I have had several experiences where I see a provider for a half session to have light conversation roll into the main course then to completion.  WE lay and chat and find very good conversation.  Often times it has rolled into considerable time like 2.5 hours.  Now is the girl expecting the hr rate?  Or is the session for the actual act only when the provider continues the conversation?

I always ask how long we are getting together for.  You are really paying for my time, nothing else Anything else that occurs is between 2 consenting adults!  Key thing for an appointment to go well, for both parties, is communication, don't you think?

that you are mostly seeing BackPage "hotties". That's a hottie with quotation marks - BTW..

It sounds like you have just been very fortunate to find several ladies that you have a good rapport with.

Take your clothes, get the fun in, then talk afterwords.

Get the fun in, and Get the fuck out.. LMAO

like that.

Unless you are with a streetwalker or a low-end BP lady, you are paying for her time and not just a menu choice. If she is with you, even just talking, she can't be with someone else or doing something else.

I think several of the responders missed the OP point.  Some of the ladies he has been seeing have been generous with OTC time and he is asking what the protocol is for compensating them.

Why that particular provider thought about, the compensation for her time in hindsight?

COULDN'T HAVE SAID IT BETTER, ANGELINA!!!  Besides, who spends a half hour anymore, really?

Posted By: AngelinaDDD

I always ask how long we are getting together for.  You are really paying for my time, nothing else Anything else that occurs is between 2 consenting adults!  Key thing for an appointment to go well, for both parties, is communication, don't you think?

As much as it is her "job" to lay down the expectations I think you should have the common courtesy to tip her.
Yes she may enjoy your company and obviously the time goes with company you enjoy.. BUT to go from .5 and end with over 2 hours of company by all standards you should have tipped her.
I'm very chatty and I do go over time with some of my favorites. I too have had this to happen but the guys have tipped me very generously for having the ability to stay without me looking over my shoulder at my clock. With that said because you have ones who think like a couple of you as- her loss, not about the niceness of the gesture- just lets say, I get you on your way! Lesson learned!!!

do you wanna let out of the box?

So if I left a donation for a hour of a providers time and only stay for 45 minutes can I get I get a refund for the other 15 minutes.  

Sure it is, but that wasn't the question nor part of the statement. Or did you just skip the entire  
thread to entertain yourself?

Sometimes, it can be awkward for us to mention extending. I would suggest doing something similar to a girl who does an outcall; as the time comes up, stand up and get ready to go. If she really does want you to stay, she'll ask. If she doesn't, she won't. I've had several people do that, and it was a much more comfortable way for me to either ask them to stay or ask if they would like to continue their date.  

...since she's the one that's not supposed to be the clockwatcher you keep better track of the time and leave when you see the date has went considerably over the time you were supposed to have paid for.

I dressed and prepared to leave but they kept on with the conversation while I made it clear that I was leaving.  I felt like they were lonely.  It wasn't like we continued to have sex the whole while.  It's hard to explain the scenario.  I will also tip extra if I haven't paid in advance.

"Baby I have to go now."

In a session I take off my watch and my glasses, so I can't tell time. She's the service provider, I expect her to keep track of time.

Let me ask this. When having a conversation outside of a P4P scenario, do you find yourself to keep on talking after you have excused yourself, or the other party has done the same?

to my hotel room. I plan activities for the time allotted. But it is up to the lady to leave, either she is done, or has something else to do. More times than not, the lady stays longer. But that is up to her. A couple of times they have turned into overnights, although I haven't taken advantage of them the next morning.

Where is the grey area? If we tell a client "Hey our time is up," it will reflect in a review somewhere. But if we say nothing, then we get the ones who like to stay way past their time.

......then we get told it's our responsibility to keep track of the time (as to not be taken advantage of). Oh boy.

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I do occasionally characterize a lady as rushing me. . . when she rushes me.

I vote to keep doing nothing or tip.
- I think the OP may simply have a great rapport with these ladies, and is interested in them as individuals.  Some people are just like that.  
- He said in passing 'maybe they were lonely'. Likely true. And that has been reported by researchers who study providers. So good for him for hanging out.  
- people complaining about backpage girls should calm down.  It works for him. He has strikeouts, but also many gems

I agree with Joe here. The provider is the professional and should be able to manage time effectively. The client should not be expected to do this themselves, although the client should be sensitive to the time. As was said, a professional provider will gracefully manage the client to assure the time is well used. If the provider wishes to continue on their own that is up to them. Should this happen, it is the provider making the decision to continue beyond time, not the client. If this is an issue for the provider, as it well may be, the provider should so indicate either by reminding the client that time is up or by suggesting an extension as said earlier.  

