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Flava-Papa-McGreedy 1092 reads
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You hit the nail on the head with the 3rd part. They know where I live and they Know I have a lot to lose. Although I hobby, I'm happily married to the love of my life. And they know I can't afford to make a fuss. The sad part is that it's my wife's engagement ring that's missing. Although I have it insured, no amount of money can replace that ring because it means a lot to her and to me. This is the first time I feel I truly betrayed her. If I put them on blast, they'll make things very difficult for me.

Flava-Papa-McGreedy1887 reads

I invited two providers to my place on Saturday for an outcall session. There was a very expensive item on that has gone missing since they came to my place. I have looked everywhere for this item and I can't find it. I saw the item laying in plain sight on Friday night and nobody has been to my house except these two ladies. I don't want to make any accusation but there is no way an item will just disappear without someone taking it. How do I proceed? I feel angry and violated.

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Claudius423101246 reads

1) check again and be REALLY sure
2) get in touch with the two providers. be kind. ask if either mistook it as being part of the donation and offer to let them return it without consequence or question.
3) if you are sure and your response from the providers is unsatisfactory, consider writing a review that includes the problem. if that is impractical, consider outing the duo on the local board or the RO board. but you have to consider that if they have been to your house, they know you and could make life very miserable for you. if you are vulnerable to that kind of pressure then there is very little you can do except vow: "never again".

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Flava-Papa-McGreedy1093 reads

You hit the nail on the head with the 3rd part. They know where I live and they Know I have a lot to lose. Although I hobby, I'm happily married to the love of my life. And they know I can't afford to make a fuss. The sad part is that it's my wife's engagement ring that's missing. Although I have it insured, no amount of money can replace that ring because it means a lot to her and to me. This is the first time I feel I truly betrayed her. If I put them on blast, they'll make things very difficult for me.

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Claudius42310906 reads

I was once threatened with blackmail but I was in then in a position to say: "Make my day".

Even though you are posting as an alias I think you might be PMable still. I'm curious who these predators might be so feel free to PM me. Otherwise folks could PM you and ask for details privately.

Naturally, you have to weigh the possibility that your duo might figure it out....

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!!!!!840 reads

Perhaps you shouldn't do any more outcalls. It's not a good idea for anyone who has an SO to do outcalls.

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Spartacus321031 reads

1. your betrothed is the love of your life
2. you had 2 totally unknown escorts come to the home of the love of your life on an outcall.
3. WTF Dude
4. I have been married 30 years, and we hate each other most of the time, but I would never had done an outcall to my residence, no matter how far out of town she was. And I've dome more stupid and ballsey things in my hobby career.
5. Sorry, had to vent, hope you have good insurance, guess you'll have to claim 'mysterious disappearance' on insurance claim.
6. Sorry to be so harsh, but again, wtf--if I have wrong assumptions here, please advise.
7. Happy (and safe) hobbying to you and all.

Posted By: Flava-Papa-McGreedy
You hit the nail on the head with the 3rd part. They know where I live and they Know I have a lot to lose. Although I hobby, I'm happily married to the love of my life. And they know I can't afford to make a fuss. The sad part is that it's my wife's engagement ring that's missing. Although I have it insured, no amount of money can replace that ring because it means a lot to her and to me. This is the first time I feel I truly betrayed her. If I put them on blast, they'll make things very difficult for me.

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Flava-Papa-McGreedy1037 reads

Can't disagree with anything you said. This may be my last hobby experience. I was home alone and made a terrible judgement call. It puts things in perspective for me.

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guelloq1040 reads

Contact the providers and offer a reward that is in excess of the ring's value.  If they have it they may go for it.

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Sidney Starr805 reads

Posted By: Flava-Papa-McGreedy
You hit the nail on the head with the 3rd part. They know where I live and they Know I have a lot to lose. Although I hobby, I'm happily married to the love of my life. And they know I can't afford to make a fuss. The sad part is that it's my wife's engagement ring that's missing. Although I have it insured, no amount of money can replace that ring because it means a lot to her and to me. This is the first time I feel I truly betrayed her. If I put them on blast, they'll make things very difficult for me.
 
OMG!! I just read this! I am so sorry! That is just awful

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BadMotherfucker888 reads

These girls now have just as much to lose that you. They face felony possible grand theft charges if they get caught trying to sell them. Remember that diamond rings have serial numbers etched on to them.  

You are gonna have to report it stolen anyway if you want to get reimbursement from insurance.  

Get a new ring with that money,  something better.  and don't do out calls.

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egeisha96891 reads

Don't worry karma is a bitch! When you really think about it, they will get exactly what they deserve and trust it's not going to be much. When your wife starts making a fuss about it, be there for her and act really concerned, get her the new one (after all diamonds are a girls best friend), and then take her on a romantic getaway showing her how much you really cherish your relationship! I know your wife is way more important than outing two low life thieves, and risking them breaking up your marraige! xoxo

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RG3sLeftLeg1011 reads

This could be the sign you needed. Not passing judgement, but you cheated on the girl you named the love of your life in her home.

