I do understand that providers do refuse certain potential clients based on bad vibes or whatever. I get that. I understand that. I have done it myself in my side work. With that said, can a provider(s) explain to me why it is  
"okay" for a provider (massage therapists, etc) to use blanket statements like something like "No AA" or " No Black (men)" or "No one over (or under) 45" or "HWP only" in their posts...especially (in the few cases) where the provider is the SAME race/age/body type as the clients they are refusing to see? I get they may have had bad experiences in the past, but is it fair or smart to cut themselves off from a larger group of potential clients over age and/or race and/or body type and not consider each request individually? It just seem like bad business, especially when the ultimate goal is to make profit (money)? Just asking it generally, not calling a specific provider out.

you need to start removing the "provider" term. use something like a tour guide, therapist, pet cuddler.

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But if they are uncomfortable what pleasure or enjoyment came be expected? This experience is very intimate. Just because it’s there chosen profession don’t you think it’s better to know before if they will be comfortable and make it a good experience for both? Or do you think all providers should see all horny men or get out of the business?

Beside money being the goal, they need to feel good to give there best. It’s there loss limiting the client base. And there are enough providers out there that finding ones without those limitations shouldn’t be a problem.  

It’s always painful being rejected. But it’s also painful having a lackluster experience from someone who feels uncomfortable and they can’t give there best. Just let it go and find someone that will make you happy.

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I just heard about this Congressional bill 90 minutes ago so forgive me for being behind. Let’s use the term therapist then (like for therapeutic workers who are rarely reviewed here), okay? The last response did make sense in that if a therapist chooses to limit his or her customer base because of racial and/or age and/or size issues, justified or not; that is on THEM. Their loss. I am a good customer and I try hard not to trash anyone in my reviews for I don’t want to screw with someone’s potential income. With that said, I am still brutally honest too. Call it like it is. Having been the therapist in the past (and future) too, it gives me more perspective on the giver’s side and that does affect how I write my reviews. Not everyone will care either way. So be it. I just wish the other therapists who are reviewed here will keep that in mind when seeking clients for sooner or later he or she will be the client. Karma can be a bitch....just saying.

Snake charmer?

Many times the problem you state is overcome through thoughtful caring and open discussion by emails. I like the other post, snake charmer.  

Being sweet charming charismatic can over come there inhibitions. But coming off argumentative about there choices isn’t going to get you anywhere.

Be sympathetic. Be understanding if you really want to see someone with limits. Assure them besides being a good person you will respect there choice.

One of my friends can do this best, he’s a silver tongued devil. His favorite thing is finding ladies who he can sweet talk and charm that are over taken by him and plays for free. I’m waiting for him to write his next book about this. Fortunately I know this to be true where he had talked them into meeting me. Just glad it was free, had so many experiences I could never manage to pay him back.

Best of luck, learn to be a snake charmer or silver tongued devil.

Oh no....I  meant " snake charmer" as in a moniker other than " provider". Although pet cuddler had a warm and fuzzy ring to it as well.🤣

What does or doesn’t make someone else uncomfortable.  I have age requirements. I choose to see someone older than me. You never know what someone has been through or what turns them on. Lots of 20 something’s contact me saying they always had crushes on their friends moms. I get it. But I’m no Mrs. Robinson. Why would you want us to see people who we don’t want to see?  

Hopes this gives you a different perspective.  

Eden Shay

It can be because of the fact that their community is a small one and it is possible that someone may recognize you. I know that certain asian's wont see their same nationality for fear that they may know each other or may know of someone that knows them. I have also heard the same from an African American. Certain younger ladies won't see men younger than xx due to the fear that maybe they may know each other from a certain network of friends or maybe even college. So by seeing people over a certain age, they decrease the probability of crossing paths in life or mutual friends. Many stay in areas that they may be comfortanle with which means paths can cross. It is a very small world, after all. Things are usually deeper than they seem.  Most ladies have a reason for certain restrictions and safety and anonymity are usually at the top of those reasons. Just as we want anonymity, so do the ladies. It isn't always about racism or money. Remember, people use fake names and numbers as hobbyists so certain ladies try to implement another layer of safety. And also remember that some ladies have so much demand, that they can pick and choose who they want to see based on their own comfortability with certain friends they have.

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Oh so ur trying to stay SESTA correct right hahaha