Usually something happened. Escorts often have messy lives and when the shit hits the fan, they have to take care of matters and they tend not to be so good at cancelling appointments or even giving notice. It has also happened to me a few times in the past. I just move on.
I am just curious as to why a lady would advertise her service or post on the ad board - quite frequently - but then go radio silent after an initial contact has been made?
Recently I emailed a provider to schedule a one-hour session. We exchanged a number of emails to get acquainted (she researched some of my posts on this board and we had a very nice exchange). We set a day and time to meet.
The provider asked that I contact her earlier in the day of the appointment to confirm. I happened to be online so we exchanged a series of emails in rapid succession on what our expectations were, etc. (like texting but thru email). My last email to her was simple to say I was looking forward to seeing her and then asked where to meet. From that moment on - silence.
About an hour later - I emailed her to again confirm and to finalize the location. Again silence.
The time for the appointment came and went.
I know things happen from time to time (I've been doing this hobby for quite a while). A few days later I sent here an email asking if she was OK and then suggesting another day/time for us to meet. Again silence - no response at all.
I am not sure what happened but a few days later she posted in the ad board about her service. I didn't contact her again because as it just seemed moot. I thought perhaps it was something about me but given the number of reviews I've made on this board over the years - and - I suggested she contact anyone that I had recently visited in my very first email that she did respond to, I am really not sure why she decided not to see me.
I was just wondering why someone would advertise their service but then go radio silent. Just curious....
Usually something happened. Escorts often have messy lives and when the shit hits the fan, they have to take care of matters and they tend not to be so good at cancelling appointments or even giving notice. It has also happened to me a few times in the past. I just move on.
Maybe something you said could've spooked her off?
Maybe one of the providers she spoke to had some "not-so-nice-things" to say about you
She posted an ad again a few days later on the ad board, that means she is okay and had received your emails but chose to ignore you. Listen, I've seen and spoken to a lot of providers and one thing they tell me is that some guys get way too personal and ask some inappropriate questions or request in the emails. Some guys send way too many emails to providers before the appointment. That is a turn off for some providers.
Listen, your not getting to know her, your just paying to fuck her. I do all of my talking while we're in person. Some guys just don't understand that. She's not your email exchange buddy. Don't forget to always treat email exchanges professionally. The maybe send about two or three email exchanges max to a provider prior to an appointment. The initial screening email, the response to her email, and the confirmation email (can be a day or the day of the appointment). I don't go sending like ten emails asking how her day was and can't wait to see her, flirt with her, send her my damn photo (why do guys feel it is necessary to send a provider their photo: that's what the ladies tell me), and all of this personal questions.
Just because she has confirmed you as having several whitelistings, provider reference, and know you as safe, that doesn't give you the right to ask all of these damn questions and treating her like she's your personal email exchange buddy. That shit is annoying to some girls. You know how many emails a provider gets when she is touring? You probably turned her off with all of your damn emails and questions.
If she is offering a fetish, be passive about it and don't go into details. For example, I am looking for my greek excursion with you. Pay her the fee extra fee when you get there. Or if you need to make a dress request, say, I like girls with high heels and a mini skirt and hopefully you can accommodate me. That's all you need to say, don't go asking too many damn questions because that shit can be annoying.
You probably left something out in your post, but she chose to ignore you for some other reasons. But from what I gather, you probably turned her off with all of the damn questions and request you had over email and she felt uncomfortable seeing you and so she ignored you.
I don't do a lot of communication on email. Like I said earlier, first email is for screening, second email is for responding, and third email is confirmation the day or a day prior to the appointment. Some of you guys get too damn personal on your email and that can turn a provider off. I keep it strictly professional at all times and do the majority of talking when I'm actually there with her.
She set a time and date and then went silent.
All she had to do was say she felt uncomfortable and didn't want to see him. End of story. To me she is unprofessional and a flake for pulling this crap.
There are a few shaky ladies around here also - don't always assume it's him
Geez - - lighten up dude. I did not ask her any questions. I was merely answering the ones she posed to me. Nothing elaborate. Nothing detailed or personal. She asked. I answered. I didn't mean for my post to get you all riled up.
Plenty of other women out there willing to take your money, lol. it's a buffet out there.
I understand if you had seen her several times and then something went wrong it be cause for concern.
...but a 1hr appointment ain't even good enough not to get you kicked out for a dude paying more money for a longer session if ya dealing with an Indy in some cases. Nature of the beast.
Or Maybe a former girl you saw/reviewed said you smell like hot dog water etc. and some girls ain't willing to put up with that, haha. Be careful who you review......
They always bitch about how precious their time is. Isn't ours?
The fellow who was ignored should probably count his blessings. A very popular FBSM provider (now gone and good riddance) who worked out of Dupont Circle area LEFT ME HANGING in the lobby of the hotel. My cell phone calls for the room number went unanswered. I rode the metro back home fuming. Better to be ignored before you leave home. Does any client want to drive all the way to a location that will soon become a blind alley?
A well reviewed provider is a guarantee of......nothing. The provider who left me hanging in the lobby of that hotel had pages and pages of stellar reviews. She led me into the garden and turned the hose on me.
She got a better offer. She didn't know what to say to you, so she went radio silent. At least that tells you she felt some tinge of guilt. And it is better than making up some screwball story that is unbelievable.
Been there, got several T-shirts. My suggestion is to move on. Also, have a backup plan for when you want to hobby - who would you also like to see that could be a possible last minute notice. Could get pre-screened with several ladies to make that part easier. Or someone you have seen before.
And, think about scheduling multi-hour appointments. Cuts down on the ladies getting a better deal at the last minute.
Just my $0.02.
and decided to blow you off. You picked the worst time of the month to get an appointment. Many providers only provide at the end of month, they are not really into it.