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Dreamcatcher902 reads

What man leaves something so valuable in plain sight the way you did? You claim you noticed it laying in plain sight. Yet you left it there? Non of this rings true or makes sense to me. I think this is BS.

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!!!!!805 reads

. . . better than a hunch before calling someone a liar?

-- Modified on 4/8/2014 11:45:03 AM

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Flava-Papa-McGreedy998 reads

Why would I make this up? I've been a TER member since 2010 and hardly post on here. I enjoy reading the posts and discussions but I hardly ever post. So to question my integrity is uncalled for.  

As to you question of why my SO left the ring at home, she doesn't wear the engagement ring everywhere she goes because it draws a lot of attention. She is scared of getting mugged because of the attention it generates. So there are times when she only wears her wedding band. She happened to leave it on the kitchen counter, where she leaves it every time, and it goes missing. There are only 3 people who live in the house. Me, her, and our toddler - except if my toddler took it and went on a trip to Vegas with the e-trade baby, nobody else could have taken it. I was the only one at home on Saturday.

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davidfromdc848 reads

At the risk of stating the obvious, did you check the drains in the kitchen sink?
Hope and pray to St. Anthony!

 
"...She happened to leave it on the kitchen counter, where she leaves it every time..."

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JustLayingLow850 reads

2 whores to Your Home?  You got what you deserve & should back away ... obviously, you can't handle the hobby.  Grow up!

Posted By: Flava-Papa-McGreedy
Why would I make this up? I've been a TER member since 2010 and hardly post on here. I enjoy reading the posts and discussions but I hardly ever post. So to question my integrity is uncalled for.  
   
 As to you question of why my SO left the ring at home, she doesn't wear the engagement ring everywhere she goes because it draws a lot of attention. She is scared of getting mugged because of the attention it generates. So there are times when she only wears her wedding band. She happened to leave it on the kitchen counter, where she leaves it every time, and it goes missing. There are only 3 people who live in the house. Me, her, and our toddler - except if my toddler took it and went on a trip to Vegas with the e-trade baby, nobody else could have taken it. I was the only one at home on Saturday.

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Flava-Papa-McGreedy917 reads

Simple comprehension will do you some good. Read my posts again be for you spew your stupidity. What's done is done I made a mistake and own up to it so get off you soapbox and move along if you don't have anything to contribute.

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BadMotherfucker807 reads

You've always posted stupid shit and this is another one.  Just STFU and keep your fucking judgements to yourself.

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mikeh05787 reads

Toddlers have a habit of grabbing tiny things and hiding them. My daughter hid my wife's ring and we didn't find it until weeks after an insurance claim... Found via a thorough cleaning. I'd suggest triple checking every nook and cranny, including in toys... Also don't put any garbage out for collection until you check it...

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Jensen36363700 reads

While you say you've looked everywhere -- any chance you didn't check the sink drain? Use your hand and not the garbage disposal switch.

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Claudius42310922 reads

she was a racquet sports and fitness freak. she'd regularly leave her rings and other bling on the counter when getting her water bottle before going out to run or play tennis

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Sidney Starr1076 reads

I am sorry this happened to you. What a violation if it definitely did happen. Look everywhere AGAIN, top to bottom. And yes reach out to both ladies and ask them if they noticed the missing item. Problem is you had two people over at your house. So IF one of them DID take it, the other probably has no idea of this.  

 But the other problem is, there is NO proof. So unless someone fesses up or you have video evidence (you don't), who knows what the truth is? If you say you definitely saw the item where it was and then didn't after the ladies left, I am sure you feel you know the truth. I am not discrediting you at all. It's just tricky because something went missing and it's not likely that the two women both stole it. So you don't want to accuse an innocent person.  

 Very difficult and unfortunate.

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BadMotherfucker825 reads

if I were the girls I'd give him proof that I'm innocent by coming forward and stating innocence.

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Jensen36363787 reads

Seriously? If it goes to the point of naming names is the "I didn't do it." claim going anywhere?

At best I would guess this would get no father than a he-said-she-said situation.

The lesson, I think, is don't bring your hobby home unless you really know the provider.

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Jensen36363808 reads

One ting comes to mind that hasn't yet been mentioned -- and may not be possible.

If the ladies are local to you and tend not to tour and if the ring was tagged I would make the rounds to various pawn shops and provide the identification information and let them know you want to buy any ring matching the description and would appreciate a description of the seller -- the last might be problematic and drop it if you're interest is just getting the ring.

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junglegym25819 reads

I will definitely view this as a cautionary tale.

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prince-of-tides924 reads

Simply 'outting' the accused, remember one fact of life.  
The ladies know exactly where you live and that knowledge might create terrible consequences for you and your family if they are exposed.  

An alternative possibility is to let the ladies know there is a substantial reward for the ring!
If they haven't pawned it already you might get lucky and get it back with a substantial payment to the ladies for its safe return.

I'm empathetic my friend!
Good luck.

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