Okay, so everyone is different but what are your feelings on suggestions or feedback during a session. I bet youre just as interested to learn what I like to hear as I am in what you like.

I mean suggestions as in signals, verbal and body language. Do you tune in or do you like to follow direction and I mean that in the sexiest way and not instructions. You can get directions and instructions at home!

Megan Deville

If I'm doing something right, please let me know so I'll keep doing it. If I'm doing something that isn't working, let me know and we'll try something else.
Most guys do what the ladies tell us.

Morning gorgeous!

Tuned in to the max Megan, ALWAYS!  There are two that are oral-related that I find to be the most important.  

The first is simply "harder or softer" while going down on her, having to ask is always a buzz-kill because I know most women are concentrating on cumming and are not really looking for verbal communication at that time.  Some women require a very, very gentle digital touch in there, some like it more vigorous and some are somewhere in between.  I am hyper-aware of your reactions during this time so that I know what you enjoy, especially on a first date.  After that, I KNOW how you want "your spot" stimulated.  Have only gotten this wrong once in all my years, and MORE than made up for it on our second date going down on her for what must have been 45 minutes and....I just don't know how hotel security wasn't called with the noise she was making as her O's repeated....

The 2nd is sensitivity after you have cum, and this one is always more obvious.  Some women need a break down there after the orgasm because it is too sensitive, some want you to continue and to give them the "aftershock" orgasms that immediately follow.  Again, this one is always pretty obvious as to which way she wants to go with things.

Also....

I can easily spend 90% of a date on foreplay, Megan, it is just what gets me off.  While women always enjoy the intimacy,  a few have eventually climbed on top and started grinding in a message of "I am REALLY ready to be fucked now" message to me.  And that is always more than fine.

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Good morning!

Feedback is wonderful.  For me, roughly half the session is about pleasing you.  I can readily pick up on nonverbal cues, like pulling me closer, spreading your labia, holding my head, wrapping your legs around me while picking up the pace.  The nonverbal sounds emanating from deep within you tell me that I'm doing something right.  

Additionally, I'm open to suggestion.  Ideally, that suggestion is a refinement, such as "Put your finger in me, now!" and not something substantial and deflating, like "That's not right,"  followed by a lecture.    I'd like to think that I am skilled enough and experienced enough that I will largely be on target, but cues from you may help me hit the exact center of the bullseye and not just near the center.   The best feedback is something like "Don't stop!" or "More!"

Some people are great matches from the beginning.  With others, there may be a bit of a learning curve, but once you ascend it, the results are phenomenal.   So, getting a little guidance to improve the lovemaking session is often a good thing.  Sometimes it's a very good thing.

Ultimately, feedback is essential.  Much of my satisfaction on multiple levels derives from your responsiveness.  If I received no feedback from my partner, it would be totally impersonal and unsatisfying.  The other extreme is urging each other on to higher and higher levels of passion and ecstasy.  Now that's what I'm talkin' about!   :

because  I dont know her level of "willingness" on that day. So all my effort could be for naught.

I usually let her take the lead.

would be totally welcome.  I don't think of it as the other person "making demands." I think of it as connecting better and more closely. I want what I am doing to be good/right/helpful/fun.

Thanks for your response  
MD

And that's what I am talking about as well!! MD

It would really depend on what you are in it for. Some like to build on the experience, hence each visit reaches  a new and higher level of pleasure and intimacy. If you are not into that, then I suppose the. "  hit it and quit it"  scenario works just fine
MD

That is my thinking as well. MD

politeness.  By responsiveness, I mean addressing each poster individually.  I'm sure you are responsive in additional ways.  

Your manners are impressive and much appreciated.  Oh, they're a turn-on too.  

When I am with a provider, chances are we don't really know eachother very well and time is limited, so getting in tune with her signals can be difficult.  In general I am of the opinion that more literal guidance and feedback is best.  If verbal, doing it with dirty talk is my favorite.  Maybe I watch too much porn, but is find it extremely sexy when a woman asks me to do things to her in a sexy and dirty way, and then gets off. This is pretty much guaranteed to get me off too and often simultaneously which is obviously great.  

obviously sex in totality is more than just those two options. The many reasons for partaking from a hobbyist's perspective is, I believe, not generally mutually shared by provider.    btw, the "hit it..."scenario you describe may be inevitable for me (I have thought about it) but is antithetical to my intentions at the moment.   -- Modified on 5/5/2013 9:16:09 PM

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I really want to know. Verbal & body language adds to the experience.....it is a real turn on.

Every woman is different. What you  like might be very different than others.
Women are always gonna be mysterious. nothing wrong with that.. But a little help now and then  enhances the experience.