather than risk me being a weirdo all beacuse someone called me out on a misunderstanding. Don't think because we opporate behind aliases we are safe. Lot's of ladies have booking forms which ask your TER handle. Good luck Cptjack and I hope there was no damage done.

Unfortunately I have not had the opportunity to meet you in person (yet?) but always find your posts articulate and objective which seems to be a rarity around here sometimes.
At any rate I would just like to comment on the part of the discussion here involving confirming appointments.  Like many others here I'm sure, I typically have a very tight schedule and need to plan my appointments in advance.  I have had far too many situations where an appointment was made and confirmed, my time was committed - not just for the session but for travel as well - and I arrive to a no-show or someone 30 minutes late.  When I am unsure of a providers reliability this sometimes creates a need for a follow up confirmation before my time is wasted and while I realize you likely get far more e-mail and phone calls than you would prefer I consider my time potentially wasted on lateness or a no-show to be difficult to handle.

Then you're definitely not going to like the tinfoil helmet that I wear to every appointment (hey, if it keeps aliens away it might work for LE too!).

Seems like she has posted a No hunting and fishing sign with permission only from the land owner.

offered no weird vibe or been suspicious, not graphic in email or voice mail, didn't call or email too much, followed instructions, was pleasant on the board, did not "knot" her belly,did not call her room using her first name, was not pushy, did not call too soon, and she was in the mood, and was not thrown off. Congratulations.

That happens to everyone at some point, and probably a good deal of the time it is baseless. I think that capt kind of forced Rachel to respond because he made it a WARNING about her, rather than just stating that she no-showed him.

I don't know about you, but a no-show is not a WARNING qualifying antic... A simple, alert that she no-showed him would have been sufficient.  Am I wrong?  I wouldn't have taken a no-show alert into account as a bad thing on his part, but as I stated above, posting it again, and then turning her actions into being malicious, seems, well, malicious on his part.  

I do understand that this can end up to be a horrible pain the rear for a guy who was looking forward to some stress-relief, driven through horrible traffic and then come to find that the deal will not go through.  

That must be just as frustrating as it was for me when client who would have been new to me, no-showed me after setting up his birthday rendez-vous and I had bought a card, a little cake and some wine, dressed as he requested and waited a little more than 1/2hr sitting on the edge of the bed wondering WTF!

Life is full of stuff that will piss us off, but I prefer to focus on the pleasant stuff (like eating that little cake, and pleasing myself in that cute little outfit!lol)

xoxox
Anik

Listen, nothing is set in stone, but it doesn't hurt to hear a bit from the other side.  I don't mean to sound snide, or like I am giving a list of rules, sometimes, we just get a feeling in our gut.  I never hide the fact that I will only meet a person if I am totally into it... that is something I promised myself when I first started in this business.  I never want to be in a session and be wishing I were somewhere else... that is not fair to me, or the person spending their hand earned cash.

Sorry if that seems like too much, but that is my stand, and I haven't heard from any disgruntled guys saying I wasn't into it!

xoxox
Anik

A "no show" wouldn't have caused me to post - her deciding to send me to the wrong address was the malicious action that bothered me.  My 2nd post was intended to be more of a response to the various follow up postings from the hobbyist community.

Thank you for your reply.  Your reviews have been great and so are you.

I understand your frustration, but I highly doubt that she did this out of maliciousness.  She is new, didn't know how to handle the situation, maybe was afraid of your reaction if she told you straight out.  Not the smartest move on her part, but in no way does that warrant a WARNING... an advisory note, yes, WARNING, I think not.

Your reponse could have been placed in the earlier thread... you know that... com'on now, if you are seeking everyone to tell you she done you wrong, well, yes, she did... but if you expect that everyone is going to condemn her for making a mistake like that, I doubt that will happen.

Peace
xoxox
Anik