From a previous discussion that at times was amusing and at times mean spirited one particular line has gnawed at me for awhile:

"And yes, there are differences between a Ford and a Mazerati, but ultimately, pussy's still pussy."

If pussy was just pussy I'd fuck my wife a lot more and save a lot of money.  If pussy was just pussy that annoying women at my club who hits on me would get eaten like there's no tomorrow.

When I think about the above quote I often wonder what exactly our community is made of.  I wish there was study. Maybe we are choosing to be online "buddies" with people we have absolutely nothing in common with. Maybe I'm the only maried guy looking for a fantasy, for a great escape, to party like a rock star.  Maybe I'm the only one who doesn't look like I used to in college and can't pick up the hottest girl in the bar anymore.

I was wondering if guys would care to share what brought them here?

Hi dude! Gee, as for me, I was just as unattractive in college, and could only pick up the laughs of the hot girls, anywhere! LOL!
To continue your thought,
'The 'hobby' is the thing, wherein to catch the conscience of the king!'
With apologies to Mr. Shakespeare, for my poor iambic pentameter!!

dc!

In the most basic of ways, yes, pussy is just pussy.  

However the hobby allows those us ugly, bald, chubby, old guys to be able to get the pussy wrapped in a gorgeous package, with an owner who makes us feel like kings and allows us to do what only our imagination would ever let us do before......

So, back to rating the pussy (and it's owner!)

And for some of us, its all about the power of seeing that some greenbacks will get a woman to do a bunch of stuff that you would had to have taken a long time of dates to get her to do for free.  plus, not attachments either!  and well there is always the age difference as well.  no way am I going to go to a bar and try and to pick up an 18-20 year old but hell, I will give her $300 if she is in town and hot enough to....

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...that you think about this too much. Heaven is different things to different people. You could study someone for decades and never understand why yellow is his favorite color or cheese his favorite food. Be happy we're not all after the same things, or prices would be through the roof for those few ladies.



As for what brought ME here: after a pathetic showing in high school and college, followed by 15 years of a nearly sexless marriage, I decided I wasn't going to die without having lived. The thing that I love the most, have always loved the most, and always will love the most is: women.

So I started this hobby with goal of sleeping with 100 different women before I die. Since then I've run into a few that I'd love to see again (and again), but for the most part "new" keeps calling to me. The hobby gives me a chance to be the lothario that genetics and chance did not.

Until a couple years ago,I would have never looked at a young lady (19-25).Then I meet this 22 yr lady and I was hooked, ok she turned me out and took all my money but I love every minute of it. LOL

loose pussy is boring pussy. Tight pussy makes me sing with glee. Tight pussy is like the ninth wonder of the world. That is why I am a hobbyist.

Scampr..

As the author of the post, I must admit to several things..

First, it was merely intended to show the differences between a Ford and a Mazerati and a pussy basically the same from person to person.. YES, there is the magic and allure and all the differences that make women all different and exciting..  But in context, it was more about a $$$ pussy not really being that much worse than a $x20 pussy.. That's all I meant by it.  And in fairness to an awful lot of incredibly awesome $$$ ladies, maybe it was a bad comparision.  

In regards to your post and the others, I must admit to a lot of the same things.. My laughter was asking out a few girls in HS who thought I just had to be kidding.  I was the nerd, and the loser among losers.. I was the 5th wheel all the time.  So, it was never any fun to see all my friends going out, sometimes with 'girls' and sometimes with the hotties.. But never me.  In all truth, I rarely asked.  I got tired of rejection.  I had ugly late 60's era glasses, a greasy hair cut and really dorky clothes.. So, what was I to suspect? I was never cool.

Today, I can give that $$$ to the babes who'd have laughed at me in school, have my fun and move on without remorse or guilt as we both got what we wanted for that moment in time.

Seems others had the same experiences.. But for me, the comment was not about the PERSON.. it was about the differences between dollar values.  There are some truly amazing women out there.. I'd so looked forward to seeing Katie, til our 'issue'. I even wrote her and apologized, yet she's not seen fit to bother responding.  

On the other hand, I guess while these hour long love affairs have a purpose, I have lately been finding myself wanting more.  I've found I want someone to kiss me because she wants to kiss me, not because I've paid her to.  It's why I've been hobbying less and less.  I still love the banter in here, even when I ruffle some feathers, but I have found the hour experiences hollow and vacant.  There's nothing to feel or dream about 5 minutes after leaving her.  So, I keep looking for someone who's looking for a more friendship based relationship.  

Pussy's all the same.  The ladies are not.  That's what makes us human.

--JB

I'm not paying them for sex...I'm paying them to leave...

If I were single, it's highly likely that I wouldn't hobby at all.  I'm only 31, fairly handsome, and successful.  I could meet women in clubs, bars, etc...but that would get "messy".

This is a somewhat "safe" way to exercise my promiscuous urges, and minimize any extraneous drama.

and I like the "guaranteed" aspect of things...

