lady based on a review of mine.
I believe I need to correct a wrong that I inadvertently inflicted
on a young lady at PureGirlfriends. In a review I wrote regarding Madison, I unfortunately made an unwise word selection, a choice resulting in misunderstanding and an emotional wound. Words can inflict pain and adversely affect reputations, and they obviously did in this case. She was understandably offended, because those who read the review could likely conclude that she is perhaps a “bimbo”: an attractive but empty-headed young woman. That term definitely does not apply to her, and it was never my intent to imply such. On the contrary, she is a serious student, a very bright young lady, someone pursuing a difficult course of study at a highly respected university.
When I reread the narrative section of the review, I found the section that I think was being referenced by one of my critics who said I depicted her as a “bimbo”: “But the fact is, we seemed to connect only in a very superficial way—there was no real substance below the surface.” That comment referred to what I perceived as the lack of fire on her part—i.e., passion, emotional bond, and not anything more than that; this comment definitely was not intended as a reference to an empty-headed “bimbo.” Also, that was only an opinion, perhaps a poorly formed one, nothing more; it clearly was not an objective evaluation of what she may have been experiencing in the depth of her being.
In addition, and perhaps more of minor matter, is the performance evaluation. I evaluated the performance as a 6, a “nice time.” Reviewing again in my mind the totality of the experience, I could have--perhaps should have--been more magnanimous, making that evaluation no less than an 8, “went the extra mile.” That day, she literally did go the “extra mile,” making a special trip to accommodate me on her day off, since she was not scheduled to work on Saturday. She interrupted her schedule as a favor to Sara…so ultimately for me. She did not have to be there that day—perhaps the cynics do get it right: “No good deed goes unpunished.”
This post, hopefully, may help assuage at least some of personal hurt that has been suffered and hopefully may correct at least some of the damage that may have been done to a good reputation, one that is supported by her other reviews on TER by folks with less niggardly propensities. All I can say is “mea culpa”! Will definitely try to be more careful in the future and apologize for any pain inflicted.
