I am still holding out hope that I can find 4 or 5 local ladies that I can really hit it off with and just start seeing them as opposed to new / random “dates” all the time. I have found a couple of local ladies that I had a very good time with. Yet, there are still several local ladies that I would love to see, but they seem to make it so difficult. I can understand that everyone needs to be safe, and everyone has the right to go about ensuring that safety in their own way, but I really feel like some of the local ladies make it so difficult to come see them that it is not worth it. I know there are a lot of amazing ladies in this area, and I would honestly prefer to visit local ladies than the traveling ladies; however, IMHO many of the local ladies don’t seem to want or need the business. I have seen several traveling ladies recently, as opposed to local ladies, because they have simply made the process much simpler.  

What is worse is when you roll the dice and jump through all the hoops and then are stood-up.  Really?  That just makes it worse for the sisterhood because a monger (IMHO) is less likely to jump through all those hoops again.

... if you can't get them on their terms and obviously for their fee. There isn't much else you can do.

To pay their fee.

There must be some reason for their behavior.

Welcome to reality 101. The strong arm tactics of mid-western approach to LE has hit the mid Atlantic region with a vengeance and in many ways much worse. Things will be always be tough for newbies trying to see reputable providers.  

From your reviews it seems you already have seen some great local providers that I would consider go-to gals:

It is not setting a follow up appointment that is ever a problem. Getting the first appointment is. Stevie and Tamsen both took some work to see the first time. Very glad I saw them, but it did take a lot more work than I have had to put in to see some really great traveling ladies. Sara, which you .mentioned, very to schedule with, and not a crazy screening process. Same thing g with Marilyn. Maxwell who I just saw.

Random example. When a lady markets her self a certain way, to a certain demographic... and I don't fall into that demographic. I don't give her a second thought.

Ever since I joined P411 and accumulated enough OK's from highly-reviwed providers, I don't recall ever having to provide any additional info when I sent my request through P411. Almost all of them verified within a day, and most of them within hours. This is especially useful when you are on the road, and don't have time for the provider to check your references.

I screen the guy only to have him, at the very last minute, specifically say things that mean "Can I exchange money for sex with you" like "are you gfe, give bbbj, can I lick your coochie" etc... It ruins it and I can't see them.  The only way I talk specifics about an appointment, or send requested dirty texts and stuff, is if I've seen you already.  

it has to be easy. I'm not jumping through hoops for an escort. They have their rules, I have mine. I miss out on some ladies that have strict screening( I use P411. If a provider isn't a member I don't see them) or ask for personal info but I don't care. NHNF

I am still somewhat of a newbie but have been able to accumulate a few OKs on P411. I also communicate and book my appointments through the p411 system exclusively. And I have had very smooth screening experiences. p411 is by far the best investment I've made when it comes to this great hobby.

Here's my example. A couple of years ago I was a newbie (well, not exactly, but for the higher end ladies I was trying to step up to). I did my research on TER (VIP membership is worth the cost, certainly if you are contemplating $500/hr+) and found a lady I was really interested in seeing. Since she was well-reviewed and reputable, I had no qualms about providing the info requested on her screening form. I had no references, no P411 certification, no TER track record. Nonetheless, the screening information I provided allowed the lady to develop enough comfort wrt safety, LE, etc. to schedule the first appointment. Bottom line: It worked out great and I have been seeing her very happily on a regular basis for 2+ years. The moral of this story is that if one does one's homework and is confident that the lady is the real deal, then what's the problem with providing the info she needs to feel safe?

the locals know the scene here better and know more about the risks very often and in my opinion are safer to visit

I really don't understand, if someone has several reviews and several white listings, why would a lady still need 3 or 4 references?  

That a lady should easily be able to look at my profile here, and know that I am legit. She should be able to look at my white listings from very reputable ladies, and know that I am not dangerous or crazy.

and give out your handle - how are you going to prove that you are "you" ?

This time your just wrong.

because LE has set up accounts here and

She can't just Okay you without your request (they just changed the rule). Before, a provider can give OK's without clients' requests. Also, a provider must respond to an OK request within a certain time limit. If she does not wish to Okay a request, she must specify a reason. Providers seem to pay more credence to P411 OK's IMO. Whitelist helps but it is definitely not a substitute for OK's/references

It just doesn't make since to me.

I agree that providing multiple additional references probably doesn't add much value in your case, but there are still many legitimate reasons beyond safety for a lady to want other types of additional screening information. For example, she could have another profession or other civilian activities that she would prefer to keep separate from her escorting. It would be very awkward meeting a gentleman and discovering he's a member of her church group!

Who they guys or the girls?

is when I get blind sided with the verification process when I'm practically at the door.  I arranged an appointment with one provider over the phone who did not ask me for any verification data until I was outside her hotel.  She wanted me to to take a picture of my business card or other identifying info and text it to her over the phone.  In this day and age, I do not do that under any circumstance.  So I ended up wasting my time driving to her location, when she could have asked up front.  

how do you know how the safety of your info will be kept?

her. I wouldnt even consider seeing someone like that.

For safety reasons, the minimum requirement is the real name and to verify that the person matches that name.

Everyone has the right to determine his or her threshold of comfort, especially when it comes to screening.

I doubt that any provider worth her salt would feel "bugged" by you or by another provider in regards to a reference, so I wouldn't worry about it. We ask for and respond to reference requests all the time. This is part of what we do in this line of work. It is expected. It is not a nuisance as long as it is provided with adequate time to respond (like at least a few days).

Screening is not a finite process, and screening is not a guarantee. Just because you "pass" screening does not mean the provider will then agree to see you. A lot factors into it. Providers have preferences, too. They are not obliged to see someone just because they pass screening.

Traveling ladies are here to work & be oncall so of course they will(or should be) easy to reach/book since their reason for being here is to work.