The timing and volume of my activity in the hobby can, like you, fluctuates. I deplore the verification process but I fully understand it and submit to it’s requirements. You’re probably suffering from what I suffer from as I also have been doing this for double-digit years (Anais was a favorite of mine) with the only goal being to have a wonderfully sexy time with a sexy lady. I’m sane; never been to jail; never done anything to warrant going to jail; a fine upstanding, taxpaying citizen; college educated, professional; etc, etc, etc. So I say to myself….why would a provider need to be cautious of me?!?!?!
I write using my alias because frankly I feel the screening/verification process is overrated and overhyped to a point. Yes, I get the need to have a process to ensure safety but some of the hoops are unnecessary. Case in point, I make a appointment with the provider and provide my employment info along with the fact that she had my TER info. She says she is good with the info and we are a go after she verifies the info was correct. I even asked her does she need anything else and she replies "no, I'm good." I get to the room and she asks to see my ID, huh (I never have my wallet on me during a session)? She apologizes that she didn't let me know of the requirement over the phone. I return to the car and for a brief moment considered leaving but I relented, got my ID and returned to the room. She looked at my license and we were a go. Had the session which was uneventful as sessions with providers go. The go-back-to-the-car buzz kill didn't help either. With that said....a few howevers:
However 1; the parties to this very intimate transaction/arrangement/tryst are total strangers and in all due reality the screening/verification process should be done by both parties to ensure the safety and investment return of both parties. Hey the trick/John can get hit in the head and “taken” just like the provider. So I get the need for the whole screening/verification thing.
However 2; I’m not comfortable with giving out my personal info to date-check/verification sites and independents who DO NOT have a staff to ensure my PPI is secured and/or destroyed. Their focus is the appointment. In addition, I’ve seen too many Madams, Agencies, and Indies alike get busted and the news story reads…… “they have retrieved the lap tops and will be reviewing the client lists of these providers for potential legal action….” The DC area has had two highly publicized cases of Madams being busted and the threat of outing their Client List. Huh, will I have to suffer the Perp walk on the six o’clock news? While the chances of that happening are slim…there is the chance none-the-less which I can’t afford to have happen AT ALL.
Hence, I offer the following:
1. Per my double digit years doing this, the point of providers who DO NOT screen and/or “overly” screen somehow provide less service is overhyped! I have routinely gone several months without hobbying and yes when you dive back in it can be like starting all over net of making appointments with ATFs and ladies who I’ve been regular with over the years. And yes it is true even with these ladies they don’t provide references if you have not seen them in the last six months which is OK with me and I actually admire as it does give the reference process, at least by the specific providers who have this policy, some credence. Hence, I simply make an appointment or two with ladies who do not have a rigorous screening process and some who don’t even screen at all. My experience doing this allows for me to have keen Spidy senses and if I get a bad vibe from so called “risky non-screeners” I move on. Bottom line…you may lose out on a lady or two you want to see because you don’t fit her screening/verification policy. However, there are many, many, viable, alternative candidates out there. After establishing yourself again you can go back and arrange meetings with those “must see’s” that you missed earlier. Or, you may have a V8 moment and simply conclude the alternative was sufficient.
2. Yes, TER and doing reviews is invaluable. Under my non-alias I have a history of reviews the ladies can refer to. While there may gaps in activity there is a strong history there none-the-less. I even have been WhiteListed. None if this has a PPI risk for the most part. So do some reviews.
Good Luc