Some time ago (say 4 -6 mos ago) a hobbyest posted his account of being out-and-about and saw a provider that he see's regularly.  He noted that he was ready to follow the Provider/Hobby rule and simply not speak and/or ignore one another.  The rule is.....if it ever-so-happens that a provider and hobbyest were to ever see each other in the real world they woudl simply keep-it-moving.  However, in this case they ended up speaking and as fate would have it she said if he had the time she was available to spend some time.  The hobbyest informed her that he was not in a position to transact business as they normally do and she replied that that was not necessary.  If he could simply cover the room then that would be enough as she was simply in the mood.  They proceded to a lovely afternoon/couple of hours of afternoon delight.  I called Bull-S@#% after I read this.

Well as it turns out I guess these kinds of things can happen.  While the above scenario did not happen to me with the exact same circumstances.....a somewhat similar situation did.

So I go see this provider for combo FBSM and GFE service.  During the set-up phase it was a bit frustrating as we kept missing each other and I got the sense that this was going to not end up good.  Long story short we end up finally meeting 3 days later.  She even accomodated me with an after hours (after her normal working hours) appointment.  I get to the location and her appearance is the type I like and consistent with the PICs...a good start.  Then as we chat and prepare for the FBSM portion of the session the vibe between us is increasing exponentially.  As we progress through the FBSM routine we realize we both want to cut this short on move on to the main event which commenced and ended with much passion.  After the post session shower and preparation to leave I suggest a real world rendezvous of her choosing (movie, dinner, etc).  She agrees but I take this only with a grain of salt as I've had this agreement countless times with other porviders only to after a couple days have reality set in and the agreement is never pursued and/or if I or her did follow-up on the agreement the energy that was there at first was not there for the real world arrangement and it never really progressed.

In this case, I get an email 4 days after the session asking when I was going to make another appointment as she really enjoyed the last.  At the time I was out of town on business and replied that we can pursue this when I get back.  When I did return I called and suggested we "go out" before the session.  She returns the call and eagerly agrees.  Long story short tonight will be our 3rd time "going out" before the session.  The other times were very enjoyable to include lots of sxy flirting, no drama, no expectations (as of yet and I dont anticipate any at this time.  I know there will never be none for me).  After our date, we get back to her place, we engage in our session, I leave the donation (she does not want to be compensated for the extra time), and I leave (one time sleeping over and getting up going to work from her place (yes, I keep a change of clothes and toiletrees in my car at all time as I travel alot).

So I guess the rare occurence does/can happen. Happy hobbying.

Wow, I can't believe what I am reading. Will you bring her home to meet your Mother?

Its never happen to me, but I guess You never know when it could happen.

but everything I have read on these boards indicate that such romantic dalliances emerging from an otherwise transactional encounter always end badly.  Word for the wise ...

they always *end* but they do not always end badly.....  depends on the players.

Still not the best thing to expect, hope for or pursue.

However if I found myself in the same situation again I would "take the plunge".....

If heard of encounters like what Tall mentioned gone bad, but I know from what other providers have said that it works out good too!

they r also people with real feelings and can get lonely. just a different line of work which, i may add, is actually more interesting than most of us do have.

1. It's "hobbyist" not "hobbyest"

2. I've been told by a provider I've seen regularly (thus the alias as I don't want to be seen as divulging info from a provider one could possibly figure out if they knew who I was) that many providers end up dating clients.  It's often the reason why certain providers "retire" -- then un-retire when they break up w/ the boyfriend.

If whatever is going on between you two is enjoyable, I think that is great.  I hope it continues.  But I'm not sure it's that rare or special.  My understanding of what you posted is that you are still paying for your sessions, you just don't pay for the "going out" part that occurs beforehand.  I guess there is some value in not having to pay for her company outside of the bedroom, but you're still paying for the most intimate access.  From her perspective, unless she is sacrificing appointments to "go out" with you, she's not really losing anything.  In fact,now she gets someone to take her out on his dime (I'm sure you're paying for most if not all of the "going out" events) and then pay for a session afterwards.  I would think that if she saw you as boyfriend material, she wouldn't ask you to pay, or accept you leaving her a donation.  To me, that is the really "rare occurrence" - when a provider and a client develop a relationship that does not involve the client paying for any aspect of the provider's company.  What you are describing is more along the lines of an extended session at a discount rate.

def happens but doesn't work long term, think about the many hobbyists entertained to get past bef bringing her home to meet mom. Have fun whil e it lasts

That makes sense to me; business is business (however mutually enjoyable), and it helps to minimize risk longer term.  Win win.  I could easily consider this.

"(I'm sure you're paying for most if not all of the "going out" events) and then pay for a session afterwards.  I would think that if she saw you as boyfriend material, she wouldn't ask you to pay"

Comprehension is not always in a book..
I have had similar circumstances with a couple of providers that we enjoyed each others company ..I pay for the session and we go out for fun..........IF she doesn't have another appointment after we were done..  Occasionally she insists on paying for the food or drink, but she always pays with the donation I gave her..lol
It doesn't confuse me..
Providers are as Human as anyone else running a business....and thats certainly a broad range of Humanity

-- Modified on 3/30/2010 7:09:50 AM

Man that sucks! I am in this for hot snatch and crazy PSE sex!!!! who needs a real GF?

I would agree.One time I went to see a provider who I see regularly, and she mentioned that she saw several weeks earlier at a store..She told me she wasn't sure if she should have approached me.  It never happened as I was headed in another direction.  But I told her that if saw me, to say hi if she feels comfortable.

I understand the written rule.  But I have also mentioned to her that I would like to see her "outside" of the session.  And we both continue to discuss it.  But made it clear that it was her decison, not mine, and I would respect that.  And whatever her decidon is, would not affect my seeing her.

I am glad that someone in the community has brought this up.