I haven't been hugely active in the hobby, but I've always been looking for a provider who is genuinely GFE, which to me means DFK and a more laid back atmosphere at the least.  What is the best way to ask if this is provided?  It's always been my understanding that when making contact not to discuss any details whatsoever.  If that's the case, it's kind of hard to find out anything.

If she doesn't have anything about what she likes/allows on her P411 or reviews or that info on her site .... don't.

be prepared to be ignored.  Sorry to be so blunt but
ladies who do what we do know that is a huge risk
when those 3 letters, any other acronyms, and  
donations are mentioned.

Thank you for your responses. What you guys have said makes absolute sense, but it's predicated on two factors: 1) Provider has legitimate reviews that can be easily found, and 2) A paid subscription to the website like TER, which IMHO costs a little more than it should.  

There is no certain way to ask anyone. Unless you want to be ignored and scare off certain providers. The only thing you can do is read her reviews, or TOFT and ask her in person. I certainly wouldn't risk asking her beforehand though.

just read her profile to see if the services you are looking for and read a few recent reviews to see how they are being delivered (or not).    

Thanks for asking this, I'm also new this in the States and not sure how to ask.

im GFE

back in Saigon in the 60s and early 70s,  "girlfriend experience" meant - no condom!

. . . I didn't get kicked out of door and my stuff didn't get thrown out the window.

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Simply asking if you're and/or provide GFE level services is not offensive, suggestive, or outside of Hobby protocol in any manner, IMHO.

Is was there then too, and I never once heard the term "GFE."  Also, I never used a condom and never had a problem.  Maybe I was just lucky, but I also was reasonably careful about whom I was with and stayed away from places with a large military presence.  In some ways, things were better then, but overall it's much better now, with the internet, range of choices, and much greater skill levels of our friends.

As I mentioned in the message I politely told the gent I could not see him. I have  
never "ignored" emails even if I feel they are suggestive in any way. Many ladies will
ignore emails...even one liners. I have not and would NEVER respond in an  
offensive manner to an gent.

Ask after you have been verified, alot of ladies are not comfortable disucssing details until you have been verified..  

TER boards can get "catty" like that and I don't need the drama/back-and-forth.  With that said, thank you for your polite and measured response.

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