......than we had before the "rip off" thread appeared. It's never a good thing when someone gets ripped off but giving money to someone you don't know (in or out of the hobby) is just asking for it.  
Just as I predicted the drama went on for a day or two and everyone moved on. Even my two detractors who felt it necessary to chastise me for my opinion have not pursued the truth or enlightened us with a way to right this egregious wrong.  To them I say, better to use your brain before engaging your balls and be careful, the soap box can be an unstable platform to preach from.  

Of several of the replies and have tried to contact the provider and try to see if we could make it right.  When I asked the question in the first place it was  because this provider has 6 pages of reviews on ter.  I did not want to start a fire storm. I just wanted some advice from the board on what to do.
She still has not contacted me and I still am troubled by outing her.

Why? Just because she has 6 pages of good reviews? Or because you are not sure you got ripped off?  How do we know she has not done this before unless you out her? If you are not going to out her, then I think you should have followed dontgetit's advice by keeping quiet. You post is essentially worthless; why bother askng for advices when you know you are not going to follow them? I don't get it.

...You're troubled about outting her?!?!?  Really?!?!  You just held up your hard earned cash and gave it to the wind!  And you're troubled?  You're gonna make a good WK.

When I first asked for advice I did not know what I I wanted to do.  That is why I asked advice from the board.  Telling me that asking for advice before doing something is not worthless.  Once I put a name out there, I can not take it back.  I wanted to be very sure that I make the right decision.  And yes I did get ripped off.  I been hobbing for many years and never had this happen before.  
 I have met many great ladies in this town and have always trusted ter and datecheck to help me.  That is why this bothers me so much.

I did not want to believe that but in the absence of not even offering back channel information I am beginning to think that the whole story could have been made up. Sorry for being cynical.

Is the provider that you have this problem with, has she advertised since she NCNS on you.  
Has she post on TER or another site ??  

I think the fear of being trashed on the "provider only board" is the real reason he might be afraid of posting her name.

Let me first say I am really sorry this happened to you (providing your account is true). This sounds like something that is happening way to often. I do agree with the other members on the board that you should be a little more proactive about providing information regarding what happened with you and this provider. Reach out to her to find out why she accepted your deposit and did not show up and that you plan to post what happened on the board if you don't hear from her by the end of the week.  

she would read this board and based on the initial story should it be true,  she aready knows the OP, so what is to stop her from bashing him on the Provider's Only board  just to futher mess with him and even blacklist him and he would never know nor be able to defend himself because he never outed her first? What a no win situation.

He could at least offer to PM her info so others don't make the same mistake.  Not that most of us would front the money and try to take on 3 ladies at the same time.

I mailed these to your address....

Still working my sources to get the name..

A week is a long time for no response. I agree with the comment about checking for activity by her via ads and email and if you find any, that confirms you are being ignored and you should out her and her business practices. If not, then maybe something is terribly wrong and you should remain patient.....But, if your account is true and there is a '6 page reviewed' provider operating in such a way and stealing, well, I would like to know as I may be relying on her and her credibility as a partial reference at some point. Therefore, you put the entire community at risk in various ways by not doing your part as a member to keep everyone SAFE, not simply from getting ripped off, but SAFE as a whole. Shit rolls downhill you know? Just something to think about for the OP....

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People in good standing can screw things up... And both the genders can be guilty of it...

The reason for me posting the link was to give him an idea how he would be helping others. I do have to say that I think it unfair that just because this provider has 6 pages of reviews he feels reluctant to do what many would consider the right thing "outing" her.  

Ok..... I'll stay out of this one.

MAN RULE: 78:  

There are not that many well reviewed DC based providers with exactly 6 pages of reviews.  Take a look at the top 100 page and one might be able to start guessing who she might be