Yes, aging sucks. But Missy More is a great lady!
My inability to finish during sex is only getting worse.
My latest attempt was my first overnight.
And no luck even after that extended amount of carnal pleasure.
She was a great woman. I got to the edge many many times.
I think a long break is the next thing to try
That sucks bro. I'm sorry to hear thus. You're my only friend on here. Maybe you just need to sit back and watch or be watched! I volunteer!
I am on Lexapro for my anxiety. The main side effect of this drug is delayed orgasm. I can go for 2 hours but still can't cross the finish line. I can only come with HJ. It still takes a long time and the girls' hands get tired. Most girls don't want to work too hard and I understand that. They also feel bad that I can't come and think it's their fault. It's very frustrating.
It is isn't it.
Stuck between a rock and hard place so to speak
I'm on Lexapro too....don't have the same symptoms though.
I'm another sharing your pain.
It's all about diet and exercise, it always has been, and it always will be. Our bodies are built to move. The benefits of cardio workouts are practically immeasurable. Your heart, circulatory and cardiovascular systems will get a boost. Those with stationary bikes should spin on them at least three times a week for thirty minutes. Walking at a good pace works well too. Adding nuts and berries to your diet is another health booster. Here is the skinny on pistachios, my favorite nut:
Pistachios have been shown to have a positive effect on men's sexual vitality. They contain compounds that have been demonstrated to improve vasodilatation of blood vessels in the body, improving blood flow to many organs, including the man's sexual organ.
Thank you.
I definitely need to eat more berries. I've heard that from a provider actually.
I can't eat tree nuts unfortunately.
And I need to get more exercise. I used to get a lot, but now I just keep pulling muscles.
Need to invest in a rowing machine for that cardio.
Couldn't agree more on exercise. And can I add that if you're over 40 or so, in addition to the cardio, a bit of strength training is equally important.
Doesn't have to be anything crazy. Just an easy program a few times a week with a little weight. Simple compound movements - squats, overhead presses, maybe a few others. It's life-changing.
Your issue is probably much more common than you think. its just that most guys do not admit to it publicly. I second the dietary and exercise advice others have given. You might try holding out for at least a week. I've also found that a serving of oysters can boost libido.
If you enjoy the sex, keep doing it and don't view the ejaculation as the goal. I have always been slow to come even going back to my twenties. That doesn't mean I don't enjoy having sex with beautiful gals and GFE escorts. After all, some gals enjoy sex without always coming every time. If you think that there is a chance that you won't come inside her pussy or mouth, let her know in advance and let her know that it isn't about anything that she is or isn't doing wrong.
The pluses are that I can stay hard for an hour, and mostly hard even after ejaculation with appropriate female attention and eye-candy. The minuses are making her feel that she hasn't did her job properly unless you reassure her, preferably in advance.
For the last few years I have been on prostate medication that causes retrograde ejaculation (ejaculating into the bladder instead of outward) in most men, including me. As a result, even when I come, there is no physical evidence for her to confirm. My urologist is evaluating me for a surgical alternative (basically an intense water-pik-like thing up the penis that obviates the need for medication after it is done and whatever healing is needed). If she gives the go-ahead, I will do it and I am looking forward to ejaculating inside my intimate partners, at least some of the time.
I would not mess with that procedure . Why risk complications which will worsen things for you ?
If you reach orgasm, who cares about ejaculation [ unless you want to breed] ?
Anyways, you should be using condoms, so nobody will know or care about where your jizz flies !
wow, I had no idea that the problem was so pervasive. No one mentions their age. I'm 76 and lucky enough to still be operational. But it requires a women who knows what they are doing and really enjoys it. No easy task. By example Missy Moore is a mature provider who knows what it takes. Highly recommended. There are others out there Sienna York comes to mind. Also, I suggest porn during the session. I have found that you have to take more time (2 hr) and be willing to pay for results. As well the Dayuse option is attractive. It comes at a cost, but with the right women it's like a date: you can take your time, and not watch the clock. You also have to click with the women. Getting old is not for the weak of heart!
Yes, aging sucks. But Missy More is a great lady!
Early 50s. Started to have similar issue , exacerbated by depression meds. I have to plan ahead - exercise, no fatty food, hydrate, no sex for a week, stop meds 2 days prior. Hope you find a routine that works for you!
"Lexapro sexual side effects may include: A decreased sex drive, Ejaculation problems, Impotence (also known as erectile dysfunction or ED), Decreased sexual satisfaction, Orgasm problems."
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No porn or selfie Hand Js.
That way your only release is with a gal.
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While I was still a teen I figured out that if I was having difficulty nutting, if I held my breath to the point it was uncomfortable it would result in an O. Sometimes needed to do it twice. And it is uncomfortable, but totally worth it! I'm hoping this reply is OBE because you already found a solution.
It's probably the same physiological phenonium that's behind sexual asphyxiation, but I discovered my technique decades before I heard of that. (I actually only heard of SA about 6 or 7 years ago. I need to get out more.) But here, I'm talking about simply holding my breath, no external aids involved.
I'm not where you are yet, but there are other symptoms I've got, chiefly a longer latency period (the time between orgasm and achieving another *functional* erection). It's amazing, when young that could be as little as a minute. Now, I measure it in hours, usually days. What a rotten shame!
Interesting. Thx for sharing! I've discovered something like that from the opposite angle, by accident.
In sports, breath control is important -- in through the nose, out through the mouth. Speed up breathing to anticipate extra muscle use. So that's what I do naturally when having more athletic sex...and found that it works great for my muscles, but does the exact opposite for the middle leg. My theory is that when you train yourself for physical work, your body sends resources to the muscles that need it. The 3rd leg isn't exactly important in this case so it's either a physical response or a mental correlation, like Pavlov's dogs or whatever.
Anywho, I found that as I was getting close I could not do 'athletic breathing'. I have to breathe normally or slightly slower. If I still can't fire the rocket, I hold my breath and make a final push. But, if I can't hold it as long as required and take a deep breath, sometimes I have to start all over. It has made me wonder if I'll eventually need SA, but it really hasn't changed over time.
What I left out, but hope is assumed, is that I use the technique only when I'm close to nutting, but can't get there. It's not like I can be miles away form an O and just hold my breath, although sometimes I've been pretty far away and used it to speed the process up. Like anything, I guess, there are exceptions. And again, it's not going to work, for me anyway, until holding my breath is pretty uncomfortable, which means I'm low on oxygen, just like SA.
I've never hear of somebody *needing* SA, however, it makes sense that there may be guys out there who actually can't cum without it. After all, it took me forever to even find out about SA. The dangers, though. I only found out about it because of the musician (can't remember his name) was found dead and it was assumed SA was the cause. Since then, I've seen probably a dozen cases reported.
All that matters is the pleasure...If you find it all pleasurable,that is all that matters