Lump me in with Lue and the gang.  After 13 years and 4 kids with my Italian-Catholic wife, it occurred to me that the good parts about our sex life got worse, and the bad parts stayed bad.  Namely, her body and sex drive went bad (hard to hold it against her after 4 kids) and she never shook her Catholic training against really cutting loose in the sack.  I found myself with a soft belly, a hard cock, a vivid imagination and a few bucks in my pocket.  Seducing women would be a stretch for me, at best, so what's wrong with a fool happily parting with his money?  Call me selfish, call me crazy, but to me it sure beats marriage counseling and hiding a few pornos around the house!

I agree with the two of you.  I am still young enough to have a chance with some of these girls in a club, but then you have all the bull$hit that goes with it.  Spending money on someone who is not a sure thing and going home with blue balls is a waste of my time.

It reminds me of a good line from Pretty Woman.  I want a professional because I don't need any of the romantic hassles that go with a relationship.


I have a special girl that I love, but she can't fill all my needs so I have the hobby to help.  It keeps my life rounded.  Now if we could just do something about the prices!!!!

I'll admit your not the ONLY guy, married or not, looking for a fantasy. I'm single, No S.O. or whatever. I'm fantasy prone, fulfilling my fantasies is something I've always wanted to do but it took a while to get the courage up to do something about it but once I started, its like who let the gates open up.

So fulfilling my fantasies and meeting wonderful women is what its all bout for me.

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I for one use the hobby in lieu of a social life (at least most of the time). As a single parent holding down two jobs I rarely have the time, energy or patience for setup dates or the singles scene. I devote most of my time to my kids who are growing up without a mother and little other family to nurture them. Hobbying has been both good and bad for me; providing an escape like it does for everyone else, but also providing an excuse not to "move on".

My sentiments exactly!! Remember the song from South Pacific - "There is nothing like a dame".

Long divorced, older "nice guy" (kiss of death), loner type with trust issues, iso intimacy. Will pay by hour.

damn scamp you bring up a good point

because i can

Its about the sex. Sex with beautiful women!

That said, the best sex has been with my wives. Yeah, I’ve had a few. All long term. There is nothing here that I haven’t done with all of my wives...except that thing with the string of pearls....oh, where was I damn. Now I’m old and the ladies I find attractive don’t find me so. Most THINK I’m a dirty old man and they don’t even know me. If they did they would KNOW I’m a dirty old man...LOL. So I hobby. I’m single now but could still have all the sex I wanted, if I wasn’t so damn picky...just like the young ladies...

Unlike some here I look for a little more from an encounter that just sex. I want a little romance, without the string. No ‘to do list’ when I’m done. I want to be loved for an hour or two...then I want to go home...think about it...then move on. The best sex has cost me three houses. Now its maybe a car payment. I don’t have anymore houses. Don’t want anymore either. Just a little occasional romance....of course I would prefer to romance a Mazerati but a Ford will do.

For me it is just a fantasy and the fact the sex between me and my wife has just become routine, through what I "Think" is no fault of my own.  There are just things that I would like to do with these ladies that I can not get at home.  I love my wife and always will, but this is my ME time.

MC

I think i fall in the lines of a couple of individuals here as well. I'm young, recently married, successful, have an ok sex life at home but just feel there is something missing... "FUN" Fantasy.. excitment of the variety..Blondes.. bruennets.. redheads.. anything and everything all women..

Hec most of these providers make me feel good, mentally physically, emotionally, everything!!!. when comming out of a good session, i feel like im on top of the world..
LETS DO IT EVERY DAY !!!!!!

Tanmna

Being horny, dammit.  Lord love a duck, man, what're yer think we're goin' to all this trouble fer (to paraphrase P.G. Wodehouse)?  I just wanted to feel a girl and not have her scream, "Ewwww!!"  I wasn't getting laid in HS.  College same.  By 21, I gave up and started paying.  I found, in addition to being sad that I could not get women to do this for free, that on the other hand, I liked not having to spend twelve to twenty hours spread over several occasions finding out that I was "a real nice guy, but. . ."  So, I've tried to stay "glass-is-half-full" about the hobby.  Some things never change.  I was a short little stocky redneck with big ears when I was young;  now I'm a short little bald stocky redneck with big hairy ears, and stayed broke.

So, yeah, it is in lieu of a social life as someone else said.  I don't even have a good reason aside from convenience and horniness, like others do--I don't have kids, I'm not married, etc.  I just don't feel like bars--they're even more depressing than doing it this way, and more expensive long-term.  Personal ads?  Please.  Been down that road, and you've never been rejected until you can't even get a response to a personal ad.

Sure, it'd be nice to have someone at home, and I'd love to have children, but this is so deceptively easy in the short-term that it is hard to resist once you begin.  Plus, when you watch relationships implode, then you think, "Maybe staying home with a book sixty nights in a row and then getting laid on the sixty-first ISN'T so bad."

They don't have to be beautiful.  They have to be attractive.  They do have to be nice--just down to earth and friendly works on me like a charm.  And I've found that can be had reasonably.  After all, the whole point of this for me is not having to put up with snottiness.

I guess you touched a nerve I didn't realize was raw, since I've rambled for quite a while.  Interesting thread--I enjoyed reading everyone's posts.

Lue and bigd, this all sounded damn near like the story of my life.  Sounds like we have a lot of "company" around here, too.