I invited two providers to my place on Saturday for an outcall session. There was a very expensive item on that has gone missing since they came to my place. I have looked everywhere for this item and I can't find it. I saw the item laying in plain sight on Friday night and nobody has been to my house except these two ladies. I don't want to make any accusation but there is no way an item will just disappear without someone taking it. How do I proceed? I feel angry and violated.

1) check again and be REALLY sure
2) get in touch with the two providers. be kind. ask if either mistook it as being part of the donation and offer to let them return it without consequence or question.
3) if you are sure and your response from the providers is unsatisfactory, consider writing a review that includes the problem. if that is impractical, consider outing the duo on the local board or the RO board. but you have to consider that if they have been to your house, they know you and could make life very miserable for you. if you are vulnerable to that kind of pressure then there is very little you can do except vow: "never again".

You hit the nail on the head with the 3rd part. They know where I live and they Know I have a lot to lose. Although I hobby, I'm happily married to the love of my life. And they know I can't afford to make a fuss. The sad part is that it's my wife's engagement ring that's missing. Although I have it insured, no amount of money can replace that ring because it means a lot to her and to me. This is the first time I feel I truly betrayed her. If I put them on blast, they'll make things very difficult for me.

I was once threatened with blackmail but I was in then in a position to say: "Make my day".

Perhaps you shouldn't do any more outcalls. It's not a good idea for anyone who has an SO to do outcalls.

1. your betrothed is the love of your life
2. you had 2 totally unknown escorts come to the home of the love of your life on an outcall.
3. WTF Dude
4. I have been married 30 years, and we hate each other most of the time, but I would never had done an outcall to my residence, no matter how far out of town she was. And I've dome more stupid and ballsey things in my hobby career.
5. Sorry, had to vent, hope you have good insurance, guess you'll have to claim 'mysterious disappearance' on insurance claim.
6. Sorry to be so harsh, but again, wtf--if I have wrong assumptions here, please advise.
7. Happy (and safe) hobbying to you and all.

Can't disagree with anything you said. This may be my last hobby experience. I was home alone and made a terrible judgement call. It puts things in perspective for me.

This could be the sign you needed. Not passing judgement, but you cheated on the girl you named the love of your life in her home.

Contact the providers and offer a reward that is in excess of the ring's value.  If they have it they may go for it.

What man leaves something so valuable in plain sight the way you did? You claim you noticed it laying in plain sight. Yet you left it there? Non of this rings true or makes sense to me. I think this is BS.

. . . better than a hunch before calling someone a liar?

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I am sorry this happened to you. What a violation if it definitely did happen. Look everywhere AGAIN, top to bottom. And yes reach out to both ladies and ask them if they noticed the missing item. Problem is you had two people over at your house. So IF one of them DID take it, the other probably has no idea of this.  

Why would I make this up? I've been a TER member since 2010 and hardly post on here. I enjoy reading the posts and discussions but I hardly ever post. So to question my integrity is uncalled for.  

At the risk of stating the obvious, did you check the drains in the kitchen sink?
Hope and pray to St. Anthony!

2 whores to Your Home?  You got what you deserve & should back away ... obviously, you can't handle the hobby.  Grow up!

Simple comprehension will do you some good. Read my posts again be for you spew your stupidity. What's done is done I made a mistake and own up to it so get off you soapbox and move along if you don't have anything to contribute.

she was a racquet sports and fitness freak. she'd regularly leave her rings and other bling on the counter when getting her water bottle before going out to run or play tennis

These girls now have just as much to lose that you. They face felony possible grand theft charges if they get caught trying to sell them. Remember that diamond rings have serial numbers etched on to them.  

You've always posted stupid shit and this is another one.  Just STFU and keep your fucking judgements to yourself.

if I were the girls I'd give him proof that I'm innocent by coming forward and stating innocence.

Don't worry karma is a bitch! When you really think about it, they will get exactly what they deserve and trust it's not going to be much. When your wife starts making a fuss about it, be there for her and act really concerned, get her the new one (after all diamonds are a girls best friend), and then take her on a romantic getaway showing her how much you really cherish your relationship! I know your wife is way more important than outing two low life thieves, and risking them breaking up your marraige! xoxo

Toddlers have a habit of grabbing tiny things and hiding them. My daughter hid my wife's ring and we didn't find it until weeks after an insurance claim... Found via a thorough cleaning. I'd suggest triple checking every nook and cranny, including in toys... Also don't put any garbage out for collection until you check it...

Seriously? If it goes to the point of naming names is the "I didn't do it." claim going anywhere?

While you say you've looked everywhere -- any chance you didn't check the sink drain? Use your hand and not the garbage disposal switch.

One ting comes to mind that hasn't yet been mentioned -- and may not be possible.

I will definitely view this as a cautionary tale.

Simply 'outting' the accused, remember one fact of life.  
The ladies know exactly where you live and that knowledge might create terrible consequences for you and your family if they are exposed.