: Washington DC Discussion : Re: Spot on, except perhaps the term "Aggressive"

xdog 2 Reviews 970 reads

posted 13 years ago

1 / 16

After I have been with so many of the fine ladies in the DC area, there has been one common phrase – the aggressive woman – that provokes a supercharged emotional response from them. A surprising number of woman feel that if they take the inititive and let a client or a lover know what they want, they’re sure to be seen as threatening, unfeminine, aggressive, pushy, a turn—off..However the comments I have heard are:

“ Men need help. A lot of them are passive. (I) think most men would welcome sexually aggressive women. A women who’s uninhibited about taking charge of her own sexual pleasure-and his- whether by making the initial approach socially or being assertive in the sex act itself – is a boon to man not a threat.

Personally having been with women who know what they want when they are with and usually get it. Personally I like an aggressive woman. To me, I do not feel threatened and aggressiveness means self-assurance, action, a lack of passivity, a forward way of thinking and that is a definite plus. Where I think things get into trouble is when a woman tries to become the dominating figure in a relationship.

However sometimes I also feel the word “aggressive “ today is a catchword and it is sometimes hiding the basic fright of dealing with a woman who may be your equal.

Shared Opinions (male or female)are welcomed

XDOG

PS: My ATF made me post this

DupontGent 22 Reviews 637 reads

posted 13 years ago

2 / 16

Spot on, except perhaps the term "Aggressive"

I could not agree more with the point you made here.

I want to be with women who are sincerely engaged, confident, enjoying the activity and communicative about what they want. Call that aggressive if you want, but what I don't care for is passive and disengaged.

Thoughtful discourse - both here in the board and in the bedroom - is what I am looking for. Well done xdog!

DG

SerenaVincente See my TER Reviews 633 reads

posted 13 years ago

3 / 16

Simpmple= men with nats like comfident (agressive) women.....

no nats=no hot woman lol

SinCitySinner 67 Reviews 557 reads

posted 13 years ago

4 / 16

Aggressive is not to be confused with violent.

A girl who wants to and knows how to take the lead is a major turn on.

But at the same time, someone who is downright violent while making out, or giving blowjobs is not something that I desire.

As far as I am concerned there is a big difference between aggressive and violent.

SinCitySinner 67 Reviews 552 reads

posted 13 years ago

5 / 16

Did someone say "nats"....?

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joebunda90 12 Reviews 320 reads

posted 13 years ago

6 / 16

Amen brother...preach it! - e

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Dr Dave 7 Reviews 552 reads

posted 13 years ago

7 / 16

Agreed

Some of my best sessions have been with those confident "experienced" ladies who know what they want and aren't shy about letting me know. And the happier they are, the happier I am.

PS: My ATF made me post this

Nice post. Your ATF is a wise woman!

"Dr Dave

SinCitySinner 67 Reviews 332 reads

posted 13 years ago

8 / 16

LMAO...I don't allow knives in the bedroom..

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luxesboudoir 555 reads

posted 13 years ago

9 / 16

Re: Spot on, except perhaps the term "Aggressive"

Posted By: DupontGent

I could not agree more with the point you made here.

I want to be with women who are sincerely engaged, confident, enjoying the activity and communicative about what they want. Call that aggressive if you want, but what I don't care for is passive and disengaged.

Thoughtful discourse - both here in the board and in the bedroom - is what I am looking for. Well done xdog!

DG

+1! XD please thank your ATF for me. My sister and I were speaking about this just this weekend (as she is having a similar experience) so confirmation for her affirmation

. Have a beautiful week DC!

Sophialo2pl See my TER Reviews 571 reads

posted 13 years ago

10 / 16

Good to know...

Coming from a culture that can at times shame and undermine a woman's freedom of expression (especially when it comes to matters of sexuality) it is really pleasing to hear that there are men that appreciate women not only enjoying sex, but encourage her expressing what she likes and how she wants something done.

Thanks again, all. : )

isotoes2010 556 reads

posted 13 years ago

11 / 16

Is "assertive" a better word?

Perhaps a less violent connotation, but still suggesting a "take charge" mentality. I, too, would be a fan of someone who would lead and guide in a confident way. No knives or WMD to drive her point home. A little martial arts would be OK... less threatening. LOL

SinCitySinner 67 Reviews 604 reads

posted 13 years ago

12 / 16

Touché - That would be apropos.

I think a lot of girls, at the back of their mind, are probably thinking..."I'm not sure if my client will like this or not..." For those girls who are a little tentative in the beginning...It does get a better with subsequent appointments.

isotoes2010 592 reads

posted 13 years ago

13 / 16

Re: Touché - That would be apropos.

Assertive, suggestive, compelling, and of course... tenacious. All good words.

robsul2004 124 Reviews 474 reads

posted 13 years ago

14 / 16

I love EM too

Love a woman who is assertive and aggressive about getting pleasure and what she wants, enthusiastic and encouraging me to try something (unless its ending the session quickly)

Posted By: xdog

After I have been with so many of the fine ladies in the DC area, there has been one common phrase – the aggressive woman – that provokes a supercharged emotional response from them. A surprising number of woman feel that if they take the inititive and let a client or a lover know what they want, they’re sure to be seen as threatening, unfeminine, aggressive, pushy, a turn—off..However the comments I have heard are:

“ Men need help. A lot of them are passive. (I) think most men would welcome sexually aggressive women. A women who’s uninhibited about taking charge of her own sexual pleasure-and his- whether by making the initial approach socially or being assertive in the sex act itself – is a boon to man not a threat.

Personally having been with women who know what they want when they are with and usually get it. Personally I like an aggressive woman. To me, I do not feel threatened and aggressiveness means self-assurance, action, a lack of passivity, a forward way of thinking and that is a definite plus. Where I think things get into trouble is when a woman tries to become the dominating figure in a relationship.

However sometimes I also feel the word “aggressive “ today is a catchword and it is sometimes hiding the basic fright of dealing with a woman who may be your equal.

Shared Opinions (male or female)are welcomed

XDOG

PS: My ATF made me post this

LargeHamm 33 Reviews 259 reads

posted 13 years ago

15 / 16

Or Ice Picks ...

as in Basic Instinct with Sharon Stone.

That's why I prefer outcall to my hotel!

Guarddog111 259 Reviews 610 reads

posted 13 years ago

16 / 16

Strong desire might be a better word...maybe

I'm thinking of my ATF provider. She does this mood where we're kissing, then she'll put her arm around my waist with her hand on my back and pull me in towards her for a more sensual kiss/make-out session. That little move, to me, is super erotic. Its not aggressive, but conveys to me she likes me and wants to be with me. Whether orchestrated or not, its a good move.

Similarly, the cowgirl move is good, too. I understand for a lot of men its a control issue and they want to be on top, but as a guy - sometimes you want to let go and let somebody else do the work. I've heard many guys complain that a provider won't do cowgirl - and I think its because we want to be lazy sometimes and have somebody else do all the work...versus just lying on her back on the bed lying like a blow-up doll (and excuse the term), but a cum bucket. Better on top grinding away and enjoying herself or at least giving the illusion she's enjoying herself on top grinding away on your manhood.

Just my .02 cents on the topic

GD111