Unless you picked up someone off the street, or one of your friends pimped girls....you are not paying for ***ANY specific act (s)*** Am I the only one completely shocked by your post? It doesn't matter if you spend 15 minutes together or 3 hours! You arranged for a specific amount of ***time***, and whether you shared snacks and talked, or got very intimate you didn't pay for WHAT YOU GOT OR DIDN'T GET. Whether you stay the agreed amount of time, or leave early...you pay for the *agreed upon time*. UNLESS, you stay over...then you are paying for that *extra* time.  

You should never have to do that.  The client needs to know the time. At 55 minutes he needs to be putting on his pants. Assume nothing except that the time is up wen it is up.  

when you start getting dressed.

lady needs me to get out of her life she will indicate thus.  I have many times been with a lady & we had a good vibe going on & when I finally left I realized I'd been there 20 minutes or 1/2 hour over our scheduled time.  I've always considered that if the lady didn't say anything then I had no obligation to add compensation for her time.  I have one or two regulars ladies with whom I know that most of our engagements are open-ended and we'll talk and sip wine for a good while after the scheduled time and neither of us expect there's any additional compensation expected.  With new ladies, I try to be conscious of the time and will say 'How much time do we have left' (if I have my glasses off I can't necessarily see the clock).  If she says 'Oh maybe 10 minutes' I'll begin to find my clothes & shoes & stuff; if she says 'Never mind' or words to that effect (like don't worry about it) I figure she isn't pressed for time and would like to continue our encounter/conversation.  I've only had a problem with this once, when we kept talking after the event & ended up spending about 2 1/4 hours when we'd scheduled 1 1/2 and the lady wanted more compensation; even though I pointed out that we'd booked 1 1/2 hours and that most of our time out of the actual acts consisted of her talking and she never mentioned the time or hinted that I should leave, she was adamant that I owed her.  So I eventually offered up an additional fee, even though I still felt I was in the right, just didn't want any more hassle. But I stick to my principle, if I've agreed to a fixed time and the provider never mentions the time or hints I need to leave or our time is up then it's on her.  She's managing her time, I'm not.  But I am much more  aware of the time than I was before.

then I'm unlikely to feel obliged to compensate you for additional time that we didn't overtly agree to.  There are a lot of ways to hint that the time is up; 'You need a shower before you leave?' is a classic, any guy that doesn't get that is a zombie, or 'I've got to take a shower' or 'I need to go get some lunch.'  But you know, if we're having a great conversation, I've got both my watch & my glasses off so looking around the room to determine the time isn't a slam dunk, if the provider doesn't give a hint that time is up I don't see how I should feel obligated to pay for more time.  A tip yes, and if there is sexual activity going on in the extra time then surely pay for the extra time, but if we're just having a great conversation & no one mentions the time then I do not feel obligated.

I schedule a certain amount of time with a lady. She usually set the tempo of our engagement.  I've had times when I've left a few moments before the hour I've had times where I've stayed a few minutes over. I've had providers ask if I was hungry and wanted to go get something to eat. I was a gentleman and paid for there dinner. I didn't pay for her time. Wasn't my idea. I didn't invite her. I wouldn't have gone for dinner if she wouldn't have brought it up. I've only had this happen since I've been hobbling in the DC/Baltimore area and it has happened on several occasion over the last 3.5 years. I come on a date with a budgeted amount of money and I don't plan to go over.

I am just curious about your statement "It amazes me that someone in 2013 cannot differentiate between a brothel hooker or street walker and a companion".

No..not necessarily. There have been several times where gentleman are widows and do not have intimate relations, more then massage, hottub cuddling in bathing suits and never getting fully un dressed. Or those who just like to watch. Also, plenty of friends like to spend the whole time pleasing me...my point is no, not every lady is providing the same service. Also there are huge differences between intimacy and quick acts, and it isn't all either of you are getting.