Amazing. Well written and accurate.
Thank you so much for your kind words and advice to other hobbyists. You are so far the wisest I have encountered. This message you have sent to all Newbies should be written in Stone!
I always wondered if men really knew the emotional drain it can be to put yourself out there as a woman, being excited and always having that bit of fear in the back of your mind that you could easily become an episode of Law and Order when meeting a new client.
As a proivider; asking for Information and Verification is absolutely necessary, for our own personal safety. We have an ABSOLUTE RIGHT to that information!!! Just as you have a right to KNOW and TRUST that we will use discretion and privacy.
It is very discouraging when we need the dinero to either get back on our feet, or pay a bill,or even just to get our hair done. Whatever the reason or need when we are given a hard time about needing to verify names and needing references it's a personal blow. We are business people JUST as you, and should NOT be EVER made to feel worthless, or like a used car.
Shame on the men who get off on trying to make us feel bad about ourselves.
We work very hard to not let our emotions get the best of us, but to be badgered about our costs, belittling us does not feel good, you would be suprised after days of phony calls and IM's that just wanted to bullshit you, men who want to donate less and less to your personal cause ,yourself. Bottom line, it is exhausting and hurts. WE may work endless hours, you'll never know; on IM, email, phonecalls, webcam sessions. We are people, Most of all women! There are many reasons you may or may or not guess why we have fallen into or chosen this profession. By all means NOT all of us have fallen into it, Some of us NEVER had bad childhoods, just really ENJOY our job, meeting people, and the power of our Sexuality, traveling and excitement!
Whatever the reason we chose to do this for a living, we are people, and a hobbyist does not always realize how deeply they can emotionally, or even physically hurt a provider. Now MOST are just great guys....but there are the few who are just plain assholes with no intention of ever seeing us, or are totally scary and try to withhold their identity making the risk higher and higher to come meet with you. That is not fair, IF you TRUST in US that you Will GET what YOU Need from us, We also should be trusted with enough info that we feel safe. Some girls require more or less than others. It is clearly a personal choice.
Please think about who you chose before you do, make sure you READ her reviews and see if her persona and disposition SUIT YOU PERSONALLY. A hobby is at its best when you can have a "chemistry" connection with your provider as far as what your both looking for and are comfortable with! It is then the best of the GFE can surface. When she is comfortable and does not feel threatened.
Also, please know we DON'T all want to be Rescued or Saved, We don't all want to hear about how we are pretty and we should do something else with our lives. You have NO RIGHT to EVER pity us.
You would be suprised how many of us hold down a household,or are educated, or even just making it smoothly on our own, or are sucessful in many other areas of our life. Those personal details are not included in the fantasy we provide. So don't assume we are helpless street walkers who all need to be helped or need unsolicited advice about the direction of our lives.
Yes, we all have moments in our lives when we may have to start anew, or rebuild. But that's EVERY one in life, and that's how the cookie crumbles when we chose this businesss.It's hit or miss, feast or fammon. But girls can really do well and become very sucessful more so then you could imagine.
But that gives NO ONE the right to intentionally try to scare or be cruel. We know with all the efforts we put in, not every inquiry will turn into and actual appt. But we certainly treat each person as though it will, doing our best to accomadate for more photos,personal phone calls to make the hobbyist intriqued and want to see us.
But you Sir, your advice and level of empathy have given you an inside to the real world of what we may possibly go thru. At some point in our careers or every day , whatever or whenever it has given you a keyhole to our private walls. To understand this world, the other side of it and what it takes to protect our emotions as business women.
From the bottom of my heart, and from the strongest part of my business mind; I thank you. Personally Thank you. You are perhaps the smartest hobbyist I have ever come across. Your knowledge will be appreciated by so many. Thank you for taking the time to write this, and feel this in your mind and in your soul as a human being.
xOXOx
Scarlett
