Seems like this is hard to find. Lots of providers in New York City, for example, but DC lacks FBSM providers who also offer kink sessions. Any recommendations?

Honestly, your best bet is probably getting on Seeking Arrangements, brother.

mean fetish?  
many do... just do research.  

After the crisis Is over...

Like a fantasy body rub. This is for some reason really difficult to find in DC, but in other cities, it definitely exists.

Like a normal erotic massage but there'll be a fetish or fantasy element added in. Tons of possibilities, such as the cheating confessional girlfriend or something.

Used to be specialty of her and her group. Lost track of that LD. But other hot and fit bikini bodies to give good rubs i am sure

A lot of listing have a yes/no option for BDSM.  The problem is, BDSM is not a yes/no thing.  There are varieties of  B, there are varieties of  D,  and whether the provider offers S or M or both is pretty important.    

Plus on some websites like EM, BDSM seems to be a default setting.

I am always reading about how providers had to learn to be dommes because that was where the demand was.  But from what I can tell, there are very, very few submissives or switches among providers and most of those are in the NYC area.  

Now, on Seeking Arrangement or Secret Benefits quite a few girls advertise  as 'submissive' but my experience has been that the girls there think being submissive means they don't have to move during sex.

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