Like the civvie relationships, every relationship is different. Some are dependent on your income, some just want sex, and some just need that friend in their life. As with my previous civvie relationships, sometimes I want to end it for several reasons but I feel kinda guilty just ending it and I gradually just fall away into the shadows. For example, one civvie relationship, the sex was good, but as with most girls, they give up on their looks and how they behave and interact with others. First meet her, she was keeping up on appearances and I didn't mind being out in public with her. After a while, she got way too comfortable and think that I  or the public would care or view a type of individual as how they behave, dress, and interact with others. As with one of my friends, his wife for 16 years gave up on her looks and doesn't look attractive at all. Not only that, she acts kinda foolish, almost, kinda crazy. I told him, why the hell are you still with that women. Doesn't she hold you back or don't you see the kinds of reactions on how the public view her? He said, it really doesn't matter because he cares for her and she is dependent on me.

Really? Seriously?  

I have no problem telling any woman, real or imaginary, and imaginary is more fun BTW, that the relationship is over. I don't do it via texts or emails, I do it in person. The old way.  I may even keep her around for a while. Being around a real man may want her to to start taking care of her appearance. Can you imagine what a drag on her self image it would be to keep a douche like you around? lol

He is so pathetic that he can't even spin new stories anymore.  

She has to know that you are married.  Tell her your wife is starting to nose around and get suspicious and you need to scale back for awhile.

I have had similar situations in the past, if you would like ot discuss, please feel free to PM me.

Interaction of- sex with an escort  for money- with a relationship that they didnt even want anymore with their ex

"However, I have been paying a few of her bills, which is technically normal for this type of relationship. "

My two cents -- whether it's lady in business, client or in your circumstance (someone that was) -- be honest about it. And if it's a circumstance where lines got blurred like yours, all the more reason to be sensitive about it. Otherwise, among other things, the good memories could get "washed out" by your exit strategy and everyone ends up worse off. And don't drag it out. If you are not sure you want to end it, then don't. If you are sure, then do. If you are confused about the staus if things, say so. But don't lie, including attributing reasons to others (eg SOY if they in fact are not true.

Dude, you are clueless. It's a biz about money. Feelings and honesty don't matter to us or the ladies. You nuts, seem to be

Helping her to the point she depends on you is a tough place to be in. There has been a few of us gents that have aided a lady or two that has decided to move on.  But I learned early on not to go beyond friends, you are really not helping her to move on.  She needs to find that guy (not with a SO) and share her "new direction" in life with.  Help her get a better job, going back to school,  showing her how to get college loans / grants, if she has a degree.  Help her with developing her resume and job hunting techniques.  Just last week I helped a lady friend with her resume, posting on the web, following up on jobs she applied for, things are looking better for her, she has two interviews next week (no sex and no $$ out of my pocket).  I suggest stop the sex and pull away from paying her bills, ie let the cable TV get turned off, downgrade from a smartphone to a basic phone.  Sometimes doing without motivates some to do what it takes to improve.  If you are a true friend, you will help her develop her "new" life without the sex and if all possible without $$$.    I hope this helps

One handed economists, as opposed to those that saw things on one hand then the other. Problem with lawyers too.  Moral relativism.   People are reluctant to be honest and call out those that are not for the "good of the order" sometimes, not always. More maybe later.

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